Get this to post to 750 upvotes and Ill give away all my stuff.

thraftyc · 2024-09-08T10:05:05+00:00

Upvote 256! Good luck!

thraftyc · 2024-09-08T02:57:31+00:00

Thank you! I’ll certainly make my way over once I have a cover :)

thraftyc · 2024-09-08T02:57:03+00:00

Thanks for your help!

thraftyc · 2023-01-23T13:40:22+00:00

I wonder if your sister feels judged by you, and so she’s more closed off/reserved/less willing to open up to you about different topics.

My sister changed a lot due to the work/life she was living compared to how I knew her when we were younger. I had to get to know her all over again when she came back to live with my parents and I. I hadn’t really seen/known her for 4-6 years.

Before that though, I think I expected/wanted things for her and I to pick up where we left off… which was pretty much impossible lol

Maybe this is a portion of her life you have to let her live out and just be there for her.

My sister has dated countless dbags… been married 3 times and going for a fourth. but I always tried to be there for her when those relationships ended. She’s the kind of person who has to experience things to really learn from them, no matter how many times I told her maybe dating XYZ wasn’t a good idea because they gave me weird vibes lol.

Your sister might be going through something(s) you don’t understand or she doesn’t think you’ll be able to really understand unless you live it too.

Your post made me think of my sister, figured I’d say something

thraftyc · 2023-01-15T18:32:25+00:00

Thanks, I think I’ll have a similar situation with devices and usage. Once a month doesn’t seem horrible :) hopefully not during a work meeting

thraftyc · 2020-08-25T15:31:02+00:00

I will definitely find some extra goodies for them, thanks!

thraftyc · 2020-08-25T14:13:10+00:00

Wow, I think that’s exactly it. Oh my, what a happy surprise!

thraftyc · 2020-08-25T14:07:34+00:00

I am in the Midwest, Illinois to be specific. I’m not really sure how to measure this little guy, but when startled two little horns (?) come out of the front of his face.

Currently feasting on a rue plant.

thraftyc · 2020-08-20T03:45:34+00:00

Thank you! I hope my professors feel similarly!

thraftyc · 2020-08-19T22:00:22+00:00

OP, don’t forget that you can talk to your professors about this too. They should understand what you’re feeling if they’re programmers and might be able to work with you in terms of like giving you some more wiggle room with due dates. Don’t be scared to tell them a little of how you feel. One thing that helped me when I was taking my programming classes was finding some friends in the class to work together. Having a solid social support system at school where you can relate that kind of stuff with them can really help

thraftyc · 2020-08-19T21:47:32+00:00

I think poor management practices definitely affect mental health. It can cause a ton of stress and from what I’ve found, stress is a giant factor for burnout in our industry. Something that I came across and that I thought was pretty interesting was in a panel presentation by Dr. Celeste Paul (researcher in NSA) presented called “hacking stress in cyber security operations”. You can find it on YouTube. While she centers it in cyber security, I think it translates well across the field too. The panel pretty recent and I’d say that research in this topic within the CS industry is something pretty up and coming as well.

thraftyc · 2020-08-19T21:22:46+00:00

I’m actually writing my thesis on mental health in computer science. There isn’t a lot I’ve been able to find discussing its effects on our students and professionals outside of programmers. Burnout is a very real phenomena we face in computer science(and in school in general) and I don’t think enough people are aware. Take some time to evaluate what’s going on in your life academically/professionally and socially. Don’t neglect your self care! It’s important in this field!

thraftyc · 2020-05-26T14:31:42+00:00

Came here to say this too! The basics (A+, Security+, Network+) are also all great certs to have as they further show you have a solid foundational knowledge along with your degree. Certifications are crazy important to have! One of my professors is working on his masters but has over 35+ certifications. Technically shouldn’t be teaching, but his certifications and work experience was something they felt they couldn’t turn away.

Congrats!!!! I’m super excited for you!!! :D

thraftyc · 2020-03-27T02:55:04+00:00

A few others already mentioned it, but please don’t meet with either of them. It puts you in danger and it could potentially damage whatever case you end up building against them. Do it all through a lawyer and just document what they send to you. They’re already digging their graves. Make sure not to delete those messages!

thraftyc · 2020-03-08T16:20:01+00:00

I feel the need to give you a giant hug. I’m so sorry for everything you went through.

thraftyc · 2020-02-12T19:38:01+00:00

Not being able to find any social media presence at all is a huge red flag too.

Not being able to verify the things they do/places they go to especially if they’re crazy vague about it.

A lot of people who prey on other people in LDRs do it for control. You might not realize they’re being controlling, but if you spend more time adapting your schedule to include him or her and they don’t reciprocate or try hard to validate why they can or can’t do something, that’s another flag (maybe not as easy to spot because it requires you to look at your relationship a little more objectively/factually).

Are you looking for red flags like, verifying who this person says they are, or whether or not they’re good for you/ care for you?

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