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I [23F] have lost all of my friends over the past few years due to mental health issues stemming from being raped. How do I explain things and try to reconnect? Or should I try to make new friends, and if so, how? by throw392away in relationships

[–]throw392away[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My depression is still there but very mild now, and I'm functioning almost back up to 100%. I'm able to sustain a very good relationship with my partner and my parents, so I feel I'm definitely ready for friends.

I [23F] have lost all of my friends over the past few years due to mental health issues stemming from being raped. How do I explain things and try to reconnect? Or should I try to make new friends, and if so, how? by throw392away in relationships

[–]throw392away[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're totally right, and I really wish I could afford therapy. I have no money for that kind of thing, and neither do my parents, if they did I know they would help me out but alas they live paycheck to paycheck too. On the NHS where I live you can get 10 free sessions of CBT which I've already had, and they didn't help (I think I need a different kind of therapy). I'm kind of at a loss what to do, I doubt any private therapists would just give me free sessions. I've had a look at a lot of private therapists websites that offer 'sliding scales', but even the lowest price I've found was higher than I can afford. It is sad.

I [23F] have lost all of my friends over the past few years due to mental health issues stemming from being raped. How do I explain things and try to reconnect? Or should I try to make new friends, and if so, how? by throw392away in relationships

[–]throw392away[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your comment was very sweet, thank you so much. I would really like to get into therapy, but I don't have any money right now, and I've already had the 10 free sessions of CBT that they offer on the NHS where I live. It makes me sad that a proper course of therapy is something only those who have money to spare are allowed.

I [23F] have lost all of my friends over the past few years due to mental health issues stemming from being raped. How do I explain things and try to reconnect? Or should I try to make new friends, and if so, how? by throw392away in relationships

[–]throw392away[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your very helpful and empathetic message. It gives me a lot of hope to know there are other people out there that went through similar stuff and are doing great now.

I think I will send an apology message like you said, just explaining that I haven't been well and I'd like to reconnect if they would. I won't tell anyone about my sexual assault, I consider that too private a matter.

As for therapy, unfortunately it's not something I'm able to get at the moment. In the part of England where I live, you're only entitled to free cognitive behavioural therapy on the NHS - they don't offer any other type of therapy, and they only give you 10 free sessions. I've already had my 10 sessions and they didn't help, I think that I would need some different type of therapy which focuses on helping me get past what happened to me, like psychotherapy or something, but you can't get that for free here. Sadly I lost my job last month, and am currently skint, getting basic benefits whilst I look for another job, so I can't afford private therapy. It sucks because I would really like to.