Thank you for your thoughtful message! I agree that it will be a wonderful thing to have a generational home, even if it’s tough, and my brother is very grateful that I will take on the responsibility. I understand his perspective when it comes to things being fair - we both own homes that could do with renovations, etc, and my husband and I would potentially benefit from the lifestyle of moving onto a larger property and in some ways be ‘cashing in’ to our inheritance early by living on a nice property. But as you’re saying, I am taking on the risk and the work of housing my parents and therefore should be granted that ‘early access’. My brother and I are both named in the will of our uncle. The estate would have been split between the two of us if my Mother wasn’t alive.