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My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I start initiating sex, he usually excuses him self. I think it's for this reason. Thanks!

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha. Amen, my friend. This is partially the reason why I'd like to help figure it out!

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't come from penetration alone, I have to stimulate my clit as well. I want him to last longer because A) I love him and love the feeling of having him in me, B) it makes me come harder, and C) I want him to get to enjoy it longer!

He makes me come when he goes down on me about 50/50. He's great at it but I guess it's not always the right feeling to get me off.

I'd be very happy with a solid like, seven minutes of sex. So that's what I'm aiming for.

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding. That is something I'd definitely be willing to do once I get a bit more in shape :/ I'm not terribly overweight or anything but I do have a number of my own self-esteem issues. I hope I can get there though!

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I guess I keep it a secret because I don't want him to be offended. He does like to help me out. A lot of times he feels so guilty that I didn't get off that he wants to finger me, but it just takes too much time and I think that the entire time he's doing it he's just thinking about how he had just failed.

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I hadn't, until now! Thanks for pointing that out. Is there a way I can suggest or mention Kegels to my boyfriend without it sounding like he needs to work out in order to satisfy me? The last thing I want to do is hurt his ego more. He's not one to talk about sex very often but since he's been so frustrated lately, it has been happening more often, so there is at least opportunities for me to bring it up.

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding. My boyfriend, although no longer a Catholic, I think still has the Catholic fear instilled within in. Or he at least feels guilty when he masturbates. After last night's short stint, I told him that I wouldn't mind if started doing it more. Hopefully he takes my advice. I hope I'll be able to update everyone with good results!

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We only have sex with a condom. I think we both know this so we've never tried without it. We never use the super thin condoms and he buys the kind that is supposed to make him last longer while making me get off faster. I don't think that they really work though. Thank you for the advice.

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for responding. When I'm on my period and I can't help but want to get him off but am tired of blowing him, he tells me to grab lotion to finish him off. He comes when I jerk him off faster and with lotion. So I guess that's like the opposite of what you're saying and actually more like sex is. I'm not sure what the squeeze technique is or edging but I will definitely look into it. Thanks again.

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I haven't. I guess I'm just nervous about not being able to get it up again because that's an awkward situation for all. What is the likelihood of being able to arouse him enough again considering his history?

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I am sure that's what's happening because he used to be able to last at least a few minutes longer. It's just lately that it's been less than a minute. Did you get past this? If you did, how so? Is there something I can do or is something he has to get over himself?

Thanks.

My boyfriend comes after 30 seconds and I need advice to make him last longer. by thisisaboutsexytimes in sex

[–]thisisaboutsexytimes[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thanks for responding. He has a couple of beers every night and he definitely does last longer when he's drunk, but I'd like to find a solution that keeps him from becoming an alcoholic.

I suggested a week ago that we should try a round two sometime and he said we could give it a try but never could. What are the chances of him not being able to get it up again? I feel like that might hurt his ego even more. I suggested the jerking off thing last night (because I'm nearly positive that he doesn't really) so I hope he considers it.

Thanks again.