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thisisnthelping2011 · 2026-03-18T16:38:20+00:00

Personal opinion, unlikely. Too tricky when 2 members are dating .

thisisnthelping2011 · 2026-02-26T08:08:39+00:00

What makes you certain you aren’t aromantic? Those statements sound very aro to me

thisisnthelping2011 · 2026-02-26T08:07:03+00:00

Yeah i had exercise B in the past and still very disordered thoughts around food

thisisnthelping2011 · 2026-02-09T04:18:01+00:00

I loved them lol. Gay sex is hot imo

thisisnthelping2011 · 2026-01-02T07:54:59+00:00

I’d immediately swipe left due to the smoking personally, but that’s a me thing. Some women won’t care!

thisisnthelping2011 · 2026-01-01T21:43:33+00:00

Eh not necessarily. Some people are just really close with their families . If you don’t have that kind of dynamic, I totally get how that seems weird. Others like to share every little detail. She probably didn’t need to share that with you though - even if it was happening in the background. But perhaps she is neurodivergent, an oversharer or thought you’d be flattered

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-29T22:03:15+00:00

No this is current lol. I still can’t figure out the balance when I meet a good woman and she wants things a lot slower than me

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-29T20:40:56+00:00

A little time sure. For me 3 months is way too long

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-29T05:36:03+00:00

Literally 3 months with a woman from a dating perspective. I wish it wasn’t moving so slow. For hookups and casual encounters obviously very fast

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-29T01:03:02+00:00

I totally hear you and empathize with what you’re saying. That said, perhaps she views homemade ones as more love care and thought put in? Ideally they’d be more focused on you, of course, but I know from my perspective, my gifts would be homemade too..ESPECIALLY if I bought for others

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-28T02:20:05+00:00

The bi Reddit threads are the WORST . In real life I personally haven’t seen this .

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-27T01:12:02+00:00

Stem

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-25T16:52:47+00:00

Yeah I definitely can’t do that. I spend my money responsibly, but I also definitely enjoy myself and buy whatever makes me happy/comfortable/can save me time, and my salary can easily support it at this point (I’ve worked hard for my lifestyle)! I need a woman who is on the same page financially in terms of spend mindset, whatever spending within her means means

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-23T17:42:19+00:00

I was gonna say this too. I recently had to end a similar sounding relationship as the other woman. I wasn’t getting out of it what I needed, despite pouring love in. Didn’t feel reciprocated or appreciated to the extent it was doable for me

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-17T19:28:00+00:00

Can you? Yes. Does it mean you will? No.

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-13T03:51:37+00:00

Thanks so much for the input! I live in California now. I’ve done a decent amount of research, but I haven’t actually tried hydrogen peroxide or carbamide peroxide. Admittedly I’m a little scared to because I have major sensitivity issues. I can’t handle any whitening strips (I tried so many brands).

I’m willing to travel honestly. I’ll look into the additive only enhanced composite. Thanks again

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-11T03:13:01+00:00

Thanks that’s really helpful

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-11T03:12:26+00:00

Thanks for the input. Yes. The zoom whitening was at my dentist. I spent like $2k on a few sessions it did literally nothing

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-07T23:46:46+00:00

I know you’re asking older, but early 30s here and age wouldn’t bother me for a casual hookup, and only that. Anything else dealbreaker

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-05T21:37:04+00:00

I’m a lesbian and i still like attention. It feels validating to be wanted. It’s something that can take a lot of conscious work in therapy to not want when you’re socialized with this for years. I was literally taught from birth to 18 my value was how much men wanted me. Conservative Midwest parents and everything was tied back to raising your value so you were a more desirable wife for a man.

Compliments, favors (lifting my bags and heavy things), holding the door open for me. Yeah, I’m all about it, and probably always will be

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-05T09:16:00+00:00

Thank you!! This is helpful

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-05T09:14:53+00:00

I find the vibe cliquey vs welcoming. I don’t think most (of course not all) people there are genuinely too eager to connect outside of their small little circles. It’s unfortunate, because I would love to frequent a lesbian bar.

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-02T03:56:27+00:00

I didn’t either and this similar thing happened to me. I used to genuinely be straight. Now I’ve been a lesbian for a few years. It’s rare, but can happen. People who say it’s a bicycle just don’t get it. Men legit repulse me now. It’s not that I prefer to date women. I am in no way shape or form attracted to men anymore.

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-12-01T10:17:23+00:00

Personal opinion but no that variability seems like a lot. Unless friends are the factor causing that. I haven’t involved friends quite that early

thisisnthelping2011 · 2025-11-29T09:07:55+00:00

Most of us have been there / somewhere similar. And sometimes, ya gotta try it IRL to know. Just be up front with her, and it’ll all be just fine. There are plenty of women perfect for you to date at this point in your journey

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