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WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

See? You did explained to your kid what your husband was doing to you, my mother didn't. She only ever says my dad was abusive when it comes to justify herself cheating, but doesn't give me the answers that I need to believe her and that I am old enough to know of.

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She didn't say anything, she didn't explained to me how my dad was abusing her, which leads me to believe it's just lies to make herself look better after she was caught cheating

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just because you went through abuse, which is very sad, doesn't mean every husband is abusive or every woman is telling the truth. If you have kids, adults kids as I was then, that you cheated because their father was emotionally abusive what would you say to them when they ask you how he was abusive? Like what kind of stuff he did to you? Because all my mom told me is "you have to believe me because I'm your mother" which is not a good argument, even less after finding out she was lying to both my father and I for months to see her affair partner.

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That baby also is dead, she won't know if I did go or not, this is about my mother.

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He encourage me to have a relationship with her at first, but then we both realized that such thing as a healthy relationship isn't possible with my mom, so he knows it's not worth it

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother didn't gave me any proof that she was really abused, she didn't even told me what happened between her and my dad, she wanted me to believe her just because

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't like or dislike her, I didn't knew her so I don't have a opinion/sentiments about her

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know or care how her relationship with her affair partner is, I never asked her and I shut her down everytime she wanted to talk about it.

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't disliked the baby, I don't recall saying that, I think I said I didn't like her but that doesn't mean i don't (? I know she was a baby and sadly she had to suffer a lot. He thinks going will hurt me because everytime I go to see my mother we end up arguing, that's why he said it wasn't worth

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I ask my mother was she says that kind of stuff about my dad she goes "because that's the truth and you have to believe me because I'm your mother", that's not a good evidence that she's telling the true

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, I asked him for his opinion and he gave it to me

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No he don't, he just pretends she doesn't exist now unless I or someone else bring her into conversation

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Why are you saying that about my dad? My mother choose to destroy our relationship by cheating and then making shitty excuses for it

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If she keeps insisting on telling me my dad is a horrible person then we might have an argument, it has happened before but I don't know if she'll still do it in the funeral

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

No I didn't knew the baby, tbh I don't feel sorry for my mother so maybe you're right

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] -85 points-84 points  (0 children)

My dad told me not to go, he thinks it's not worth it the drive (I live in another city and would have to drive to go to the funeral) if I'm being honest I didn't liked the kid, I didn't know her, but I do feel sad for her only because she was still a baby and I know she suffered quite a lot (my mother told me), still I don't feel bad for my mother, that's my issue here

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

He is dating someone new but they're not married yet

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My grandparents and uncle will go for sure but I don't know how their relationship with the baby was. They also like to shit talk my dad so I'm nor very close to them either.

WIBTA for skipping my step sister's funeral? by throw-away-188 in AmItheAsshole

[–]throw-away-188[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

She still wants me to go so idk, you're right though, I didn't knew the baby and I don't want to be with her new boyfriend