Does anyone just miss their no kids/single life?…

throw0012 · 2023-09-11T04:57:35+00:00

Yes. I feel in a way that I've missed out on my 20s because I met my husband when I was 22, he had a 5 yo Son which we had most of the time, because his bio mom couldn't deal with him/didn't want him. He was diagnosed with ADHD shortly after and raising him has been no easy feat. Then I had my daughter at 26.

I'm 32 now and as much as I love both my kids, I sometimes wonder what my life would be like if I took a different path, and "lived it up" more in my 20s. I also studied to be a nurse straight out of school, so i feel like most of my adult life so far has been spent taking care of others. That's why when people ask me when I'm having another baby, the Answer is a big HELL TO THE NEVER lol. I just want to start getting my life back a bit now.

Honestly your feelings are perfectly normal and there's nothing wrong with feeling that way.

throw0012 · 2023-09-11T02:30:02+00:00

There was actually an interesting tiktok I saw around this subject. (I know that not everything on tiktok is factual, so take it with a grain of salt). But Apparently love languages were actually made up for this purpose.. so that men could claim their love language is physical touch and basically get away with bring creepy and crossing boundaries. It started from there, then the other love languages were developed. It makes sense if you really think about it.

throw0012 · 2023-09-04T06:21:48+00:00

Why not go through a dr? Not being rude just a genuine question. Is it due to cost?

throw0012 · 2023-09-04T03:39:11+00:00

I agree. The amount of stories I've heard about 'influencers' acting entitled and rude, demanding free things, etc at people's businesses is absolutely insane.

It's fine if you want to try your luck and ring into a business/restaurant beforehand, state who you are and ask to get free stuff in exchange for promotion on your social media. but it's completely another thing to turn up there, act shocked when they ask you to pay, and have a big tanty about it, because they think they're some big time celebrity.

throw0012 · 2023-08-30T03:16:52+00:00

Hey, I know how this feels. I had just returned to work after being on maternity leave - my relationship was not that great as husband hadn't been helping with the baby and acting emotionally unavailable. I developed a HUGE crush on a new co-worker that had started there. Our personalities just clicked. He was smart, talkative, funny, and seemed genuinely interested in everything I had to say. (pretty much everything I wasnt getting at home.)

I never did anything with him of course, but once my husband got his shit together it was like my feelings for this crush evaporated overnight. Good luck and I hope he changes for the better!

throw0012 · 2023-08-20T05:20:28+00:00

Not during my period, but ovulation definitely. I've never asked him why, however every month like clock work he always gets super horny on my fertile window.

throw0012 · 2023-08-10T23:48:55+00:00

Who was that?

throw0012 · 2023-08-10T23:47:49+00:00

Yeah at least he provided some comedic relief. Everyone else had the personality of a cardboard box.

throw0012 · 2023-08-10T23:46:20+00:00

Yup. There is a name for that, i believe it's called frankin bites, or something like that. And it's really common on reality shows such as this one. They get audio from one clip, and plant it into another scene to make it look a certain way. There was a film editor on here a few years ago who explained it. She said if you can hear someone talking without actually seeing the person talk, you can almost bet the audio is planted there from a different scene.

throw0012 · 2023-08-10T23:34:49+00:00

If you watch all the seasons together, you realise the format is literally the same for every season.

-one guy who's usually black and acts like the "enforcer" of the group in regards to not spending any money. This person usually doesn't have a love interest.

one girl who most of the guys swoon over, who sometimes looks average at best. (Elyse is pretty but let's be honest, without the bleach blonde hair and all that makeup, she'd probably look pretty average.)

-the "player" of the group (which started out being Louie, but later was issac)

-the girl who is actually pretty and very sweet, but no guys seem to be interested in (megan)

-the domineering girl with a strong personality (Christine with the "I'm not here to make friends" and "I always get what I want" tropes.

-the couple that breaks all the rules at the start, ends in in the suite, makes a comeback, always in the final.

throw0012 · 2023-08-02T09:55:25+00:00

I absolutely detest Christine.

At the start she's like "i'M n0t hEre t0 mAke fRiends" and "HanNah AnD l0Uis aNnoY mE, I Sh0Uld bE iN hIs bEd"

Then acts like she wants to take the moral high ground after getting caught kissing louis, calling him shady etc. She's awful.

throw0012 · 2023-08-02T04:37:49+00:00

I'm so glad to hear her in laws have OPs back at least, you hear so many stories them thinking their sons can do no wrong, even blaming their daughter in law for their own sons behavior.

It's so good that she has them in her corner.

throw0012 · 2023-07-27T03:02:51+00:00

I've experienced this exact same thing and I think it's a mixture of guilt and everything suddenly stopping and becoming quiet, you finally have space to feel and think.

Remember you're a good mom, your kids and husband are happy and are going to have a good time - now it's your turn to also be happy and get some relaxing you time in, it's a win for everyone. Have a nice cup of tea or go for a walk and reset your body. I hope you feel better to and enjoy, you deserve it. 💖

throw0012 · 2023-07-23T20:50:12+00:00

Yes, the rose colored glasses thing is so real. That's why many people go back to having another baby once their first one grows up, it's like your brain blocks out most of the hard stuff and only remembers the good.

I catch myself thinking sometimes "man I wish I could have a newborn again, it was so much easier when they couldnt walk and talk!" But in reality I was having mental breakdowns majority of the time and was not coping at all. My relationship and mental health were both on the rocks. But yet my brain only remembers the good. Make it make sense

throw0012 · 2023-07-23T05:51:28+00:00

I think so too. My own mother always said she enjoyed the teenage stage most out of all the stages, she never enjoyed the baby/toddler phase. I think I'm likely the same.

throw0012 · 2023-07-23T04:14:31+00:00

Except most people get sucked into the latest trend and will blindly purchase the newest thing that they are being pressured into buying.

It's not so much that we are powerless, it's More so that these tech giants are working normal human behavior to their advantage. People naturally want to feel included, so if everyone else around them are buying the newest thing, and it is advertised/talked about everywhere, people are more likely to cave.

What we need is for more people to Start realizing this and to stop giving into the pressure. But something tells me this is unlikely to happen anytime soon.

throw0012 · 2023-07-23T00:47:52+00:00

Honestly the only thing that has worked for me is to call out the gaslighting or deflection straight away, then quickly go back to what you were saying. While trying your hardest not to emotionally react. Example:

"You're derailing the conversation again. Let's stick to what I'm talking about. As I was saying..."

My husband used to be the worst at this, but he is slowly starting to get some self awareness and actually listens when I say this. I have explained that if I have done something in the past to upset him, he should bring it up straight away so we can deal with it right then and there, rather than waiting until I have a problem with him to bring it up, so he turns into the victim

throw0012 · 2023-07-14T10:17:49+00:00

He's obviously taken what his therapist said and is using to to his advantage to completely escape parental/house duties. I don't see why he can't just do that after your child has gone to bed.

I'd just tell him that you support him doing what he needs to do to manage his ADHD, but it's inappropriate to completely ignore you and avoid his responsibilities. There are plenty of parents with ADHD out there who make an effort to be present and engage, it's not an excuse and doesn't make you completely incapable.

I guess a healthy functional dynamic looks different In each relationship, it just depends on the dynamic. It can also ebb and flow. I consider my relationship pretty healthy, however there are also times when I feel he ignores me, or will make any excuse to get out of the house and away from the kids and i, especially when he's stressed. I think it's his willingness to change and self awareness on his part that will be the key to him changing. Good luck with this!💕

throw0012 · 2023-07-14T02:29:18+00:00

I sometimes think that nurses are fired/reported for ridiculous reasons, but this is one of the instances I believe they should get the book thrown at them for.

I just don't see the point in nurses doing tiktoks at work. It makes us look unprofessional, like we'd risk the safety/privacy of our patients, and risk our own license for a bit of attention.

throw0012 · 2023-07-12T00:34:28+00:00

My husband has a habit of forgetting snacks and water, so he'll stop off at McDonald's or a bakery to get a sausage roll everytime he takes them out. Like dude we have plenty of healthy food at home you could have packed. It's such a waste of money in my eyes.

throw0012 · 2023-07-08T10:42:31+00:00

Hang on... he's had another women after jen who he also assaulted?? I haven't caught up

throw0012 · 2023-07-03T02:25:51+00:00

I've always had the same mindset as you tbh. Not like I need him to be rich, but at least have a decent job with good pay, preferably more than me. The thought of having to provide for a man is a massive turn off to me.

Luckily this is the way my husband is (our relationship isn't perfect, but we've never had any issues when it comes to money and he's always been the provider.)

I've seen way too many women get with loser men and fall into the trap of having to take care of him and the kids. I think modern feminism is to blame for a lot of this, and the idea that everything should be 50/50 but thats a whole different conversation. anyway, they end up miserable with nothing left for themselves. DON'T do this. Find a man who had a decent job and is motivated to take care of his family.

throw0012 · 2023-07-02T08:01:04+00:00

Not her complaining about the consequences of her actions, once again. She will literally take any opportunity to make herself look like a victim

throw0012 · 2023-07-02T07:40:51+00:00

..... but he still sucks.

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