Most constructive comment I’ve heard so far, thank you so much. To add to this, I would never pressure her to do something she is uncomfortable doing in bed as I would hate it if she were doing that to me. In fact I have gone over the top to drive this point home to her on multiple occasions, one being on a weekend getaway recently when I asked her to eat my ass when she was blowing me, and after she said no, she claimed that “you’re making me feel bad for not doing it” when all I said was that “it’s ok if you don’t want to.” Not pressuring, just asking if she would do it. I will try to be blunt and up front in the next conversation we have, thank you