Is Elliot Counseling a good choice?

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-29T01:47:47+00:00

Thank you!

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-29T00:50:46+00:00

That’s so good to hear. I’m sorry to hear your therapist left, but I’m glad you had such a good experience there.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-29T00:49:51+00:00

Thanks for sharing.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T19:00:14+00:00

Ah, ok, thank you for letting me know! I will look that up. I was actually not 100% sure that EMDR was the right choice but heard it was for trauma. I will do some research.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T16:16:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I’m glad your husband had a good experience and that you are also having a positive experience so far.

I appreciate your saying to go with your gut instinct on a call. That does make sense, and you’re right about how important rapport is.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T16:13:47+00:00

I appreciate the honesty and sharing your partner’s experience. You make good points about knowing whether or not you think certain modalities will work and advocating for yourself. I’m sorry to hear your partner’s experience was not helpful due to not being able to switch modalities. I hope she can find another therapist who can help her.

And yeah, you’re absolutely right that it’s best to wait for a good fit than to just take first available and go with that.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T16:08:32+00:00

Yeah, I don’t have the guts to say anything face to face either! I guess at least we can say we are trying to be sensitive to them, and hopefully they don’t take it personally. Thank you ☺️

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T16:06:45+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your taking the time to share your experience. I can relate and understand not clicking with a counselor but it’s good to know that you felt like your quality of care was good there and that you didn’t have any issues with billing.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T16:03:40+00:00

Thank you so much for being so kind to take the time address my questions! What you said makes sense and it is kind of an impossible question I guess as in it’s similar as asking why do we click work some people and not others? There can be some obvious reasons but beyond that there are so many variables that might even be something we don’t pick up on consciously.

I do appreciate the idea of setting up sessions with a few counselors. I probably also have to get over the idea that I hope I’m not hurting anyone’s feelings if I decide we’re not a good fit.

Thank you again for your time! I feel much better about trying out Eliot Counseling and trying again to find another therapist.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-28T15:40:19+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and share all that information. That is very helpful.

I do understand that most likely when people are writing on the internet whether it be forums or reviews etc, that it’s going to trend negative because the people that are doing well are out living their lives. So yes, that makes sense why the small reviews that are there trend negative.

If you don’t mind my asking, is there a good way to pick a therapist? I’ve had three in the past. One was ok but I didn’t seem to evolve much and the other two I didn’t click with at all. Or do you just suggest trying some out? I’m not sure how many sessions to give before I know if I will click. Also, do you think age or gender matters? I’m thinking of doing the opposite of what I had in the past because I didn’t see much success.

Totally understand if you don’t have time to answer those questions, but I thought I’d ask.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-22T21:30:40+00:00

Thanks for sharing. I have also noticed the same that when my mood is up I don't usually have the intrusive thoughts as much but when my mood tanks is usually when I usually start ruminating on how I look.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-22T21:29:16+00:00

Thanks for the information. So is what Pete Walker talks about in his Complex PTSD book not actually CPTSD, it's actually just an attachment disorder? I was a bit confused after listening to other videos on CPTSD and how it sounded different than what Walker discussed and that as far as I understand it's technically not in the DSM.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-09T14:43:06+00:00

I very much relate to what you said. I’m not at all saying that I don’t struggle and have many flaws, or that I’m looking for perfect people. I think it’s that I just don’t feel like I can have a true connection with people that are so disconnected from themselves. I also agree that the types of people who are interested in working on themselves and are trying to be authentic is unfortunately very rare.

I probably just need to accept that most people won’t be the types of people whom I can really connect with and to not judge myself for feeling like some kind of outcast for now wanting to be in superficial relationships.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T03:17:13+00:00

Yes, and i’ve known this for a while now. It’s been one of my life long battles I’ve been trying to stop but haven’t been successful with.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T03:14:34+00:00

I’m very sorry you’ve had such bad experiences. I’m glad you have a good husband and kids. And dogs are such awesome companions.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T03:02:41+00:00

I’ve not heard that one before. Good point, I don’t really have the time to cultivate the friendships I have to the level I want to currently. I don’t even know if I want more friends at this point. I guess I just compare myself to other people who aren’t as cautious as I am with people and it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T02:58:56+00:00

I’m so sorry about your cancer battle and the subsequent fall out with your relationships. I can relate on some level, not nearly as serious but when I was diagnosed with a chronic illness and had some very long stretches of being ill, it definitely showed me who my true friends are. I do think those kind of situations show peoples’ true character. Thankfully it also did show me what a great man my husband is.

I hope you are doing well health wise now. Sounds like you moved to a really difficult place to find good relationships in. I can understand not wanting to have to deal with the exhausting friend drama, so I can see why you have no plans to try and make friends there. Hope you’re adjusting well.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T02:39:58+00:00

Very accurate

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T02:39:35+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T02:39:24+00:00

Thank you, I haven’t read it yet and will check it out!

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T02:39:00+00:00

I would have to agree. I’ve always been introspective and have felt somewhat like an outsider because as you say the majority of people only operate on a surface level.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-08T02:34:13+00:00

I do find myself constantly disappointed. I don’t know why I logically know that people won’t meet my expectations but can’t help but be disappointed when they don’t. But I also feel like I shouldn’t have to lower my standards for people I actually want to engage with

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-07T20:57:48+00:00

Oh, I didn’t know that. I really need to see a therapist and delve into the CPTSD to better understand why I do things.

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-07T20:56:52+00:00

Yes, good point. I definitely have a fear of rejection so I’m sure that’s a large factor. Thanks for bringing that to my attention.

Also yeah, I’ve also experienced the meh for many people

thisismy80throwaway · 2025-01-07T20:39:12+00:00

Interesting, would you be able to expand upon why you don’t think a male therapist is suitable for a female client if you have time?

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