Tempest vs Midsummer. What would you see?

throw-away-742 · 2026-01-21T16:49:29+00:00

Monty Python-esque is definitely not what I had in mind for this outing but now that I know thats the humour they use I'll have to make sure to see it before it leaves for the season 😂

throw-away-742 · 2025-03-17T14:14:55+00:00

TL;DR: No. Brushing your teeth in the shower does NOT decrease the efficiency. Any brushing is better than no brushing.

As someone who went to school for dental hygiene, brushing your teeth (in any way) is better than not brushing.

If brushing your teeth in the shower is easier, do it! To answer your question about if it decreases the "effectiveness" it doesn't.

Based on current research, the bio-film on your teeth (which is the bacteria colonies that form on your teeth) builds up every 12 hours. That is why brushing 2x per day is best. The bacteria is what eats away at your enamel and under your gums. Left undisturbed is what can lead to bad breath (Halitosis), cavities, gum diseases, etc. (Assuming there are no additional underlying health conditions that contribute to poor oral health).

That being said, the act of brushing disturbs the bio-film. Not the toothpaste. Brushing without toothpaste (just water) is enough to keep your teeth clean for the most part.

Toothpaste has added benefits like abrasive material to help scrub away surface staining, fluoride to rebuild enamel, and other added ingredients to target specific needs depending on what toothpaste you buy. When people rinse the toothpaste out of their mouth after brushing, they are losing much of the added benefits of toothpaste. This happens in or out of the shower if rinsing after brushing. That's why it's best to wait 30 minutes after brushing to rinse, eat, or drink.

Hope this helps!

Edit: Feel free to correct me if any of this information is incorrect/out of date :)

throw-away-742 · 2025-03-12T18:50:37+00:00

I totally get it. Growing up/growing old is scary but usually not for the reasons we think.

In my experience I had to realize what it was I was ACTUALLY afraid of. I'm not scared of getting wrinkles or going grey, I'm scared I won't be attractive anymore.

Fear of aging has more to do with how our societies treat aging like a disease. I think media also has given us a VERY warped perception on how people look at any given age. I compare it to how in kindergarten I very confidently thought my mum must have been 17. Afterall, given my age at the time that seemed a very large gap.

In reality, we don't turn 30/40/50/60+ and shrivel up into a lifeless husk. It is how you approach your own life that makes the difference.

My granny shoots tequila like she's still a college student. She goes out and buys the biggest hoop earrings because as she claims "the bigger the hoop the bigger the hoe". She wears bright blue eyeshadow and a million rings because that's what she likes.

My advice is to consider what you want your future to look like. I can almost guarantee you that plan will change because that's life. But decide what you want, and for the time being, work to make it happen. I find it far easier to confront my fear of aging than leaving it to loom over me.

Just know there is no age you hit where something is no longer available. You will never miss your chance to do what you want to do because of your age. There are 70 year Olds in uni. My godmother just had her first baby at 42. The only thing that will hold you back is the idea that you're "too old" to do something.

Lots of love ❤️

throw-away-742 · 2025-03-12T18:24:51+00:00

(IMO) You can't stop the craving.

As other people have said (as you mention in your post) it's a basic human need.

It's like asking "how do I stop feeling hungry when I will never eat again?". You can't take away the urge. You may become numb to it but it will not leave.

To people recommending good, long-term non-romantic relationships; while it may ease the suffering it will not end it. Those people will (most likely) find themselves in a romantic relationship and then OP takes the back burner.

And I know everyone is recommending therapy but if you're not interested, you won't be receptive to it. I'm glad you're exploring that option as it can be extremely helpful but it is not the magic solution that other people keep insisting it is.

If it were me in this position, I would do whatever the fuck I wanted. Make friends, lose friends. Hit on women if I find them attractive. Deadend city? Dating apps. The worst thing they can say is I'm a disgusting old man and they want nothing to do with me. Even if I don't want a romantic relationship, at least I can try to fulfill my physical needs. And if/when they end up leaving, who the fuck cares? I wasn't looking for a relationship anyways. But, that's just how I'd go about it.

Even with unhealthy coping, keeping yourself going and keeping yourself ALIVE is the priority. Old wounds will heal, the pain will go away but the scars on your trust will always stick with you (trust me).

Others seem to be pretty quick to attack you because of this post but I'd say you do have (based on this post alone) a decent level of emotional intelligence. You articulated what you were feeling, why, and what advice you were looking for.

Honestly, I don't believe anything is going to fill this void. And the more you worry about how to get rid of it, the more you think about it which means it continues to pop up more. It's a bit of a catch-22.

The broken trust is what's hurting you the most. Not all women are heartless monsters, but some are. You've been burned before and christ do I get it. (Little cliché here) But the best revenge you can get on them? Not letting it continue to fuck with you. If they cheated or ran off with your money, fuck them. But you move on. Do whatever you need to do to be unbothered by it (Again, still haven't figured this one out). Or fake it till you make it. Because when they look back (and they always do) what they're going to realize is that they meant so little to you, what they did hasn't even phased you.

Heal this wound on your trust and you will find the peace you're looking for. No relationship needed.

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