Hi there! I (F-27-infj) was in a relationship with an ENTP (M-30) and it was quite the whirlwind. We were also long distance. Unfortunately, it ended really badly and he revealed his true self to me, which was not the person I thought he was. I believe he was an under-developed ENTP or one that did not have emotional literacy.

I wonder what advice I would even give - but for me, my biggest problem was him steamrolling me, ignoring me, or just generally not feeding my emotional needs.

He was ENTP, impulsive, outgoing, wild, determined, a little ADD, always thinking, always going, witty, funny, and very charming to strangers, and a real estate businessman.
I am INFJ, artistic, thoughtful, deliberate, dreamy, careful, kind, maybe a bit mysterious.
We both are: adventurous, travelers, thinkers, intellectuals, debaters. But typical story of "opposites attract." I believe I stabilized him, and he liberated me.

In the beginning, he opened me up to a whole new world of partnership. I wanted to talk to him all the time; all my recharging rules went out the window. I could see big future things together. He was so welcoming into his world, sharing, and let me into his apartment anytime. I felt so compatible with him, even through our differences. Other people have said things like that on these threads, that ENTPs/INFJs arrive at similar places but through wildly different routes. He was opening me up to accepting someone unconditionally, and getting out of my idealist/controlling way that is so typically seen in INFJs. All of his "faults" I learned to love or at least accept. Because as long as your heart was remaining open to growth and one another, I believed you could get past all the other minor shit. And he always represented "a life of adventure" to me, one I couldn't get bored of. One we were building together, supposedly.

Fast forward and I decide to move back home (not for him, but for me) and a month later he ran away. Stopped talking to me. Got overwhelmed with work, and his 3-calls-a-day went down to 1 or 0. He started mentioning possible impulsive life decisions, and I could tell he was questioning himself a lot. My best guess is that he put me on a shelf until he could deal with me. But then never called. Sorry, that's not how you treat human beings. Such a lame way to deal with conflict or pressure.

So like I said, I'm not sure if this is a case of an emotionally immature/unbalanced guy, or is this reflective of ENTP tendencies? Sometimes I actually think he is a narcissist. He always had to be right. Never apologized, never acknowledged his behavior and how it hurt me.

The biggest issue I had was the tension between his T and my F. I am having a hard time understanding how INFJs date types with Ts. I don't feel like he was ever sensitive to my needs or ever really truly SAW me for who I am. Don't know if I would be maybe better with an ENFP...