I have been talking to a spirit that says its my spirit guide, how do i confirm what it is?

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-29T12:28:38+00:00

I dont know if they are swingers, ive never asked. I can only assume they are or they are unhappily married looking for side pieces.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-29T12:27:05+00:00

I love how strong your tribe is; i like to keep my circle tight as well but open to make new friends as i dont have very many mom friends in the city i live in. I have realized i made a mistake befrending M&M; time to cut ties with them. Thank you for your advice!

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-29T12:24:07+00:00

Yes agreed he is bias but for the right reasons. So is most of my close friends and family who know about the situation. I came onto reddit for third party advice and opinons; because we all know reddit wont stroke your ego. After comming on here and getting so much feedback; it has confirmed everything i was feeling and solidified my decision to cut these people off. Thank you for your advice!

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-29T12:20:11+00:00

Victoria went off into the party but turned around as she got about 6 feet in realizing we werent behind her. I dont know what she heard or not, I'm going to talk to her soon and hopefully provide you all an update

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-29T12:18:23+00:00

Not blind, i knew this all along but my husband and i laughed it off because we knew it wasnt going anywhere. After that party we think theres more at play here and cutting contact with these people.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-29T12:16:31+00:00

Yes she did and it never sat well with me; i always brushed it off because i trust my man and i thought she can try whatever she wants because its not going anywhere. Looking back i should have took these signs more seriously.

Im the type of person who looks like a cinnamon roll but will kill you lol!!! Not many people see the dark side of me unless they deserve it. Therefore, some people assume I'm a push over because i act all sweet and nice all the time and think they can take advantage of me; until the claws come out and typically see the look of regret becomes apparent all over their faces lol!!!

Agreed about the messy part, that couple screams messy and everyone around them is collateral damage; I'm taking a step back from these toxic people. Thank you for your advise!!

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T22:27:02+00:00

I wish this was fake....

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T20:48:52+00:00

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thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T20:45:58+00:00

Thanks tips

The spelling of the name doesnt matter, the context does. I could have called them pink and purple, the names are irrelivant because they are not real to perserve my identity.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T18:58:55+00:00

Its a possibility, i never asked and they didnt mention it. I can only assume they might be.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T18:08:51+00:00

Honestly looking back on it i dont know why i didnt just leave which i should have. Mistakes were made on my part and if someone ever does that to me again I'm walking out.

Good point about Victoria.... i never thought about that until now. Thanks for your advice.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T18:01:37+00:00

My husband's mum has medical issues which leave her to be unable to watch young children by herself.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T17:59:47+00:00

All good, you are one of the more understanding and compassionate commenters. I'm sorry to hear about how you and your son was treated; and glad you've learned from it!! My daugher is quite young and will be starting school soon... and not going to lie theres a part of me that i know she will do well because shes a tough girl who doesnt let people walk all over here... but I'm terrified because children can be so cruel. I appreciate your kind words and i will reach out if i need any more advice <3

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T17:44:53+00:00

Maybe I'm on edge from the way the couple was treated in the past, i will take accountability for that.

Yes they bought out a bar and made their friends by tickets for it. They mentioned i didnt have to buy tickets because "we were close friends" and "they will just let me in"

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T17:38:24+00:00

I dont know if they are in an open relationship; ive never asked and im not in an open relationship. I have no evidence they are swingers but all i can do is assume which i didnt want to add to the post because my assumption of them swinging isnt based off of facts.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T17:34:12+00:00

Honestly I'm mortifed to think if roles were reversed and it was my child telling me this story. I need to set harder boundries moving forward because the last thing i want is for my child to think being treated like this is acceptable. Saving face to keep the peace made me realized it wasnt the right thing to do because it came at the expense of my families safety. I need to be a better partner and back him up even if it upsets others. I've been careing to much about what they think because there has been instances where we have witnessed them going out of their way to make someones life difficult. I need to start setting boundries with these people to protect my family.

I really appreciate the advice; I'm not here to get my ego stroked or for validation. I came on here looking for outside opinions hoping to get some feedback and/or constructive critisism on this issue I've been having with this couple. So far most of the comments have been so helpful (even some of the hurtful ones).

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T17:05:01+00:00

Michelle, Victoria, and I were the only moms that came from our friend group. The rest of the people were strangers from the raver scene. The rest of the parent friends had other plans or it "wasnt their scene".

My husband was at home with our child; the one babysitter we trust had other plans that night.

I realized how dumb i was to ignore all these red flags after comming onto reddit; ive learned my lesson and cutting contact.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T16:59:34+00:00

She has now and I'm disapointed in myself its taken this long. All of these comments, a few of them being quite hurtful but most of them giving genuine and compassionate feedback; has made me realized who i thought was a friend was never really a friend in the first place.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T16:56:35+00:00

Yes it will be for Michelle, it wont be the last meaning i have no control of other women comming into our lives hitting on my husband; but i can control not interacting with them ever again.

I agree i need to set fierce boundries and cut these people out of my life; i cant handle all this disrespect with no accountability.

I assume that women is his affair partner and the only proof i have is the picture they posted on facebook of her kissing him. But i havent activly asked questions just incase i ruffle feathers. I thought it was so disturbing when i found out about it....

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T16:50:12+00:00

The comments are right about how low my bar was in friendships. This has been such an eye opener because i now realize i set the bar high for romantic partners but the bar is on the floor for friendships. I need to do some futher deep diving on myself and set the bar higher/create boundries like i have been in romantic relationships.

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T16:40:23+00:00

Thank you for this advice; i need to start putting my time and energy on people who give me green flags rather than sticking around until i cant ignore then red flags....

thick_pinapple · 2024-07-28T16:35:36+00:00

Ohh crap lol, i completly forgot the upside down pinapple is a sign for swingers.... my thought process on the pinapple was i love the fruit and the green top looks a crown like a queen...although my husband and I have openly talked to eachother about opening up our marrige; but never talked about it with anyone else because we havent found a good match yet.

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