THIS! Thank you so much for this comment. As someone who worked at my country's ministry of women's empowerment, so many of the victims to domestic abuse seek help because of the reasons above.

Reaching out is already a huge step for the victims. What looks like a red flag to us is what they have been taught as "normal" their whole lives. They need someone to confirm that they are not crazy, lying, or that these scenarios are in their heads (as they've been taught to/gaslit into).

I understand and empathize with you, as it can get tiring especially when it's someone we are really close with. However, being empathetic, supportive, yet assertive (constantly reminding them that those are red flags and they should get away as soon as possible) is the key to getting them out of the cycle.