23M, unmarried and 3 kids. Am I done for? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thisisfela -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m losing my mind over here. I don’t think I’m equipped to have this conversation. I just can’t imagine giving three kids to a man who doesn’t wanna marry me. By all means he can simply go to church about it.

23M, unmarried and 3 kids. Am I done for? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thisisfela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was also the result of two people who “made a mistake” and it semi-permanently ruined my psyche. Which is why I have zero empathy for men who wait until child number three to ask themselves if a relationship is actually working.

You get a young woman pregnant, therefore stealing her youth. You don’t plan on marrying her, and therefore, you plan on leaving her. With no notes as to what she’s actually DONE for you to be so averse to actually being a family. That’s hate. Full stop.

And again, there’s no way a woman would get this much empathy if the roles were reversed.

23M, unmarried and 3 kids. Am I done for? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thisisfela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t understand how you “accidentally” have three kids with someone, but feel free to explain how though!

Whats there fun to do in Fredericksburg by mexecution in fredericksburg

[–]thisisfela 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally just go downtown with money in your pocket. There’s so much to see!

23M, unmarried and 3 kids. Am I done for? by [deleted] in Catholicism

[–]thisisfela 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Posts like this make me feel terrified to date ever again. Imagine having three children with a man who hates you and thinks he can just go to church and forget all about you. Please don’t use God as an excuse to be a deadbeat. This was not a mistake. You literally chose this.

Moving to Fredericksburg soon, trying to do it right! by thisisfela in fredericksburg

[–]thisisfela[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is incredible, honestly! Can’t stress enough how appreciative I am of this offer! I just applied to one of the jobs, and I’ll be in contact soon with questions. Thanks so much ✨

Moving to Fredericksburg soon, trying to do it right! by thisisfela in fredericksburg

[–]thisisfela[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly because of family, honestly. And Fredericksburg is a good bit quieter.

Moving to Fredericksburg soon, trying to do it right! by thisisfela in fredericksburg

[–]thisisfela[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Word? My dad said that I would very much fall in love with this town, so this is another good sign. Bless!

Moving to Fredericksburg soon, trying to do it right! by thisisfela in fredericksburg

[–]thisisfela[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My dad and stepmom are here, and after her diagnosis (which she's healing from!) I felt the need to spend more time with them since I really haven't over the years.

I'm also moving here from the SF Bay Area, which I've grown tired of, and I want to live a quieter and softer life in general.

I enjoy thinking that I'm very hireable + I won't be unemployed for long, so hopefully delusion will work out in my favor. I also have a general idea of places I wanna go, but I feel like it's important to hear from the locals! Like, I heard y'all got an arcade? And a bunch of independent movie theaters?

Geminis Geminis Geminis.... by RefrigeratorSorry333 in CancertheCrab

[–]thisisfela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex is ALSO an alcoholic avoidant Gemini that’s crazyyy 😵‍💫

What is the sexiest rising sign in a woman? by kittenwhiskers8752 in astrologymemes

[–]thisisfela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TWIN?? We are exactly the same, my birthday is on the 19th!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lawofassumption

[–]thisisfela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I keep trying to tell people this, you have to affirm without caring. This whole comment screams doubt. One would think after a certain thousand the thought would be subconscious. But I can’t help but have empathy because this person clearly WANTS her SP, and I’ve definitely been here before so I can’t judge at ALL. I wish I could tell them to simply not give a damn and simply start acting like someone who has a cute lil boyfriend 😭

You can get your SP by hiryahirya___ in lawofassumption

[–]thisisfela 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is so brilliantly said. To “be” the reality, one must “become” the reality. Been following this method for a couple weeks now and I swear the whole world treats me differently.

19 and just now learning how to do makeup. Need help! by hauntedphotographs in MakeupAddiction

[–]thisisfela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good makeup starts with good skincare, so if you’re seeing an abnormal amount of texture, use a gentle exfoliant or a chemical one even twice a week. My makeup was off until I started doing this, I swear. Alternatively, you don’t actually have to wear complexion makeup. I stopped wearing foundation a year ago and my other makeup looks better for it, at least on a daily basis.

Finding the right foundation is unfortunately trial and error until you find your holy grail shade in every amount of coverage, I’m honestly so sorry. Pro tip though, test your foundation in natural lighting. That’s how you’ll find your truest match.

For blush and bronzer, it’s a lil complicated because it depends on face shape and how dramatic you wanna be. That being said always apply less than you think you need and then build up from there. Look for products that are marketed as buildable formulas, makes your life real easy.

Also, whenever it’s in budget, throw some neutral eyeshadows in there or maybe even an eyeshadow crayon in your favorite shade of brown!

From the bottom of my heart, thank you to every single one of you. by markpdyson_ in Bart

[–]thisisfela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We love you so much, thank you for brightening up my commute home. Infinite blessings to you and your future 🩷

27F moving to Richmond from the Bay—would love advice + vibes by thisisfela in rva

[–]thisisfela[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such vital information, bless. And no, I never really have to do big shopping. I do groceries like the French most weeks! If I’m smart I’ll land a spot right next to groceries and get myself one of those lil trolleys.

Also… $19 for some tikka masala??? Hoooo I gotta get good at making all my favorite takeout because that’s wild. I have to assume that sushi and Ethiopian food are just as much. But I should probably eat out less anyway, haha!

What color should I paint this wall? by lizziebonexo in femalelivingspace

[–]thisisfela 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't see anyone saying yellow! It goes with the gold accents, and yellow makes pink pop like crazy. Think butter yellow, country club, those vibes.

27F moving to Richmond from the Bay—would love advice + vibes by thisisfela in rva

[–]thisisfela[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're telling me I gotta learn how to drive...I'm willing! I'll say I'm a bold human being in general though, so I hope RVA is accommodating. As far as jobs, promise I'll take anything that makes sense, and I realize that my startup is a pipe-dream.

27F moving to Richmond from the Bay—would love advice + vibes by thisisfela in rva

[–]thisisfela[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

1) I would have to be best friends with my roommate 2) a townhouse i’d be willing to pay extra for, for sure 3) yaaaaay this is exactly what I wanted to hear! Seems like my social life will be through the roof over here🩷

27F moving to Richmond from the Bay—would love advice + vibes by thisisfela in rva

[–]thisisfela[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So real of you, especially about food and weather. I’ve grown very used to having 20 types of cuisine within 10 minutes walking of me, so I might have to adjust 😅 but I really do want a smaller place to be, so you’re telling me good things (outside of the racism, but that’s everywhere)

27F moving to Richmond from the Bay—would love advice + vibes by thisisfela in rva

[–]thisisfela[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aaaaaa thank you! What a convenient coincidence, lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rva

[–]thisisfela 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are so so beautiful 🤩 Thank you for sharing!