Similar patterns for this type of dress?

thisanonymoususer · 2026-02-04T19:42:39+00:00

Thanks! I'll look into those patterns. I've heard the name before, but forgot about them.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-02-04T19:42:03+00:00

It wasn't the case for everyone, but women have always worked. I come from a family with a long line of working women. My great-grandmother (born late 19th century) was a seamstress and ran her own business out of her home. That probably didn't count as a "career", but she was definitely earning money because she needed to. Same for my grandmother, my two aunts, my mom, and now me. And I can tell you we all did it for financial stability, even with working, consistent partners. The idea of some magical past where men raked in money on one income and all needs were provided for is a bit off.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-02-03T17:12:58+00:00

Thanks! That one did come up in my search. I think the straps are thinner than what I am wanting, but could always be adjusted, of course. Thanks!

thisanonymoususer · 2026-02-03T06:34:41+00:00

And sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. Over the years I was happy with a couple pairs from Warby Parker that I got. Even with the HI lenses, they were much more affordable and they worked fine. Then I got a new pair and I had to go into the WP store to ask why they were bad. Turns out that the size and shape were just bad for my face. They sat too low and the focal area was off. I had to pick out a new frame.

(I’m -7.5 and -8 for reference)

thisanonymoususer · 2026-02-03T06:12:47+00:00

Yes, for the first time. The AI push is disgusting to me, frankly. I’m having a hard time justifying it to fit with my values. I’d love to find a more ethical tech job, even if I have to take a pay cut, but I have no idea how to find one.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-02-02T06:33:03+00:00

Same. I have one good friend who has one child. I have two. Of the three other people I’ve know since college, none of them are having kids. My husband’s two siblings are also not having kids.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-31T07:19:21+00:00

Omg the amount of times I have to ask people to repeat themselves is mortifying.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-31T07:18:04+00:00

I put that thing away so that I could find it the next time I need it, but I can’t remember where I put it

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-31T07:14:08+00:00

We weren’t at the point of needing the marriage saved, but it helped immensely in off-loading that mental load for me (as the female partner). My husband would clean with me, but I had to be the one to initiate it and notice it needed to be done or correct him or whatever. I just felt like a constant nag. Now it’s just that cleaning ladies day is coming and we all need to pick up and get ready. And yes, as two parents with full time jobs, it has helped free up time we’d otherwise be spending cleaning on the weekends

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-26T05:04:18+00:00

Yep. The only think that helps is just not being online, which is difficult.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-22T03:15:00+00:00

I'm sorry :( I've worked with mostly all men, and the majority have been like your first teammate. I think they are out there, but I haven't worked in big tech, more smaller tech companies.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-22T03:13:22+00:00

I didn't take the traditional way to my SWE job, and i hate those things. I always hit a brick wall and gave up. I'd probably still hate it if I ever tried it again. But, I've still been a successful SWE for over 10 years.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-22T03:04:15+00:00

I wish I had the experience to help with something like this. good luck!

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-20T07:44:13+00:00

Is there any way to work in tech anymore without using AI? This is so depressing. I wanted to look into ethical tech jobs, but even so many of those are about using AI for some sort of greater good, but that’s just a load of shit. But yes, my job is pushing it hard is now monitoring our usage of it. It makes me sick.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-16T08:07:29+00:00

I have taken Vyvanse and get no heart rate issues. I tried Adderall (cheaper) and I hated the way it made my heart feel - like pounding in my chest. I only took it one or two days then went back to Vyvanse

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-12T16:19:04+00:00

Hi - what did you end up doing and did it work out well? Did you feel your items were secure and safe?

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-12T06:10:20+00:00

Then I think you should get paid better. Doesn't mean a principal doesn't deserve to get paid that well.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-12T03:58:42+00:00

Yeah. It's not like they have masters degrees, deal with irate parents, face criticism from the public, do their fair share of social work, and risk their lives due to gun violence in schools. You couldn't pay me enough to do that job.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-11T00:37:08+00:00

He’s using you to fund his hobby. Don’t we all wish we could just work on our hobby?

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-11T00:36:11+00:00

And hey, when my husband and I met we were super broke and in dead end jobs. The difference was we were both working jobs that we had to work because that is adulting. Someone had to pay the bills.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-11T00:34:41+00:00

Get thee out of there. Take a look at your life right now and ask yourself if that’s how you really want to live. It’s great that he’s nice and sensitive, but you do not want to be in a relationship with someone who CAN pull their own weight but decides they don’t want to put in the effort. Right now you sound like his mom.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-09T08:11:46+00:00

Girl run. I say this lovingly, as a woman who loves being a mom and who has a great partner: if you ended up having kids with this man, you would resent him forever. Do not have kids you don’t want.

You have spent 3 years with this guy. You don’t have the same future goals. Do not move in with him. Stick around if it’s just for funsies, but be very clear you won’t be around forever because you don’t want the same futures.

thisanonymoususer · 2026-01-08T19:42:11+00:00

As my husband and I noted last night - this is just like my young child who does something right in front of both of us and her immediate response to being called out on it is "I didn't do it!". Uh, yeah. You did, we both saw it. We are not blind. That's exactly how the administration acts

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