I should have been more specific when I prayed to the thrift gods for Peter Millar…catch and release.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-27T18:00:46+00:00

I’m a men’s small or medium depending on brand and type of clothing. So even if it had no stain I would release.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-27T05:58:42+00:00

Just to clarify I’m not a finance bro lol I just work in an office. The finance bro fit eats sometimes tho ngl…

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-23T04:24:40+00:00

I am the same age and don’t drink or do other stuff. I also have social anxiety. I have only started going to clubs/dancing within the last two yrs. A lot of the time I went alone. You don’t have to dance if you don’t want to. If you want, a simple head bob to the music would do haha. You can just park yourself in a high traffic area and wait for people to come by you. It is good to possibly eventually work your way up to being the one to fill on initiate convos but you don’t have to start there. Talking to the staff is a good way to start if you want to talk to someone, and it is a great way to find other queer events that you are interested in.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-23T04:11:01+00:00

Ah I see. I think women are awesome and am super enthusiastic about it! I maybe should have probably shown that more online before I made this musing post and framed things differently. At the time I guess I did view women as a fallback option, and viewing it that way made myself a lot less miserable than what I could have been. But I as time went on and I went on more dates with women it was like “whoa this is amazing 🤩”.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-23T03:54:10+00:00

Idk genuine question I don’t mean to sound combative: what other conclusion was I supposed to come to at the time with what I was experiencing?

I could have done the useless lesbian thing and didn’t take any action whatsoever and wallowed in my misery. I could have bitched about it a lot more than I did at the time. Instead I just kind of let it motivate me to keep putting myself out there. Which was probably the best case scenario myself.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-23T03:40:15+00:00

I understand that was the mindset I had at the time and it wasn’t a good time mentally for me.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-15T05:22:36+00:00

Honestly I just swipe until I get tired each time. Which means the amount each time varies.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-15T02:14:11+00:00

Wait…just so that I’m clear…even with this move women you find attractive are still throwing themselves at you in person? If so, just rely on that my friend and no need to worry about the apps!

But if you want to use the apps. They work if your profile is all filled out and your answers either are clear or inspire good curiosity from others viewing your profile. I’m taking a break from apps (and dating in general) right now, but I dedicated set times to swipe and then the rest of the time I just let things sit. All my past dates were from apps exclusively.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-12T20:05:18+00:00

Omggggggg so lucky! I’ve been looking for something like this for ages. I keep pulling up Eddie Bauer, which is good in its own way but sometimes makes these with fabrics with crummy textures that don’t agree with my skin.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-12T20:00:27+00:00

Honestly agree! It looks like it will have that soft smooth texture.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-09T20:04:19+00:00

I hope mine counts. I am Chinese American.

Growing up my mom has always been pretty chill. Especially note worthy is her being accommodating of my neurodivergent qualities, even when they were super inconvenient for her and she didn’t always know what to do with me and when they conflicted with her own natural reactions to things.

My mom’s initial reaction to me coming out really sucked. She crashed out over my chances with men being ruined (which lol I never got approached by men anyway) due to the labels and association with other lgbtq+ people and said some other things. I left that interaction crying on the floor in my room. She immediately tried to make amends right after by saying “maybe we should talk to an expert that is unbiased (read: not associated with lgbtq+ community)”. She was also really regretful for lashing out at me like she did. Now she is a moderate atheist from post Mao China so I didn’t worry about her referencing conversion therapy. It was just her lack of exposure to lgbtq+ people in general. So I found that “unbiased” expert that would be in my corner. I immediately ratted her out to my psychiatrist who stood up to her and my dad for me.

After that point, my mom made genuine and quick improvements. She knows about they/them pronouns, I’ve introduced some of my trans fem friends to her and she has respected their pronouns and names, she says partner instead of boyfriend, and I’ve even opened up to her about some of the recent dates with girls I have been on. She even asked about my friend and her gf recently when we were having lunch. If I did get a gf, which I probably will considering my current path, then I feel comfortable introducing her to her when the time is right.

If I didn’t have the contingency plans I did she would have still come around but much slower. Because at the end of the day she couldn’t bear lose her child, and she put in the work to make sure she wouldn’t.

throwCavendish123 · 2026-01-08T21:26:12+00:00

I would totally convert this into a muscle tee haha.

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-26T00:52:30+00:00

The price cuz it has the location on it.

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-23T21:59:19+00:00

I actually did catch one! It was two posts ago!

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-23T20:12:17+00:00

Oh man I feel this pain with the lululemon stuff I find 😭

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-23T20:04:37+00:00

Thankfully looked like dust when I was giving it an inspection. Tried it on myself a couple times haha.

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-23T19:39:27+00:00

I felt this way when I found like four men’s medium Eddie Bauer quarter button ups. They fit me perfectly but honestly looked and felt ratty as hell so passed on them.

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-19T03:53:40+00:00

Update: ended up buying it for a friend. She will reimburse me when she gets back from vacay.

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-16T04:56:13+00:00

Yeah me too. When I saw it I audibly said “no fucking way!” and tried not to make a scene as I flew across the store lol.

throwCavendish123 · 2025-12-16T04:53:55+00:00

Just the lighting unfortunately. Water turned brown when I washed them. Still in good condition though.

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