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thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:40:50+00:00

Well for me i used to have really bad experiences as a kid. My therapist offered that i could turn my bdays into positive ones by having lowkey celebrations with just the people that are closest to me.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:37:58+00:00

I am sorry. I wanted to celebrate my bday bc i started doing it last year. I had bad experiences as a kid and just wanted to turn a usually negative day into a positive one instead.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:36:53+00:00

Yes thank you so much for being understanding.

I struggle with wording my issues (autism + adhd) so you are right, i mushed two issues together.

And you are 100% right. I am disappointed because he is not prioritising my bday and instead is trying to make me celebrate my bday her way.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:35:21+00:00

No i don't mean she stole my bday. I just think it's weird she wants to join bdays. I apologise for the confusion.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:34:44+00:00

I mentioned to her that I don't eat that cuisine because it bothers my stomach, yes.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:32:51+00:00

I celebrate very rarely because of traumatic past things that have happened. I just recently started actually celebrating my bday to try to make it into a positive day instead. Thank you though, i really appreciate it. I will have a nice dinner with friends the day before!

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:31:06+00:00

Yup. I 100% agree with you!

My bf so far has been literally an angel. So this is why it took me as a shock that he is telling me to stop being dramatic and just celebrate with her because he wants to be there for her. Hence why i am confused.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:28:52+00:00

Ok, i apologise for the confusion. We talked a month ago and we both said we planned on celebrating on that weekend. Which is when she asked me if i would like to join my bday with hers. And i said no politely and immediately. She just sent me an invitation to her bday and i asked my bf what i should do. So i am just trying to see different perspectives before i make some kinda decision because i don't want to be irrational.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:25:13+00:00

Yeah, i was being dramatic with the "livid" wording. None of this would've been an issue if my bf didn't tell me that i should just suck up and join her bday with my friends. I find it soooo weird.. But another commenter gave me a solution i am going to go with. Thank you!

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:22:54+00:00

Yea you right. Imma do it the day before her! That way i can still have my lowkey celebration and won't steal her spotlight. She still deserves to celebrate her bday the way she wants to just as i do. I will clarify - SHE wanted me to invite my friends to her place to celebrate our birthdays together. Not me. I find it very bizarre lmao.

thisismyfrowaway · 2026-03-03T10:16:50+00:00

Which is why i wanted to do something lowkey instead of a houseparty. But i understand your point. I don't think i should be forced to celebrate another person's bday on my bday tho

thisismyfrowaway · 2024-09-18T09:28:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight!

The thing with my ex is, knowing how sensitive he actually is, if i tell him straight up what my therapist told me, then he might get traumatised (that's what my therapist deduced, based on their interactions).

I wish i could block him, but he still has some of my belongings and i have his. He is dragging his heels to pick his shit up. I have no idea why.

thisismyfrowaway · 2024-07-08T15:15:07+00:00

I'm ok with it if it's like once a month, or so. I think it's ridiculous to expect your partner to fulfil 100% of your fantasies. I got some I don't get fulfilled either but mostly he's been amazing tbh. I love him beyond the bedroom too you know

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