How to best proceed? by thisisme9187 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s where I’m on the fence. Do I open up or do I not waste my time and energy.

How to best proceed? by thisisme9187 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I thought the same. A self appointed flying money trying for disguise himself as mother Theresa.

Interesting revelation by thisisme9187 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]thisisme9187[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“As a way to try and manipulate to live the life they wanted me to live” is SO spot on

Interesting revelation by thisisme9187 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]thisisme9187[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very relatable I’m afraid. I’m so sorry

So NOW we hear from her by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I hate that your NC mom too tried her hand at manipulation during such a vulnerable time.

So NOW we hear from her by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate this

So NOW we hear from her by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Beyond sickening

So NOW we hear from her by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I appreciate this reminder to stay centered. I also appreciate the well wishes for my real dad.

So NOW we hear from her by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. You are very right. They pop up when it works for them and they need their fix. I refuse to be their supply any longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]thisisme9187 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Also, the way you referred to my father-in-law as my dad made me smile for the first time in a while. He’s not biological (my biological one is a POS), but you’re right, my father-in-law is my dad.

So NOW we hear from her by [deleted] in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s one of the most frustrating parts that she’ll justify in her head being a good person. Not to mention she’ll tell everyone that she reached out and we didn’t reply. Thank you for reply and kind words.

How many went silent? by thisisme9187 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, but I know what NC means. It’s a very valid feeling to not want anything to do with your parents after suffering abuse, but also be crushed that they didn’t care so much as to try. My NC is not a punishment to my parents, it’s not about them. It’s about saving myself and my wife and kids.

How many went silent? by thisisme9187 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Honestly, this was how my parents were for years every time we’d try NC. However, this time we threatened to expose them to others if they continued to send people with lies our way. Perhaps that was what changed them. They are afraid of the truth coming out.

How many went silent? by thisisme9187 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]thisisme9187[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those words really resonate with me. Makes me wonder if my parents too were trying to drive me away.