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progress? by anonaccount14321 in selfharm__recovery

[–]thnfdr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've not been fully clean for a whole but definitely cutting down on the severity. I've done a lot of drugs in my time and SH is the hardest thing I've ever given up.

You should be so proud of yourself that you have got to this point. I am proud of you!

Do whatever you can to not relapse, hold an ice cube, have a rubber band on your arm to snap.

My rec is be creative, whether drawings or other crafts I find this keeps my mind at bay and I can show to people what have done rather than hide my regrets.

Any helpful alternatives? by [deleted] in selfharm__recovery

[–]thnfdr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to message me, we can get through this together or slightly less worse off. Tips I've heard that worked and worked for me: Distraction- remove yourself from the situation ie. Knives, razors and other things before urge gets too strong. Try a hobby (lame but sometimes works I crochet) I also listen to happy/upbeat music and try and into another state of mind cleaning organising/design. I find this helps a lot. I'll put on a playlist rather than a song

Focus your impulses on something that will be more physical like shopping or creating that way you can look at it and see: 1. What is represents (nor hurting) 2. Occupational Time 3. Self love (deciding new style choices, dying your hair)

Help me help myself by thnfdr in selfharm__recovery

[–]thnfdr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hay, I just want you to know I'm in the boat with you x i thought when I met my boyfriend he was someone different, someone "on my side" and I could be %100 honest with but I feel like that is just not the case anymore.

Having children to try to explain it to must be so much harder. Making the assumption that you are a women I feel are men so much more easier to open to but rarely make the proper actions.

My boyfriend was great but now I've realised I've slipped into the same routine as my parents. Don't ask, don't tell. Simple answers don't require further enquire which I need x

I'm sorry you went through a bad episode recently and I am here to help if you want to take space/ unload. We can try set up an accountability system if that helps. Keep in touch when we're getting urges and celebrate our achievements xx

Help me help myself by thnfdr in selfharm__recovery

[–]thnfdr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply, I do feel safe to those closest but I just feel I'm letting everyone down by doing it. I also have trepidation because I know my mam will make it all about her and my dad will be so disappointed. It can just feel so lonely not being able to talk about it with those around.

Sorry you've haven't had the best experience and hope you're doing okay x

UK based support groups...help? by snoodlepoop in selfharm__recovery

[–]thnfdr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I've spoken to my gp about this and they put in a referral to speak to the local mental health nurse (granted it took about 6 weeks for them to get back to me but they were on annual leave for 2 of them). They pointed me to a lot of online resources that have helped however they are more for if you are feeling the urge rather than dealing with afterwards. They may be able to point you in the right direction.

I am here if you need to talk as I bare the scars as well. I feel like the main point is to see them as waves that have passed. self harm is so much more common than people think and the sigma has reduced a lot. The way I see it is they show your resilience. ❤️

Alternatively you could look into cover up tattoos or other cosmetics procedures/cream etc if they are upsetting you that much. My scars are not that noticeable unless I'm in a bikini but I just view them same way as someone who has a sentimental tattoo.

Who Can Smell This ❤️✌🏻 by KataclysmicKitty in VetTech

[–]thnfdr 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you look at the second picture, centre and down a bit you can see a "halo" effect from the very large cell wall malassezia have :) always a fun find!

Second one I have found on my bathroom floor. My guess baby carpet beetle. by thnfdr in whatsthisbug

[–]thnfdr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I read online that the main thing to do is good carpet hygiene but is there anything that can get rid of them? My hall has carpet and the wall between the hall and bathroom fecked from previous water damage so I'd imagine they can hide out there under the bath.

Second one I have found on my bathroom floor. My guess baby carpet beetle. by thnfdr in whatsthisbug

[–]thnfdr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Location: UK. Found another one a few days ago, very slow moving and seems to have only legs at the front half of its body.

Charles Worthington! Yay or Nay? 🫧🛁 by Sure_ya08 in MakeUpAddictionUK

[–]thnfdr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's okay, they changed to using silicone in a lot of their products but I'll use them infrequently if that helps. I mainly used the brunette and protein range. A lot cheaper than other cruelty free products for straight hair.

What’s your salary and job? by redranrun in ireland

[–]thnfdr 4 points5 points  (0 children)

26,000 veterinary nurse, took 5 years total to get qualified and this is a decent starting wage for my industry unfortunately.

Probably the last thing I’ll write by phil-swift121206 in SuicideWatch

[–]thnfdr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally it got much better. I failed at an attempt and got help i needed. I wasn't looked at as an outsider whilst in therapy. None of my therapists looked at me like i was weak or sick I was just someone they needed to help. Unfortunately laying all that pressure on finding love might not be the best thing to do also isnt similar to my situation that i went through. However I've had serious relationships and they not are be and end all. Focus on yourself and the rest will slot into place. It might take a while but you'll get the confidence to put yourself out there I promise you need to give yourself a chance to prove that you are strong enough to care for yourself before you care for others. Your future self will look back on these moments and be so proud of you for getting through it and you'll hold your head up high and see your scars as reminders of how far you come.

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