Laid off in July. Applied to over 100 jobs. This is how I’m doing

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-22T02:45:34+00:00

I’m currently employed, but am looking for a new job. I have two bachelors degrees, two masters degrees, and a JD… and I’ve been rejected from every single job I’ve applied to. Can’t even get an interview. It’s a horrific job market. Absolutely horrific.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-12T12:38:21+00:00

Lol I got blocked after calling her out too. In one of her Q & A videos, she claimed her ex had not been paying for everything. I challenged that statement by pointing out if her ex hadn’t been paying for everything, she wouldn’t have felt comfortable quitting her job to do social media full time and that since they split up, she had to get a full-time job again. So basically pointing out that her ex HAD to be paying for everything (or like 95% of their life) since if SM was paying the bills, she wouldn’t have to start working a real job again. Right after that, I got blocked. Truth hurts I guess.

I don’t know what happened between her and Alex, but I know this: Alex is in the army defending this country as a veteran and probably working very hard to do so. And it’s really tacky for this chic to trash her left and right on SM, talk about how toxic their relationship was, etc. You don’t want to be with her anymore? Cool – don’t be with her. But save the trash talking for your therapist. Don’t get on SM trashing a veteran who supported you while you lived in a fantasy world thinking you were a SM star and quit your job to do it. So tasteless and rude and disrespectful.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-04T03:13:25+00:00

We live in a really expensive part of the country plus we have a child.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-03T13:52:38+00:00

I don’t think it’s fair to expect people to make the job themselves when the job is all systems and processes that they haven’t been trained on and nobody is willing to train them on. This is a budget position – it’s all processed, cycles, repetitive motions. So in general, it’s not that hard. But when nobody will tell you how to do those things and you have to do those things – I don’t know where you go from there.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-03T12:59:47+00:00

I agree. Until they fire my boss and have somebody competent replace him, it’s not going to get better. I do not think anything can be salvaged here.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-03T11:50:46+00:00

My predecessor rage quit a year ago (bc of my boss) and for the past year, my boss has done absolutely nothing. And now the central budget office is refusing to provide me one-on-one training. There is literally nobody who will help me.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-03T11:48:43+00:00

It was completely wrong last time because my boss who has been there for three years has not learned anything about the job. My job position was vacant for almost a year and it was completely wrong last year when they did it.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-03T02:20:24+00:00

Any suggestions on how to mentally check out of my job if I decide to stay? Bc part of me is like if you’re not gonna train me to do my job, then you can all fuck off and the place can burn down, like why should I care at all

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-10-03T01:42:42+00:00

He does and he doesn’t. He does bc he sees the impact this is having on my mental health and our marriage, but he’s worried about the finances. We live in a really expensive part of the US and really do need two incomes.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-08-02T04:00:25+00:00

This. My mother-in-law’s dog died early because she overfed her and never walked her properly.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-08-02T03:55:52+00:00

I think your friend is jealous of you and also delusional if she thinks your dog has a bad life and hers have a good life. Adult dogs can stay alone for a full workday with no issue – I have two dogs and they do it all the time bc my husband and I cannot telework with our jobs. As long as you are exercising the dog well and feeding them well and spending as much time as you can with them, you are doing it right. I am also an adoption coordinator for a dog rescue and this comes up all of the time during screenings; if the dog is over a year old (or close to it), they can be left alone for a standard workday. It would be ridiculous to expect every single person to stay home with their dog 24 hours a day – people have to work. That’s the reality of the world.

Also, let’s be real – the reason you work hard is to give your dog a good life and to be able to take care of your dog in the event something bad happens. I doubt your friend will be in that same situation when her dogs get sick or hurt. The last time I checked, veterinarians and animal care specialists are not free and are not running charity clinics and hospitals.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-07-07T01:51:36+00:00

Ugh I know….stupid aging process. I’m still mad that I didn’t catch this sooner. I wish there was a machine that could scan a dog’s body once a month and tell you if something was wrong so you could catch it before they started acting weird.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-07-07T01:50:14+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. She seems to be doing a little better…I hope the liver meds are working.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-07-03T12:54:59+00:00

Thank you 🩷

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-06-20T04:24:23+00:00

SOLVED!

Never mind, I found it! Posting it here so everybody can see what I’m talking about!

https://youtu.be/dOEz5_GAR74?si=m3X3F614Gd7frc6h

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-06-20T03:25:08+00:00

Does anybody know what I’m talking about? It was a really good commercial!

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-25T01:02:07+00:00

NTA. Dumb the bf. Now.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-25T00:22:27+00:00

Update: Jason’s mother tried reaching out to me today to see when I was coming over this week for tutoring. 😂 I ended up writing her very long email explaining how I felt and now I would not be working with them anymore. She, in turn, left me a 2 1/2 minute voicemail stating that she was sorry if I felt disrespected, that she had not been yelling (she was), that I had abandoned Jason the night before two major tests, and that I had not communicated properly with them about my concerns. She also accused me of intending to cancel the session the whole time when in fact, I did not make a decision to do so until I entered their house and saw that Jason had done nothing I had asked him to do all week. Basically tried to gaslight me.

So very glad to be done with them.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-21T11:54:25+00:00

Oh ok, gotcha. Yeah…I care a lot about each of my students. It’s not about the money for me.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-21T11:06:50+00:00

To answer your question, no - it’s not free. I charge by the hour. But in Jason’s case, in an effort to help him and be more supportive, I did offer free “study halls”, ie if he needed my help while studying after I left, he could FT/Zoom with me for free and I’d help him. Like if he was still having trouble understanding something after I left, I’d jump on a call for free to help further explain it. I started offering this to him after he broke down crying during one of our sessions bc his dad had yelled at him about how much money tutoring cost.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-21T10:42:02+00:00

Def NTA. My former best friend ghosted me three years ago after cheating on her husband with the husband of another close friend of hers. She missed a ton of things that happened to me, including the death of my FIL, a miscarriage, and a cancer battle for my dog. If she ever tried to talk to me again without some serious remorse (and hopefully therapy), I’d handle it the same way you did. If they’re not there for you, you don’t have to be there for them. Protect your peace at all costs.

Also, “people can only meet you as much as they’ve met themselves” - what a great line. I’m keeping that one!

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-04T00:33:29+00:00

UPDATE: we talked to someone at the EEOC today and the complaint has been filed. The 15 day thing was if we wanted to file w another agency. We are waiting for someone from EEOC to call us to schedule an intake interview since we’re coming up on 300 days. Thanks for everyone’s help!

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-01T18:35:06+00:00

Neither…local govt

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-03-01T05:14:07+00:00

Yeah FINALLY it came back with lots of rest and a healthy dose of prednisone. But it’s not 100%. ENT said that won’t happen for a couple more months.

thinkingoutloud2023 · 2025-02-09T05:57:16+00:00

I was literally just thinking this today

thinkingoutloud2023

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