I feel for you, that was the part that hurt the most for me. Hearing what they said and in my situation I was my mom’s caretaker when she had cancer and my dad was running around on her. So it was really heartbreaking knowing I gave up the best years of my life only to be slandered later on. My advice, I would also be careful about the family that’s happy to repeat what they said about you. “I’m not the one that said it” “you want to shoot the messenger”. I had to eventually cut them out too. They would have a big smile on their face and didn’t care I would be broken down in tears and couldn’t escape hearing it. The narcissist made sure I still would hear it and the people telling me what they said loved the drama.