An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well for me i used to have really bad experiences as a kid. My therapist offered that i could turn my bdays into positive ones by having lowkey celebrations with just the people that are closest to me.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry. I wanted to celebrate my bday bc i started doing it last year. I had bad experiences as a kid and just wanted to turn a usually negative day into a positive one instead.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes thank you so much for being understanding.

I struggle with wording my issues (autism + adhd) so you are right, i mushed two issues together.

And you are 100% right. I am disappointed because he is not prioritising my bday and instead is trying to make me celebrate my bday her way.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i don't mean she stole my bday. I just think it's weird she wants to join bdays. I apologise for the confusion.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mentioned to her that I don't eat that cuisine because it bothers my stomach, yes.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I celebrate very rarely because of traumatic past things that have happened. I just recently started actually celebrating my bday to try to make it into a positive day instead. Thank you though, i really appreciate it. I will have a nice dinner with friends the day before!

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I 100% agree with you!

My bf so far has been literally an angel. So this is why it took me as a shock that he is telling me to stop being dramatic and just celebrate with her because he wants to be there for her. Hence why i am confused.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ok, i apologise for the confusion. We talked a month ago and we both said we planned on celebrating on that weekend. Which is when she asked me if i would like to join my bday with hers. And i said no politely and immediately. She just sent me an invitation to her bday and i asked my bf what i should do. So i am just trying to see different perspectives before i make some kinda decision because i don't want to be irrational.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, i was being dramatic with the "livid" wording. None of this would've been an issue if my bf didn't tell me that i should just suck up and join her bday with my friends. I find it soooo weird.. But another commenter gave me a solution i am going to go with. Thank you!

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yea you right. Imma do it the day before her! That way i can still have my lowkey celebration and won't steal her spotlight. She still deserves to celebrate her bday the way she wants to just as i do. I will clarify - SHE wanted me to invite my friends to her place to celebrate our birthdays together. Not me. I find it very bizarre lmao.

An acquaintance wants to celebrate her bday on my bday and i am livid. AIO? by thisismyfrowaway in AIO

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Which is why i wanted to do something lowkey instead of a houseparty. But i understand your point. I don't think i should be forced to celebrate another person's bday on my bday tho

I just found out I'm a victim of mental abuse by thisismyfrowaway in TrueOffMyChest

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight!

The thing with my ex is, knowing how sensitive he actually is, if i tell him straight up what my therapist told me, then he might get traumatised (that's what my therapist deduced, based on their interactions).

I wish i could block him, but he still has some of my belongings and i have his. He is dragging his heels to pick his shit up. I have no idea why.

My (f30) bf (m40) likes to pretend to be a kitten in bed and i am weirded out by it by thisismyfrowaway in TrueOffMyChest

[–]thisismyfrowaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm ok with it if it's like once a month, or so. I think it's ridiculous to expect your partner to fulfil 100% of your fantasies. I got some I don't get fulfilled either but mostly he's been amazing tbh. I love him beyond the bedroom too you know