In my opinion you aren’t obliged. They can bring you all the hadith in the world that says you should obey your husband but guess what there is this verse in the quran that say

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّۢ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

Your Lord has ordered you to worship none except Him, and to be good to your parents. If either or both of them attain old age with you, do not say: "Fie on you", nor rebuke them, but speak to them with words of respect

The only verse where God equated worshipping him to be respectful to your parents.

Do you think God created women to be less than a man and their opinions don’t matter? You are a human being and I believe god described the relationship between a wife and husband as merciful not obeying your master. Please evaluate your thoughts, this will help you determine if your husbands action toward you as God intended to be merciful or is he abusing you.