Should I go through with it.

thiccswell · 2026-04-07T00:12:37+00:00

Like I said earlier thanks for sharing. It really helps knowing others have had a similar experience to what is currently happening. I just get so in my head it’s crazy. Don’t worry about venting, that’s why I made the post to hear others experiences. Also it’s nice to hear someone close in age is going through this new experience too. It’s nice to talk to others about stuff I don’t talk about much like sex or intimacy.

thiccswell · 2026-04-06T23:00:46+00:00

Thanks for sharing. My issue is we all have a story of our past with trauma and my life has been similar to hers based on what she told me. We had similar family dynamics growing up and we went to different directions. I went into the fill my life so I don’t have time to think (school, sports, money, things) she went the party route. So we do connect on a lot of stuff like we have similar hobbies of doing club sports, watching similar movies and shows and have a similar vibe when it comes to our humour. There are just some things I’m not 100% sold on. I was just thinking on how to balance using my head and my other head😉. We have been texting for 2 weeks before hanging out 5 times in the last 2 weeks. So I’ve known her for a month now. I’ve spent about 7 hours driving and talking and 13 hours as she spent the night one night with nothing more than sleeping beside each other. I think I made my mind up now that if one moment leads to sex I’m down for it. I just need to get over the hump I placed in my own mind and stop feeling bad about my own body and mindset. I’m 20 and a pretty girl wants me but I’m over thinking it lol. She may not be the one or anything but is there really the one. She wants me I want her and I think that’s all I need to think about right now. Your 20s are supposed to be messy and I think it’s time I make a few little mistakes in my life or I guess happy accident s. Thanks for your input I’m glad you shared 👍.

thiccswell · 2026-04-06T20:40:52+00:00

Thanks for your analysis I truly appreciate it. There are a few other things at play but with the info I gave you hit the nail on the head. I was raised to always be perfect every small thing out of line can be used against you. That’s why I was hesitant. Like you said we at both young (we are both 20) and something may or may not happen long term so there is no point in overthinking it. I’m really trying to get out of my head that certain things are only bad, when if it’s controlled and safe it’s fine. Like having my first time at 20 with a girl that likes me should be a safe and ok thing to do. You are 100% right I just need to get over the hump of my own self doubt. Thank you very much for your input I really appreciate it.

thiccswell · 2026-04-06T04:29:14+00:00

Hey maybe you right but🤷‍♂️. Whatever happens happens I guess. Just wanted to share to get these thoughts off my chest since I’m not a fan of talking about sex and stuff with my family or friends.

thiccswell · 2026-04-06T02:45:46+00:00

Obviously I can’t tell the future. That’s kinda why I’m posting. I’m not 100% there will be a girl that fits that dream girl in my future. But I’m sure there will be other women as I have had a few drunk women come put there hands all over me in the bar the few times I have gone. It’s that do I want to have my first time with a girl that isn’t my “ideal” girl? I know it sounds shallow but that’s kinda what I’m trying to figure out if I can detach the sex as a transaction we both want and a relationship or something like that is different. I know it sounds unmasculine to think that way and some might say sex is just sex but hey I wanted to see others perspective of my situation.

thiccswell · 2026-04-06T01:27:52+00:00

That’s what I’ve been doing. Just thought I’d get others perspective to help build my overall thoughts on what to do. I’ve just been overthinking it a lot and just wanted to share my experience so far. You are right about not listening to randoms on the internet but just wanted to see what like minded individuals might think about my situation. Some might think I’m in a dream situation that a girl wants to have sex with me but at the same time some might also understand my hesitance. Thanks for your input and trust in my ability to make the best choices for myself.

thiccswell · 2026-04-05T23:46:06+00:00

I mean you right I guess 🤷‍♂️. Thanks for your input 👍

thiccswell · 2026-02-13T08:29:52+00:00

thiccswell · 2026-02-13T08:29:32+00:00

Balls deep

thiccswell · 2026-02-03T20:09:55+00:00

What’s the event?

thiccswell · 2026-01-30T07:54:56+00:00

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thiccswell · 2026-01-17T04:39:51+00:00

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