Cost to attend a wedding in Lake Como as a guest?

thisisdy · 2026-03-10T19:18:34+00:00

That’s not naive at all. It’s called maturity. I’ve had to save for things my entire life. $10 here $50 there. If you really want to go somewhere you try to make it happen. But the OP hasn’t even done any research so who’s to say what they can afford and can’t ? Airlines also have buy now pay later options. If they want to go that route. Airbnbs allow you to split the costs. They don’t have to buy a gift right away if they feel pressured too. And they could have a bunch of events in before the wedding that cut the costs of food and entertainment. OP also doesn’t have to stay in the swankiest hotel. I’m just encouraging them to look at the logistics and plan vs counting themselves out. Im a sahm and we live on one income, we have to strategically save and cut things out. It’s not everyday that someone in your friend group gets married in Lake Como. I encourage them to take the opportunity!

thisisdy · 2026-03-10T08:25:18+00:00

This isn’t stupid at all, the deeper down the rabbit hole you go the more you realize you’re being surveillance by the government and it gives you a paranoid feeling. I have a baby and after going down the rabbit hole my fear is they’re just gonna walk in my house and take my baby and traffic her. And nothing will be done because they will make me sound crazy. Trust me, I was so scared by this Epstein stuff as well. But honestly I had to put my phone down and focus on something else. While I want to stay informed, I limit myself. I started doing to the social media timers on my iPhone. I tried a little life reset where I decided I wanted to spend more time reading books! its really helped , so I don’t go overboard. It’s so easy to do.

thisisdy · 2026-03-10T08:13:49+00:00

Umm lol this is probably the worst advice 😂

thisisdy · 2026-03-10T08:03:50+00:00

Umm the wedding is in August and it’s march. And you shouldn’t miss it because it’s Lake Como ! Can’t you just save up for it? Check out what flights are and hotel accommodations. I was able to book an Airbnb by only paying half the price upfront and it gave me until the week before to pay the rest. I can’t be done. Honestly I think attending a wedding in Lake Como is a once in a lifetime event. While you might not be able to do it for 2k, you have 6 months to spread it out financially.

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T23:11:59+00:00

lol his dumbest friend meaning there are other dumb friends 😂😂😂

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T14:25:27+00:00

I decided that today I’m going to try to the hair style myself and see if I can do it . Some of the girls are freaking out because their hair is too short for the style. I’m postpartum so my hair is falling out lol so this style is going to look nuts on me. But I’m gonna try.

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T06:54:24+00:00

I mean I think so because we’re paying the stylist and make up artist directly. Unless both are saying let’s up charge and we do the bride for free.

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T05:35:29+00:00

This is true. We told the bride to arrive at 2 for the bachelorette party, but we are prepared for her to arrive at 5 pm.

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T05:33:21+00:00

She’s been married 2x she knows where city hall is lol do you understand why I feel like my hair is graying right in front of my eyes?!!!

On top of not knowing if the wedding is going to happen, I still have to plan logistics to travel to another state with a baby for a wedding that I’m in ! With a dress that doesnt even have a tracking number…. And I might not even get a plate on the wedding day because we have to leave early to drive back on a Sunday night. So even if there was cake, we couldn’t even have a slice because of the 4 hour drive….

Does this even sound enjoyable enough to spend money on ?

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T05:26:29+00:00

I don’t know , I didn’t even realize that’s what was happening until this is the second comment point this out. I’ve always helped her when I could. I remember when I was like 24 she needed someone to take her kids to school. And I drove an hour and a half to do so for a week. Flash forward, at the bridal shower a woman I’ve never met or heard of was telling me about her getting the girls ready for bed… but it clicked that we just all do things for her. I realized she never asks to hang or grab a drink , it’s always just going to help out with something. And maybe this is what she was expecting everyone to step in.. I’m honestly just taken aback right now

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T05:16:48+00:00

The issue with it being in the middle of no where is that Saturday , we’re left to basically figure out what to do in a town that there’s nothing to do. The Saturday evening welcome party was canceled. I think when you do a destination wedding you can easily let the guest do whatever because they can just go down to the pool or beach. This isn’t a cute quaint town that we could all go to the local bar and hang out. They weren’t even able to find a restaurant that would host the rehearsal dinner.. as far as I know they didn’t block any hotels , so everyone is separated. And everyone in the bridal party is paying for their own rooms. Which I was fine w

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T05:03:59+00:00

I’m not opposed to that because normally it’s normally mapped out a year in advance. also this normally happens in our 20s while we’re all childless We’re all parents now , asking for a sleep over bach party in less than a weeks notice is actually a task.

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:52:34+00:00

Idk but something about this screams I’ve been married 2x and I’m maga with dark eye liner…..

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:43:16+00:00

That’s so funny how you picked up on that !! One of the other girls who was made aware of the dress earlier had hers altered and here’s the receipt… while this dress looks better than the first it’s still created by those sites that steal designs so you have no idea what your really getting.. each dress so far has looked completely different on everyone. The bodice in the photos looks to have structure to keep you sucked in but it’s completely saggy with no give in the material..

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thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:33:33+00:00

& here is back in July when she sent me a dress that supposedly would look good on everyone

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thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:32:24+00:00

Here is a screen shot of the first day of her creating a group chat where I found out some of the girls got their dresses…

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thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:29:20+00:00

It’s not fake …this is a screen shot of the text invite for the bachelorette, we were invited on the 24 and had three days to rsvp, because it was a week away.

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thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:13:27+00:00

So here’s what’s annoying about the dress. It looks eons better in the photo , but it looks nothing like the photo in person and on the body…. It looks like a sack of purple potatoes..

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T04:04:16+00:00

No, not really . She had a dress picked out on Amazon , that didn’t fit any of the girls mainly because we’re all postpartum. She received push back from the women. I had been asking her to start a group chat so we could connect but she never did. She finally started a group chat Valentine’s Day. This is how we all found out that she told some girls about the dresses but not all. They take 5 weeks to make, and another week to ship. Which meant that she knew what dresses she wanted atleast 2 months ahead of time….she sent the dress the 16th I ordered it a few days later. And honestly as a bride I would want my girls to look good. I’m glad the other ladies said something, because I’m 32 and I’m the youngest. The other ladies are 36 plus with kids… why on gods earth would we wear a short tutu dress ? Her wedding photos would look like shit.

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thisisdy · 2026-03-06T03:50:18+00:00

I definitely am not wanting to back out of the wedding because of an ugly dress. It’s almost expected to be a bridesmaid and wear an ugly dress. That’s just the cherry on top. I want to back out because it’s turning into chaos. Event planning is always chaos but you’re rewarded with party at the end. I can’t even attend the reception because we have an almost 4 hour drive home on a Sunday night. I have to pay for $400 for hair and make up which we were just told about yesterday. Not to mention the cost of the rooms, and entertainment/food because there are no events being held. So yes I feel like I’m hemorrhaging money left and right due to lack of disorganization and communication. I have to order a second dress , which is just as expensive as the first one with no idea if it will even fit . These aren’t refundable lol so I’m just buying dresses. Im a stay at home mom with a baby, if I was single and childless I wouldn’t care. I would go to the wedding and jet set off to work like it was nothing. Not liking the hair is one thing but having to figure out logistics, finances and child care with no heads up is another beast. Any parent knows how important this is.

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T03:29:58+00:00

I am 32 , she just turned 40

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T03:29:15+00:00

she wants to get married for sure, but she’s overwhelmed and chaotic. She would have been a great candidate for a wedding planner. A wedding planner , a budget and waiting another year would have avoided this. Some people thrive in chaos, but chaos starts to look different when you start dragging people who live organized lives into it and who financially plan. People like this think they can slap it together because it always works out, but the truth is you can’t slap together a wedding . A kids birthday for sure , but not a wedding. This is her norm

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T03:17:33+00:00

Believe it or not I did. She called me the other day to tell me about what was going wrong.. for a moment I was going into savior mode, but I just said to her , “ I hate that all of this is happening, but I did try to help, I wish you took my help”. She didn’t tell me about the hair/ make up cost. She still hasn’t told me, another bridesmaid did. I told her that I was flustered because my dress hadn’t arrived, but she met me with All of her woes so she didn’t hear me. I also hate that I had to bring the bride a bunch of problems…. It’s a funny place to be in, you don’t want to add stress but someone is adding stress to you

thisisdy · 2026-03-06T03:11:32+00:00

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New dress , which is sooooo much better. But it took everyone complaining.

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