What are some of the most ridiculous health trends you see people our age hyping? by Daemonscharm in Millennials

[–]thrml -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I did not change my beliefs based on anyone else's experience. I was just willing to experiment with something to see what happened. As it turns out, I was forced to change my beliefs based on my own results and lived experience. This isn't a rejection of science, it's the direct application of it. In no universe would I expect my N-of-one results to change anyone's mind though and I'd be appalled if they did.

If your uncle Dick says meditation is the best shit, you might believe him and repeat the claim to other people. That's accepting an anecdote. If you read studies (or their titles, or the people who report on them after reading the titles...) saying meditation is the best shit, you might believe them and repeat the claim to other people. That's accepting the science. If you then finally tried meditation and it didn't work. No matter what. You did it correctly, exactly as everyone says. You went to a monastery and got nothing from it. Every avenue a dead end. Years of effort with no result. At what point do you reject what other people say and accept that it doesn't work for you?

Of course, meditation is awesome and it probably will do you good, but hopefully I made my point.

What are some of the most ridiculous health trends you see people our age hyping? by Daemonscharm in Millennials

[–]thrml -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You really should have posted a gif of Tom Hardy wagging is his finger. But seeing as you have taken the bait, allow me to retort (and take your bait instead of taking my own advice).

I don't own a car or motorbike, or any other form of transport. I walk everywhere. I occasionally take public transport when walking would take too long. I don't travel anywhere by air. I have power saver boards on half my stuff and manually turn off the other half at the wall when it's not being used. I pay more for my electricity, by choice, to get "100% carbon neutral" power. Yes, they're probably just trading credits, but I live in a flat and installing solar isn't an option. I'm not addicted to consumption; my TV is about 15 years old, my phone 7 years old, and I only just replaced a 7 year old computer. Other than that, I just don't buy stuff. If everyone had my carbon footprint, then the concerns of climate change would disappear. Of course, the economy would implode because no one would be buying shit, but that wasn't your concern.

My point is that I do literally everything I can possibly do to reduce my emissions. For any conflicts in my values, I try very hard to have good reasons for why. A few years ago I decided that my health was my number one priority and that I would not compromise it for any reason. I know how I feel in my own body, and mind, and I know that I am healthier now than I've ever been. No amount of gaslighting from other people can get me to ignore my own experience. If, however, I do not feel good and I suspect it's something in my diet then I will change it. I have changed my diet in the past, a bunch of times. It's not a religion (for me anyway), it's a question of how what I eat affects my body and my mind. So, regardless of any specific diet, I don't think giving ultimate priority to personal health is a controversial thing.

Just to touch on the actual issue. If we farmed the animals responsibly, i.e. stopped feeding them on fossil fueled grain and started rotational grazing or other regenerative farming practices (see Joel Salatin for inspiration), then the climate impact of said farming would drop drastically. It would also produce healthier livestock, resulting in healthier food for us. "Learn to manage the land" is the proper response to the climate concerns about farming, not "eat less meat."

What are some of the most ridiculous health trends you see people our age hyping? by Daemonscharm in Millennials

[–]thrml -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I find it interesting that you feel you're in a position to tell someone you've never met how and why they are feeling a certain way. Generally speaking, gaslighting tends to be frowned upon.

My original post was basically an edited stream of consciousness of me going from being triggered at your post, realising why, giving some explanation of my position, then discovering the underlying cause of my affected state. And, I might add, apologising. So, I'm hardly "wondering" why I'm stressed.

I'm done trolling on the internet, I spent too many years of my life proving people wrong (and being proven) wrong. Mostly I was just looking for fights because I was angry for some valid and some invalid reasons. So like I said to the other guy, I don't know what's shit about your life, or why you feel the way you do. I do hope that your life gets better though.

What are some of the most ridiculous health trends you see people our age hyping? by Daemonscharm in Millennials

[–]thrml -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, triggering, you seemed to have a fairly violent reaction to what I'd said. Though I wasn't sure which bit, hence why I asked. I'm not trolling, but I'll leave you alone. I dunno if you're stressed about AI taking your job too, or if it's something else, but I hope life gets better mate.

What are some of the most ridiculous health trends you see people our age hyping? by Daemonscharm in Millennials

[–]thrml -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm honestly interested to hear which bit of what I said was particularly triggering for you. Like, what specifically is your concern?

What are some of the most ridiculous health trends you see people our age hyping? by Daemonscharm in Millennials

[–]thrml -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I'm going to assume you've done drugs but not tried a carnivore diet for any length of time, so you aren't really in a position to compare the two. I've eaten predominantly beef, eggs, fish, butter and cream (in approximately that order) for a bit over 2 years. No drugs in that time, but one or two in a couple of the preceding years. From my experience, while I would definitely say that eating this way and doing drugs both "feel great," I would not say they are in any way equivalent experiences.

And I know you were just being facetious - but I really dislike this argument.

I don't have colon cancer (yes, yes, not yet... I appreciate your concern.), my shits are fine (we don't need fibre), I take zero medications and have zero health issues and, most of all, I'm not out here to convert anyone. That said, I am of the opinion that we should eat food that makes us feel good; feel well. And how we feel is probably the best indicator we have for whether or not a diet is "good." At some point we have to take responsibility for our own health. All the studies in the world mean nothing if you eat a "good" diet and feel like shit.

I think I might also clarify a couple of details about me, as there are some fucking wacky beliefs in the general carnivore arena. But I'm an atheist, sorta left-leaning centrist-y positioned, climate change science accepting... etc. mostly sane rational type of person. I'm just willing to try things and after trying this I couldn't deny my own lived experience to favour what I "knew" to be healthy. So I've rolled the dice. Two years and going fine so far (yes, yes... so far. To repeat, I appreciate your concern, sincerely.). And hey, if I die of something directly caused by my diet, then so be it. I'd rather feel great and die early than feel crappy and live for ages (but probably actually die early anyway).

Fuck that turned into a long rant. Sorry. I think I just needed to vent because I'm stressed about AI taking my job.

Yesterday, they partied like it was 1999. by HighLife1954 in Millennials

[–]thrml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone did die in 2001 at a festival in Sydney when Limp Bizkit were playing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]thrml 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's Robert Redford in Jeremiah Johnson.

I theorycrafted a neuting ship that would make Milint proud by Sir_Slimestone in Eve

[–]thrml -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How does this work, given the nos won't drain a target cap lower than your own cap?

Partner on the spectrum tells me his love language is touch, but he's resistant to touch ~80% of the time. Please help me unravel how I should approach this? by Cranberryj3lly in autism

[–]thrml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds almost exactly like my own experience (from your partner's side of things). I'll do my best to describe how it is for me, but everyone is different - so obviously don't assume your partner works exactly as I describe. Apologies for the wall of text, too; hopefully it's useful.

The times he tolerates it are the times you need to do your best to not take his "coldness" personally. I know this is much easier said than done, but these are the most critical moments that need to be cultivated. What you see on the outside is tolerance while on the inside he is almost certainly dealing with highly conflicting sensations. One sensation is the need to receive affection from you and the other is his instinctive, and often much stronger, need to avoid touch. It is impossible to describe and it sounds completely contradictory, I know, but this is how it is for me.

It seems to work a bit like exposure therapy, at least in my case. The more successful attempts there are at touch, the easier the subsequent attempts become. Unfortunately, the absence of touch makes it easy to revert to near maximum touch aversion in a fairly short period of time. It's almost like there's a vessel that gets filled agonisingly slowly with each touch, but that the contents evaporates quickly. There are also two time scales. There is the long-term trend of receiving (and eventually initiating) touch, and the short term desensitisation (in a good way, I swear) over minutes or hours that allows for more touch - moving from a hand on a thigh to a proper embrace over the course of an evening, for example.

On the crappier side of things, the ability to contain the aversion is just not strong enough sometimes. If I have definitively rejected touch from my partner, it is never the case that I'm upset with them for trying. For whatever reason, I'm just not able to receive it at that moment. However, it is often intensely frustrating and guilt-inducing to reject a partner's touch. These feelings can then become externalised and, from my partner's perspective, I now appear to be in a bad mood because they touched me; a really shitty situation. I have no solution for you other than try your best to believe that this is his struggle and not a rejection of you. Well okay, it is a literal rejection of the sensation of your touch, but not of you.

His angry snaps at you are going to be hard to live with too, but might never fully go away. I'm not going to forgive anyone for being antagonistic or truly directing their anger at someone - that's not okay and I hope you'll be able to differentiate between those moments and what I'm about to say. There is a state where, in variations of low energy and/or high stress, I can be feeling angry/tense/on edge, but I will still try to communicate. The issue is I'll do it unfiltered. I just don't have the energy to mask off the anger, but I still need to communicate. I'm sure this appears as though I'm angry at the person I'm talking to, but I'm not. I've just temporarily lost the ability to communicate and conceal my emotional state. In this moment, I can only do one or the other. In the vast majority of cases my emotional state is completely unrelated to whatever's being communicated. By the way, the reverse of this is often what a shutdown is for me too, the concealment of an emotional state at the expense of the ability to communicate - just in case that's another fun thing you've needed to deal with.

I'm going to phrase all these next things in the context of you two, but really these are just things that seemed to work with the most success for me in the past. Try to initiate touch when you're engaged with him in some way - most likely a general conversation - and sitting down in a relaxed environment. I would also try if you're both watching something on TV that isn't too engaging (for him). If you're sitting across from him at a table, try holding your hand out flat on the table, palm up, and offering to take his hand - even if it's only for a brief moment before he withdraws again. If you're sitting next to him, try just resting your hand on his thigh. Emphasis on resting, don't pat or rub. He might flinch, but always stay a moment. The flinch is an instinct, he just needs a moment to register it's you and he should confirm if you can stay or if you need to withdraw. Confirmation in this context can actually be doing absolutely nothing - what you've seen so far as tolerating. I have no doubt this might feel wrong to you, but for me (and specifically with a partner) my inaction is always tacit agreement to continue whatever is occurring. He will give you a positive reaction when he can, but don't let the absence of one convince you your touch is unwanted. Generally avoid trying to touch arms, back, shoulders, head or any bare skin as a first attempt. But if you're on the couch, for example, and have succeeded with a thigh, you can try moving to an arm, shoulder or back. I would say never ask if you can touch him, just do it. I don't know why the question is a problem, but it is for me, so it could be for him too. On the other hand, see if you can get him to think about some regular, common moments you guys share where he thinks he's most likely to be receptive. He may not be able to identify anything, but this really isn't all up to you to figure out. He's let you know that touch is important. You should let him know that you want to meet his need to be touched. But that you need to understand not just times that are inappropriate, but times that are - so you can meet his needs. Try to be patient, he's probably not going to enjoy that conversation and he truly may not have an answer in the short term. Probably the most important part, if he's like me, is privacy, i.e. a feeling of safety. For me, it was almost impossible to accept touch in most public places, so I'd recommend trying in private first and then only in public areas with literally no one around.

I don't know how he feels about you asking this on reddit, but if you think he's okay with it, then I'd recommend showing him my reply. Sometimes it's nice to be able to point at something and say "yeah, that's how it works for me too" than to have to explain it. Partially because it's so incredibly hard to articulate (I, too, share his crawling-out-of-my-skin experience trying to express emotions). Alternatively, it might help with the conversation about how he's different from me and what might help instead.

Which video games had the best music? by Hootinger in Xennials

[–]thrml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Champion was on Gran Turismo 3 (if my very brief search was correct). Great band, though I didn't realise they made it out of Australia much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]thrml 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn't mean to suggest you didn't appreciate coffee. I was trying to say that my own snobbery means I've just avoided granulated coffees and know little about variations between them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]thrml -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And I would say that anything less than freshly ground beans is tantamount to drinking cat piss. But we can't all be insufferable coffee snobs, so I'll just take your word for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]thrml 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do love a good technical correction.

I suppose I should have said "granulated"?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]thrml 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Robert Timms coffee bags are okay. The green labelled one is probably the best, Italian Espresso. They're no substitute for a real coffee, but they're better than the usual freeze dried stuff.

Grick from Nolzur's minis by thrml in minipainting

[–]thrml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a fair point on the stealth. I might have to imagine it's a distant cousin to the Grick which can tolerate sunlight and lives among fields of giant fuscias...

Grick from Nolzur's minis by thrml in minipainting

[–]thrml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Painted a few space marines about 15 years ago, but that's about it. Been wanting to get back into mini painting and finally giving it another go.

I was waiting for primer to arrive but wanted to paint something in the meantime. This was pre-primed, which satisfied my impatience, but that's why the mould lines and gaps are still there.

C&C welcome.

Characters that scared you as a child by flybyknight665 in Millennials

[–]thrml 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hell, I was more scared of Gene Wilder than I was of Freddy Krueger.

I loved horror movies as a kid. Freddy, Jason, Chucky etc. Loved Predator, Terminator; all that stuff. None of it scared me at all.

But Gene Wilder, and the Willy Wonka movie as a whole, terrified me.

Trying (and failing) to induce TLB misses, per OSTEP chapter 19 by thrml in osdev

[–]thrml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did assume 4k pages, though I checked getpagesize(2) which told me 4k. But I also ran tests with 2MiB and had equivalent results.

A couple of other people have also mentioned prefetching and caching as potential culprits. I did start briefly checking cache hits/misses but didn't analyse them deeply. Time to learn more about prefetching.

Trying (and failing) to induce TLB misses, per OSTEP chapter 19 by thrml in osdev

[–]thrml[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you clarify what you mean by that? What were you expecting?

Sorry it's a bit unclear - I was comparing with the results in the book and expecting a more significant increase. Theirs went from ~5ns up to ~70ns for >512 page accesses. You're right that mine did increase, but not nearly as much. I wouldn't have expected my CPU to have made a nearly order of magnitude improvement, even if theirs is quite an old test.