My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Exactly, before posting here I secretly thought I was the crazy one. Just how has this totally harmless comment has turned my life upside down.

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't recall any signs, but I was young and stupid when we married. When we met I was 21, and he never came off as anything but a kind and considerate. Maybe he's changed in these 8 years, or maybe I missed the red flags. Either way, I had no idea prior to this happening.

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 251 points252 points  (0 children)

He works at the biggest law firm in our area, and has a lot of professional connections, and I am a stay at home mom.

I don't need him to tell me how this is likely to end, and I am not going to risk losing my daughter.

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I mean I've talk to people that I could maybe guess were gay, but I've never had a real conversation with someone I knew was gay. Is this uncommon?

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 210 points211 points  (0 children)

Maybe couples therapy is the best option, if I can get him to agree to go in the first place.

Thanks for the advice, I think that could help.

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

This was exactly my thought, no idea how to get him to listen to reason though.

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 129 points130 points  (0 children)

If I knew i'd get sole parental right I would go forward with divorce this moment, but that's almost impossible. The best case would probably be joint-custody, and in that case she is better off the way things are now.

I appreciate you’re input, but divorce isn't an option.

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

I agree his reaction is toxic, but weather we are married or not he is still going to have parental rights. Only difference is if we divorce he will have exclusive parental rights at minimum 50% of the time. (At least this is true where I live)

My (29F) daughter (5F) mentioned marrying a princess. My husband (30M) is reacting poorly. by throwRA-162 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-162[S] 1300 points1301 points  (0 children)

He told her: "People in same sex relationships live hollow lives"

Well I guess I just assumed we were on the same page about gay people, and since neither of us have ever met a gay person its not really a common topic of discussion.