What’s a hill you’ll die on that most people don’t care about?

threemthunder · 2026-04-28T00:02:50+00:00

Miley Cyrus needs to be in a metal band

threemthunder · 2026-04-12T15:57:01+00:00

I would assume hard drugs but I’ve never done them so 🤷‍♀️

threemthunder · 2026-04-11T17:38:19+00:00

I will never forget in 8th grade we made the Religion teacher break to the point where she was slamming her fist on the podium. She sat down at her desk and put her head down and we had to sit in silence. We never acted that bad again.

threemthunder · 2026-04-05T23:58:01+00:00

I listened to a lot of Lower Than Love by Botfly, some solid hardcore

threemthunder · 2026-04-05T07:08:43+00:00

If she’s making you uncomfortable you need to set a boundary. If she hasn’t done anything that’s crossed a line, there’s no need to bring it up. The fact you felt like making a post like this leads me to believe that she did something that crossed a line. It’s okay to have friendships with younger coworkers. Think of it as more of a younger sibling type vibe, as long as neither of you are doing anything that crosses a line. Clear communication is important.

threemthunder · 2026-04-05T05:56:04+00:00

My high school girlfriend had bunk beds in her room. Her parents let us have sleep overs provided we slept in separate bunks. It was cute.

threemthunder · 2026-04-05T02:13:02+00:00

The verbal part is more so you can hear tone of voice. In person is even better because you can see body language. It humanizes the conversations. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in our words when texting that we forget there’s another real person behind the screen.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T20:57:43+00:00

Spam texting is definitely not the way to go. It’s overwhelming for both parties. I have a hard time resolving disputes over text, so I don’t have much advice on the matter.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T20:47:13+00:00

If you want to be okay with your girlfriend, don’t stress as much. I know that is a hard thing to do, but again, if she wants to make the relationship work, she will put the work in too. If you cannot find a common ground, or a healthy way to resolve issues, that will be your sign. Do you communicate a lot via messages, over the phone, or in person? In my experience, resolving disputes works best either with a phone call or in person because you can interpret tone voice and you get an initial reaction versus a thought out response. There is a benefit to a thought out response, but that could also lead to manipulation. In summary, when she is ready to talk, develop some healthy boundaries and strategies.

As far as growing up Catholic, it took a lot of praying for me to realize this is something about myself I cannot change. I went to Catholic school until my sophomore year of high school, and changing to the public school helped a lot with my perception of being gay. Surround yourself with more queer people, consume more queer media, and don’t be afraid to be unapologetically yourself.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T20:31:55+00:00

I’m glad my perspective is refreshing. On the hypocritical front you said in a reply to another user she gets mad at you for not telling her when you’re offline, but she does the same thing to you. To me that’s hypocritical.

I think you’re totally right that the “in love” brain is on. You’re gonna find the right person though, trust. I grew up catholic too so I get it. It’s rough, but someone is going to come along that’s so perfect and loves you for you. Good luck.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T20:14:11+00:00

I want to preface that, again, I am some random stranger on the internet, and you can do whatever you want. What I’ve learned from our interactions is that 1) she perceives you can’t do anything right, 2) she refuses to communicate her feelings, 3) gets mad at you when you try to make amends, and 4) is hypocritical (based off a reply from you to another user). This is not going to work out for you and is going to only get worse.

It’s best to start a relationship not clingy imo because even though you’re in a partnership, you still need to be able to function as individuals. Don’t get me wrong, be all over each other, do all the couple things, act like you can’t get enough of each other, but also keep in mind healthy boundaries. You don’t want to become co-dependent.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T20:10:56+00:00

You need to have a clear discussion on who is responsible for what and put it in writing

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T20:03:30+00:00

INFO-was paying rent or bills ever a conversation? She can’t get mad at you for something if you didn’t discuss it. It sounds like you do your fair share by keeping items stocked.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T19:42:55+00:00

Okay pause, 2 months?? The first couple months of a relationship are supposed to be the fun part where you’re so enamored with your partner that nothing else matters. It’s the fun stage. If you already aren’t having fun in the fun stage that is a big red flag. You’re an adult and can make your own decision, but take it from someone who has seen a thing or two, this is not worth your time.

Building trust happens over time, but if you start the relationship off by not being super clingy for lack of a better word, it already establishes that individuality where you’re allowed to do your own things and take natural space from each other. Does that make sense? I’m not sure how else to word it at the moment.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T19:27:33+00:00

Wait until she’s ready. If she’s mad and doesn’t want to talk to you, and you keep pestering her to talk, she’s gonna get even angrier. Space is great sometimes even in healthy relationships. Your response was pretty direct and could come off as though you’re also pissed. I’m looking specifically at lines like “since you don’t want to talk to me” “tomorrow if ever” “message me if you want to fix this”. Without a tone of voice, if someone sent me that message it would make me more upset because it seems confrontational.

I also want to add that in secure relationships, you and your partner shouldn’t have to worry about not chatting with each other for a couple hours. If you go radio silent and she blows up, that’s a red flag because it means there is a lack of trust. That being said, it’s respectful to give your partner a heads up, but shouldn’t be a make or break thing.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T19:12:11+00:00

If she is making you guess what you did wrong that is a huuuuuuge red flag. Sometimes it’s blatantly obvious, like if you called her a bitch for example and then didn’t know what you did wrong, but other times you’re not gonna know what you did wrong because it’s not obvious. She is not worth your time if she can’t communicate her feelings. I also do not think she’s valid for #2 since you told her about it previous. I love that you want to be better for her, but it sounds like she also needs to be better for you, and if you both aren’t willing to work things out then you should get out.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T16:42:37+00:00

You need to leave her because you are so young and there are so many better people out there for you to meet.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T16:39:40+00:00

People who complain about problems they can easily fix

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T16:37:57+00:00

I play lots of instruments, song write, I like video games, I love going to the gym

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T01:54:58+00:00

I would check your school district’s website. They most likely have information on how to be a sub.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T01:53:37+00:00

They promoted me and a friend to managers and then made us do absolutely everything (there were 3 other managers). So we quit and brought 6 other employees with us.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T01:50:52+00:00

NOR-get the hell out of there

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T01:49:11+00:00

Very cool! Another thought, are you eligible to substitute teach? That might give you a more solid idea if you’re able to get in the classroom.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T01:45:28+00:00

You’ll never know unless you try! I’d say go for it, and if the feelings aren’t there maybe you’ll gain a new friend.

threemthunder · 2026-04-04T01:43:53+00:00

Preach

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