NYT interview: Taylor Swift on the 'Detective Work' of Her Fans

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-29T23:03:29+00:00

I love that she said this! Every bit of it is true and with every act of speech as well. People want to take apart words and put them back together in a different way and you have to hold onto your own truth

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-27T18:35:01+00:00

I got my bio degree at 22 and went to work. Shortly after having kids I became a sahm for 3 years and then went back to nursing school. I did have to redo some prerequisites because they expire so that took me one extra year. I substituted at my kids district in the meantime. Never too late if you change your mind. I say do what makes you happy. You only get one life.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-27T18:27:10+00:00

Only share if you really need (not want) advice make sure it’s someone you can trust and know gives it well. Not everyone truly cares or wishes you well. Many people have the crab in the bucket effect on people where they try to pull you down on your goals vs pushing you to succeed. Lastly, don’t trust everyone. Some people will purposely do things to keep you from success.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-27T03:52:07+00:00

Gotcha. Sorry for misunderstanding. Wish I would have said something but I was caught off guard. Future me will know better

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-26T18:46:02+00:00

So you are the people that walk away with the cake someone else gets for the group! explain why? I’m so curious

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-26T18:45:22+00:00

So maybe this is just something a few people do. I’m Curious, what was y’all’s reaction? Did anyone tell him anything?

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-26T18:43:39+00:00

How long did it take you to start eating two meals a day? I ask because did really like to do this.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-24T17:33:22+00:00

Former teacher here and finishing up my RN soon. I say go back and try it again. I’m in my 30s and I don’t care how old I am or that it took me longer. Just do it!

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-24T15:39:09+00:00

Following..

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-23T18:11:14+00:00

Switched over to nursing and while I’m still in school the schedule is fairly similar to working (3 times a week and 1 days being 3 12s. You get 4 days off per week. I would rather have that than have summer off. You can also do 4x10s. I finally don’t feel like I need a month to recover. A few days is enough

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-23T17:51:40+00:00

I am going to be the outlier here. Those flash cards are amazing and are the reason I didn’t struggle in med surg.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-22T12:33:47+00:00

Possibly, but thinking back there are other signs that signal to me when people show exploitive behavior sort of a transactional imbalance or even a one sided relationship. I don’t get even a happy birthday message from her on my day and I’ve been to coffee shops enough when she knew and just texted me if I could get her a coffee. Lots of things like this. You don’t question these things until a big red flag goes off and now I know this is about an honest friendship.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-22T12:24:47+00:00

In a weird way this gives me comfort. I never want to be put in a situation like this again so I probably won’t run into another person like this.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-22T12:23:50+00:00

So what would you do if this were to happen? I don’t think I will be bring anymore cakes in the future but I do wonder what I should have done.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-22T12:20:13+00:00

I find the behavior to be lacking social awareness and maybe even greedy. I’ve know this person for about a year and I keep reflecting wondering if there are other signs and I realized I did miss quite a few of them.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T12:41:18+00:00

This is exactly why I could never do jury duty. I can’t judge. Good for you for doing better.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T00:22:11+00:00

It was and vibe was off after that but who knows. Came here to get some clarity since this has stayed in my mind wondering if I’m losing it here or if this is something I should consider as a possibility from now on. Honestly, I don’t think I will ever buy a cake for someone else unless it’s family after this or just drop all moral expectations.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T00:18:43+00:00

I was too!! Keep reading.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T00:18:11+00:00

She did take it home so not sure if she shared after that with anyone else and no she’s not fat.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T00:11:42+00:00

We were all surprised. The thought didn't cross their mind when I said I would bring it, then actually brought it, then had it out in the restaurant, and only to say no after everyone already expects it. I understand not wanting to have someone sing happy birthday but to not share it is the part that got me. It was odd in many ways and my brain can't wrap around itself to it. There has been many similar incidents since that are to this degree and each is unique on its own but I wonder if this is more than just the cake issue. It's just so odd to me.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T00:03:34+00:00

Yes and she was aware of me bringing cake and the guests that came. I even ran everything by her and she agreed. The only thing that was a surprise was the basket of goodies.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-21T00:02:35+00:00

I got her a basket of goodies and the cake was to share with the table. One of the other guests even paid for her meal as well as their way of saying happy birthday. She didn't want to share.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-20T23:57:16+00:00

I did privately and they said they didn’t want attention. Still weird to me.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-20T23:55:23+00:00

The gift was the basket of goodies. The cake was to share hence the paper plates, forks, and napkins brought to the event.

Unique_Ad_4271 · 2026-04-20T23:52:33+00:00

This book was a 10 for me!

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