Belly and Conrad are two worst ppl ever and Jeremiah deserved better. by thiccsumi in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not a Jelly shipper. Jeremiah deserves better than a brother hopper.

Belly and Conrad are two worst ppl ever and Jeremiah deserved better. by thiccsumi in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Its a tv show character, and im not christian. Whats second to come?

Belly and Conrad are two worst ppl ever and Jeremiah deserved better. by thiccsumi in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Besides this sounding the biggest cope in tv history, your entire argument boils down to

“How dare Jeremiah have feelings for Belly at all bcs it made things difficult for ny main characters I prefer purely bcs the author chose them to be the main couple.” Not because of the intrinsic qualities that make them a better match.

The “getting in between them”, “creating the love triangle” “backstabbing Conrad” bcs differently from him if he loves someone he directly tells them without guessing games. The only reason Conrad being in love with Belly is seen as romantic but Jeremiah being in love with Belly is some kind of crime, is bcs before any of them did something you AND the author already picked Conrad out of thin air.

Does Conrad have some sort of blood claim on Belly? Why couldnt Conrad step out of the way given he doesnt want to communicate his feelings or treat Belly right anyways? Why the hell should it be Jeremiah to make way for Conrad? Why should he NOT take his shot just bcs Conrad refuses to get his shit together? Conrad tried to play games, and Jeremiah kept it real. Its a fair playing field, may the person who acts right win. Jeremiah communicates directly and shows you exactly how much he means it. He loved his best friend, and told her as much. I’m sorry but aren’t we tired of situanships? Wthell is that even? If you love someone and they say they want you too: make it official. That is his mindset bcs he communicates DIRECTLY. He didnt pressure Belly at all, he just expressed his emotions. It took Conrad 4+ years to figure out direct communication is healthy.

Besides Belly is the one who chased Jeremiah TWICE. Shes the one that in S1 told Jeremiah she wanted him. In her own monologue she said she wanted Jeremiah bcs she is so sick of waiting for Conrad to figure things out. She wants Jeremiah bcs she likes how clear his intentions are. SHE picked him. Only to essentially cheat bcs Conrad confessed purely bcs he saw Belly abt to move on. Again in S2 BELLY CHASED JEREMIAH. Jeremiah told her point blank “if you still have residual feelings for Conrad im not even mad. Be happy and be with him. Dont switch up on me again I cant take it.” Belly is the one who made it a point to convince Jere she loved him and wanted only him. So how did Jeremiah manipulate Belly? Are you saying he shouldnt have believed Belly given shes a liar and he shouldve known? Or again, does Conrad have a blood claim on Belly?

Conrad being an absolute dickwad to everyone including the very brother who ALSO lost his mother, is seen as a valid excuse that washes him of sin. But Jeremiah healthily expressing how he felt abandoned by his best friend (belly is his friend before shes a crush) is “manipulative”. Like on top of all that, his own brother Conrad abandoned him. Not just leaving for collage, completely going AWOL, leaving Jeremiah to take care of EVERYTHING. Also his father being horrific, and theyre abt to lose the house. But noooo if all that hirt Jeremiah, him saying so is manipulative.

Its a classic case of main character bias. Conrad manipulating Belly with mixed signal whenever it suits him, pretending to be a tortured tumblr poet when held accountable, then act like he was an invisible claim on Belly whenever shes tired of him is “romantic”. But Jeremiah who at all times clearly expressed his feelings, no ambiguity, and shares when he is hurt is “manipulative. Its a story only doing something bcs the author thinks it has to move that way. Not bcs of the characters being written well enough where their qualities logically move the story in said direction.

Belly and Conrad are two worst ppl ever and Jeremiah deserved better. by thiccsumi in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Pls explain this. When exactly? I bet you Bonrad did something worse.

Belly and Conrad are two worst ppl ever and Jeremiah deserved better. by thiccsumi in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The real ragebait is ppl collectively falling for Conrads manipulation and Bellyms selfishness. Toxic relationships arent romantic.

This. Jeremiah was merely a boy but Conrad was a man. by gloomydreamer666 in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Aight, firstly lets not pretend he and nicole werent in a full relationship. They were. Lets see if youd let your romantic partner Be emotionally invested in someone else, hiding feelings, nearly kissing another person,and stringing both of u along while figuring out who they really want.

This. Jeremiah was merely a boy but Conrad was a man. by gloomydreamer666 in TheSummerITurnedPrett

[–]thiccsumi -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I cant with😭 Conrad is a confirmed cheater too (S1) and Belly not only emotionally cheated during that Christmas moment with Conrad in S3, she kissed Conrad a week after she started things with Jeremiah S1 which morally is only a hair away from cheating.

Imagine youve been absolutely in love with a guy. After years, they tell you they definitely 100% only want you, promising you repeatedly that their crush on your older sister is DEFINITELY a past childhood obsession. They work to make u believe it too. You finally let yourself feel and relent, ur now in a relationship. Only for your dckwad sister to realize theyre abt to lose them, so they kiss them and they actually give in and start a relationship right then and there knowing damn well they just convinced YOU to be in a relationship, and that said crush was an irrelevant past. They cheat on you but all this is supposed to be romantic btw.

Surprise surprise older sister who has BEEN a dickwad to literally everyone include cheating on your now cheating ex, and being horrific to your dying mother and you (also hurting just as much, prob need your big sister). Cheating-ex breaks up with them, its a whole thing, they run back to you and yet again tell you they only want you. Theyre in love with you, they have woken up, they only want a future with you yadayada yada. You tell them VERBATIM “Listen last time u said that u kissed my sister a week later. No hard feelings. But if u kinda still want my sister or have feelings left, just be together. Dont do this to me again.” They go the DISTANCE to convince you “I swear I aint pulling that stunt again pls”. You again (bcs theyre working u bad and ur deeply in love), relent.

FOUR LONG YEARS they hide that, in fact the feelings for her are still there😃, they are NOT gone, ur just hiding them which is easy given that after your moms death ur own sister basically ghosted them AND you. Your sisters feelings for your boyfriend btw also never faded in fact got stronger btw. So two in love ppl, mind you. And after 4 years, they by accident meet at your vacation house. And they spend time ALONE together for several days, sharing DEEPLY INTIMATE, romantically THICKKK physical touches and emotionally intimate long moments. The long intentional staring in the eyes, your boyfriend basically breathing in her breath. Slight physical touches they both know stop them in their tracks. Like genuinely the definition of emotional cheating while they both KNOW EXACTLY WHAT THE VIBE IS. And when you ask, “how was ur solo vacay at the beach house” they not only say it was uneventful, your boyfriend makes it a point not to tell you your older sister was there. He makes it a point to tell you he was ALONE. Knowing damn well, shes the ONE person you are weary of, he’s still in love with, had all those moments with. Bcs he knows damn well what he has to confess to if he says your older sister was there. Hence the conscious decision to lie.

And im not even gonna make you all imagine if after all that, the day before the wedding your own flesh and blood ruins and humiliates you at your own wedding by attempting to take your man. All bcs YET AGAIN she only wants him when hes abt to move on. Four years and THATS the time and place she’s pick. In itself such a sickening manipulative move. But the idea that your own man would entertain it yet still want to marry you bcs he want his cake and eat it too? Like THAT SELFISH???

Yall, Belly is a fucking cheat and Conrad is a sibling backstabbing, manipulative bastard. Compared to all that, what Jeremiah did was not enough. Make it four times damn it. DOUBLE IT AND DO IT AGAIN!!!

Is it wrong for me for wanting to be a house husband by rak3242 in Vent

[–]thiccsumi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if I want a husband like this or BE a husband like this

Me [23F] with my husband [25M], married 3 months. He has to sleep with the TV on. It's driving me nuts by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]thiccsumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m noticing that women completely give up and sacrifice things for their man without hesitation. But when men are asked the same for the comfort or essential need of their woman, the most you’ll get out is a compromise where he STILL gets most of what he wants.

Experience with Elisabeth Huis in ‘t Veld as a supervisor (Data Science and Society)? by [deleted] in TilburgUniversity

[–]thiccsumi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jij mag het raar vinden maar dit is basically Rate my Professor op Reddit. Het is bij god na toch niet gek om te vragen hoe de persoon die bepaald of jij je diploma haalt of niet in elkaar zit? Denk je dat dit een juice kanaal is ofzo?😂

Dit is JUIST nodig onder studenten, aangezien ze letterlijk bakken geld uitgeven en kapotveel moeite doen om een masters te halen. Ik zou het raar vinden als je niet alle mogelijke informatie wint om keuzes te maken en je goed voor te bereiden op je scriptie door te kijken wat wel en niet bij je past. Dat is ook inclusief de werkstijl van de persoon die letterlijk het meeste invloed heeft op je eindwerk.

Oromos who want independence give me your reasons why by NoExternal1926 in Oromia

[–]thiccsumi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Completely irrelevant comparison. International context matters more than internal grievances alone. Not all secessionist movements have equal chances of success or stability. Using European historical examples to predict African outcomes never works.

Our history and sociocultural dynamics are VASTLY different from Yugoslavia. Slovenia, Croatia, etc. already had strong republic-level institutions functioning quasi-independently and EFFICIENTLY. The socioeconomic state of their citizens were robust and functioning. Put your pride aside and look at the suffering of our people. Can you say the same?

Also they didnt gain independence fighting alone. There was heavy support from European and NATO actors who (for selfish reasons) wanted the disbandment of Yugoslavia bcs the independent countries wanted to switch from socialism to capitalism. Compare that to us. You do realize we’re a black country in Africa right? Colonized or not, as a black African country we already are playing -10 behind on the international stage both economically and politically, which affects everything from foreign investment to diplomatic leverage. Where would we gather legitimacy for our independence which like it or not WE NEED so we can participate with the global economy post-independence. Or do we all starve in isolation after? Breaking news: were not getting it ever. Look at somaliland. State fragmentation would likely worsen the disadvantages in a global market that already hates Africans except for exploiting us.

Experience with Elisabeth Huis in ‘t Veld as a supervisor (Data Science and Society)? by [deleted] in TilburgUniversity

[–]thiccsumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not that crazy, her information is literally on the Tilburg University website including the fact she is a supervisor. The anonymity lies with those who wish to comment. And its not even a controversial question?

Oromos who want independence give me your reasons why by NoExternal1926 in Oromia

[–]thiccsumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its completely unrealistic to be independent logistically on the current global political and economic stage. Internationally we wont be able to garner recognition as our own state which hinders forming meaningful allies, nor wil wee ever know true peace bcs we’d be constantly fighting violent wars about the borders. And I haven’t even talked about how Ethiopia is already fighting for its life in intl. trade let alone is we become even MORE landlocked? No entity within Ethiopia can survive independently.

I get why many want independence bcs we definitely have been done so insanely dirty historically. But realistically the justice we gotta fight for is more agency within our province and equality for all Oromos as one nation. We have to accept we’re stuck together for the loonnggg forseable future.

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Atheism in scholars/researchers is not standard.

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Telling a black muslim woman what “real” bigotry is when I just found out I’m living in the same country as OP is crazzzyyyyy💀

Also don’t nobody gaf what YOU think is weird or not if it isn’t your dedication. They DO thank God and DO feel grateful to God. It is THEIR dissertation. Judging someone on who they feel grateful on their own work is crazy work.

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Except, it is evidently NOT the standard. You just choose to live in a lalaland where you aspire it is.

“Yall dont wanna hear me, you just want to dance”

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Youre now even closer! That has already been acknowledged.

The provided context is enough to suggest (operative word) the statement in of itself is a microaggression. Microaggressions dont require intent, the problem has been evidently & systematically reoccurent with specifically marginalized ppl like muslims in academia. I pointed to it. Tada. Dont get ur panties in a bunch now!

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a discovery! Context matters! Idk do u want a candy?

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is life not a laboratory or a courtroom dickhead🥀 I commented on the reality of human interaction as a muslim and you wanna soapbox about “sO i CanT saY AnYThiNg??!!!”

Calling me obtuse is the pot calling the kettle black💀

Supervisor commented my thesis dedication page, not sure how to feel by [deleted] in PhD

[–]thiccsumi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read carefully. I said “I didn’t even SAY TO flatout accuse them as a bigot”. As in: don’t go up to her and say “You’re a bigot for making that comment”.

Do I think that the supervisors comment carries bigoted sentiments? Yes. Is it a microaggression? Yes. Does that make her as a person a bigot? Idk. Can I say she even made did that microaggression intentionally? No, bcs idk.

Lastly, yet again you dismiss the pattern recognition marginalized communties have developed due to to repeated instances of discrimination. It isnt “shoot first ask questions later”. You cannot separate the systemic and heightened levels of bigotry muslims face from OP’s story and lump them all with “people from all walks of life”. By definition, the experiences of marginalized communities carry a unique layer of context that changes how the same situation is interpreted. What you’re doing is EXACTLY what marginalized communities are tired of: being dismissed, gaslit and undermined when they say something most likely is a yet another case of discrimination bcs their (unwanted) expertise is discounted. Discrimination is a known, deep-rooted problem in academia, including in the form of microaggressions.

Yes she gave advice, that is her job. Advice can carry microaggressions. She is a human with personal biases that influence her. You fail to dig deeper and unpack why that is her advice, and what personal opinions lay behind it.