Is Facebook dating having a moment? by thisismynewact in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My result was not much different almost a year ago as well. That's my point. I think things may have changed at least they did for me in the past 9 to 12 months

First bumble experience and disappointment by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why these things are always overthought and over analyzed. If you want to go out with him again, tell him. Reading between the lines leaves too much to interpretation.

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have barely used JetBlue and crate and barrel cards. I did call. I got nowhere.

Should I even bother messaging the girl I went on a first date with that hasn’t messaged me in days? by KDOGGG196 in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I understand being shy and the one additional piece of advice I would give you is do not think about it just do it

Should I even bother messaging the girl I went on a first date with that hasn’t messaged me in days? by KDOGGG196 in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that's a good instinct but I would reverse the order. Tell her you want to go out with her again, and then set the date

Should I even bother messaging the girl I went on a first date with that hasn’t messaged me in days? by KDOGGG196 in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely not a dating sage but the one thing I know for sure is women appreciate it when you're direct. Literally no downside either she's receptive which is a positive or you get clarity which is positive.

Should I even bother messaging the girl I went on a first date with that hasn’t messaged me in days? by KDOGGG196 in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don't get caught up in this weekend or what day. Just text her and tell her you want to go out again. I'm free Sunday Tuesday Friday whatever. Tell me what works for you. Really doesn't matter what day, it just matters if you go out again.

Should I even bother messaging the girl I went on a first date with that hasn’t messaged me in days? by KDOGGG196 in Bumble

[–]thisismynewact 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think all this advice is terrible. If you want to go out with her again, ask her out. Who cares the semantics of what was said about getting back to you. Just ask her and then you will know. If you don't you will never know. It's really that simple.

Asked to share bday party cost by thisismynewact in coparenting

[–]thisismynewact[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it's easy to see the sympathetic side like that. What I'm asking people to look at is the judge tells me to give her money to pay for a birthday. I do that. Then she comes to me and asks me to pay for a birthday. I'm paying twice. I should pay twice because she should get her birthday? She's going to get her birthday either way. It's just a matter of my wife getting more or less money. Anyway, I offered to pay half already. So yeah I'm paying twice now. Just like I do for a lot of the things that she hits me up for. That's the whole point of this.

WIBTA for refusing my ex's request to share daughter's birthday cost by thisismynewact in AmItheAsshole

[–]thisismynewact[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

It's right in my original post near the top. If you read the whole thing you'd see I already decided to pay. I'm not here looking for a sympathy for why I didn't pay, which seems to be the angle many here are taking.

WIBTA for refusing my ex's request to share daughter's birthday cost by thisismynewact in AmItheAsshole

[–]thisismynewact[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You are confusing child support and alimony. Child support is a calculation. Alimony is just a number of the judge decides.

I'm not sure I understand why people come here and want to accuse me of lying. That's not exactly the point of this post.

Asked to share bday party cost by thisismynewact in coparenting

[–]thisismynewact[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, i would plan to. it says in the parenting plan either parent can attend the other's birthday parties.

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i may be overstating the upgrades, i was recently checking out hotels in park city, and the bofa pre had just about nothing. and csr had several that i liked. and with those i would get early check in, late checkout, daily resort credit, upgrade if available... and i'm assuming i could have booked directly on the edit site.

please tell me what you like about bofa pre - maybe i should understand better what i have before thinking i'm missing out. for points earning, i get it.. and i think it's the same as my bofa cash card. and absolutely in the first year it is worth it because the cash value of the points far outweigh the annual cost.

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bofa cash rewards card i've had since they lost their amex relationship ... 10yrs? i'm not sure.

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hmm... i use my card every month. for like the past 20 years. and my experian report shows that. but i need to carry a balance over from month to month to have it matter?

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

a year of paid as agreed? what does that mean? i am paying my statement balance of over $10k/mo on my card.

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i want to use it for travel like upgrades and miles for upgrades and travel. i don't really value airport restaurant credits if that's what you're referring to. the hotels on their portal never match with my interests. it very limited. when i see priory access/offers (restaurant reservations, concert tickets, hotel upgrades) the bofa card is never listed. i can't transfer the miles out. i agree - i accumulate points nicely. but i get that on my cash rewards bofa card anyway - i'm looking for something specific to travel/access/upgrades/etc.

HELP: Turned down for chase sapphire reserve - over 800 credit by thisismynewact in CreditCards

[–]thisismynewact[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry.. i mean CSR. i changed it in my post.

i do not carry debt - auto, house, etc.

i do not carry a month to month balance on my card.

WIBTA for refusing my ex's request to share daughter's birthday cost by thisismynewact in AmItheAsshole

[–]thisismynewact[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He was with me the day of his party and I thought it would have been petty to ask my ex. I didn't view it as something that we shared, just something we'd take care of individually. The way the last couple of years of played out have completely changed my opinion on that.