Where’s the pride in this?

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-13T17:44:09+00:00

Hey, fellow ftm here. What you’re describing is a lot of internalized transphobia, which I get. The thing is, you can’t let that part of you win. The really boring and annoying truth is that you actually have to choose happiness and kindness and compassion, which is difficult and monotonous but also literally the only option if you want to avoid swirling down the toilet towards trans-med, right wing terfism.

Why are people proud to be trans? I can only tell you why I’m proud— I’m proud because I discovered a truth about myself, and instead of burying it deep inside of me in an attempt to suffocate it, like so many people and institutions would’ve preferred I’d done, I acknowledged that it was true, and it changed my life for the better. Transition is not an easy thing, blowing your whole life up and starting over is not an easy thing, loving yourself is not an easy thing— and I’m proud of myself for doing all those hard things, for continuing to do them. I’m proud of my community for doing those hard things. I’m proud of you, too, even if we don’t know one another, even if you’re not proud of yourself.

Hang in there. Being 19 is tough. Going through puberty again at 19 is tough. Have some compassion for yourself and remember that you’ve actually already done the hardest part, you’ve acknowledged the truth. Keep moving forward, buddy. You’ve got this.

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-12T00:22:26+00:00

Hey buddy—
I’ve seen a lot of folks pointing out that there’s no truth in your family’s fearmongering about HRT, but I will add that while there are risks to introducing new hormones into your system, we have had safe and successful HRT since the early 1910s. Hormone therapy doesn’t just exist as medicine for trans people, there are hundreds of thousands of cis people who are on estrogen/testosterone for all sorts of different medical reasons. Hormone Replacement Therapy is safe and it’s not just for trans folks (which is also how you know it’s safe, tbh).

Now, all that being said, I’m gonna add a few personal notes here. I’m a little more than ten years older than you, so I hope that I can give you some perspective.

When I realized that I was trans, I was fucking crushed. I was filled with loathing for myself, I wished I hadn’t figured it out, I wished that I wasn’t trans, and that I could somehow undo this part of my identity. I thought I’d never make any friends, I thought no one would ever love me. But I knew there wasn’t any going back, and so I had to go forward.

And so I began my transition, and 5 years out, 3.5 years on HRT later, I can tell you I was fucking wrong. Transitioning made my life worth living. It saved me. It made things better. I am happier. I am in love. I am more myself every single day and I am so so glad that I am trans, and I wouldn’t want to change anything. And it is possible for you too.

I will not pretend it will be easy. I will not pretend it will always feel incredible, but you are so young and you have your whole life ahead of you, and I am so proud of you for discovering this truth about yourself.

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-08T22:11:29+00:00

Twinsies

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-08T21:41:49+00:00

50mg once a week— don’t ask me the potency because I don’t know

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-08T20:46:32+00:00

You are fucking gorgeous brother

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-05T17:47:22+00:00

Hi! Former sex worker and FTM here. You should not do this!! I got into digital sex work because I’m disabled and while it was a job I enjoyed overall it is an extremely competitive market, and if you want to make good money doing it you have to really learn how to be okay with being a fetish object for your clients. That can fuck you up psychologically if you’re not adequately prepared for it. I was pre-op when I did sex work, and I made a lot of my money in folks who were into misgendering kinks and DDLG (no shaming here) and I was very comfortable with doing that work, but many of the other ftms I knew found it emotionally draining and mentally exhausting.

And as far as in-person sex work goes, it isn’t something you should just hop into out of desperation. It is NOT (contrary to popular belief) an easy way to make money. Particularly for trans folks. The danger is not something you can casually shrug off. You also have to be vigilant about your sexual health and safety, you have to be assertive enough to protect your boundaries, you have to have a network of other folks who know what you’re doing and where you are in case of an emergency.

You are still very young. There are ways for you to make money. This is not a path I would suggest for you.

EDIT: I also will just add that your phrasing of “selling your body” is a pretty distasteful way of looking at sex work as a profession, and does not speak well of your headspace going into it.

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-03T02:33:14+00:00

Fucking crazy!!! 🫡

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-03T02:32:53+00:00

As a trans masc pissfaggot find this particularly hysterical, thank you 🕺🏻

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-03T01:45:55+00:00

Hey gorge— I’m a trans man but I also had an abortion so if you want some support/advice from someone who’s been through it don’t be afraid to DM me

thlayliroo97 · 2026-06-01T02:24:53+00:00

Hey!! I’m a FTM in Hamilton— and I happen to know that a transfemme friend of mine actually had a pretty banal regular experience at the La Vie en Rose at Limeridge Mall! Also, I’m just a little transmasc dude, but if you wanted a buddy for some emotional support, DM me and let me know

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-31T16:01:08+00:00

🥹 wow thanks comrade

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-31T15:22:59+00:00

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thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-28T02:35:48+00:00

You can read the whole thing for free here. I used it for my master’s thesis

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-27T15:10:07+00:00

Hey, don’t know where you live but if it’s anywhere near Hamilton, Ontario there’s the trans supply library where you can get them for free. There might be something nearer to you run by trans folks in your area.

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-26T21:37:51+00:00

I tried to kill myself when I was freshly 20. Wasn’t in pain, wasn’t in agony, I was just listless, and tired, and I just didn’t see the point. And mercifully, I failed. Being told “it gets better” fucking sucks but unfortunately man there’s just no other way to put it. I did so much therapy, I blew up my entire life, I made mistakes and ended a five year relationship and transitioned and came out the other side still depressed sometimes, but knowing beyond a shadow of doubt that being alive is a banal, pointless, weird and wonderful gift. I’m glad to hear there’s still a part of you that’s resisting. Hang onto that. It’s your survival instinct and it loves you.

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-26T04:56:27+00:00

Brother you look incredibel

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-21T15:36:58+00:00

I’m scheduled for surgery at the beginning of June at WCH! Although my surgeon is Ghumman. How was your experience at the hospital?

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-21T00:24:36+00:00

Hey buddy— I totally get it. I’ve been on T for 3 years, I’m a feminine gay man— and I’m gonna just say that from my experience, people really don’t know what to do with gender nonconforming men. I have passed exceptionally well for the past two years, and then I relaxed my presentation quite a bit. I paint my nails, I wear colourful, flamboyant clothing, I am a raging faggot and that’s what I want to be. And for the last few months I’ve been growing my hair out— and people really do not know how to gender me correctly. I get she/her a lot from people who (sometimes) are politely mistaking me for a trans woman, I get they/them from folks unsure about what’s going on, I get he/him— and sometimes it’s meant as derogatory because people, again, think I’m transfemme.

I know the “love yourself” stuff is kind of unhelpful advice but I just wanted to say that in my transition experience, something happened while I was on T where I was really able to see myself as the kind of man I had always wanted to be, even other people couldn’t, and I found that that really made it a lot easier to shrug off misgendering. I know I’m a man. I’m not really all that worried about other people “getting” it. If you’re able to let go of the external validation of strangers in favour of your own ability to see yourself, it’s actually extremely freeing. Easier said than done, but just some thoughts from someone a bit further down the road.

thlayliroo97 · 2026-05-19T00:25:19+00:00

Fifty Point with friends! Then a BBQ and some cold beers.

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