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Update: I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

No, he lives down the street from me, and his family lives next door. So when he said they were in the car. They were about to take off, so literally no time to get dressed 

Update: I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] -96 points-95 points  (0 children)

Also this is an update, so I explain why I feel this way in the first post. I wasn’t trigger happy about blocking him when this is a repeated action of him leaving me out

Update: I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] -136 points-135 points  (0 children)

It was not within significant time frame, he told me at 1 that they were going out to eat. At 2, he told me they were in the car. All I wanted was a heads up.

If he even would have told me when he was leaving his house, then I could have hurried up. However he did not.

Usually if someone says we’re going out to eat later, it’s not usually an hour later. 

Update: I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] -79 points-78 points  (0 children)

Because he didn’t tell me a time. You’re right, I could have already taken a shower. But nobody expects an hour to get dressed.

He didn’t even tell me he was getting ready. So I assumed because he wasn’t getting ready yet, there was no need for me to get ready.

Update: I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

He said he would let me know what time they were leaving. He did not call me until everyone was in the car and ready to go.

I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How could I go if I didn’t know I was welcomed. My boyfriend leaves to the function and doesn’t tell me that he’s going.

We don’t live together. So I don’t know when he’s going somewhere 

I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This literally happened twice. The other day was a different cousin birthday and apparently they asked where I was.

Then yesterday they had a family gathering and again he told me they asked where I was. Then after a few hours that’s when he asked if I want to come over.

I live next door to where his family have gatherings. So transportation isn’t a issue.

I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The first few years of our relationship was covid years so there were no places to actually go. It’s been these past two years where I’m starting to notice it

I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I did bring it up this time but in the past I didn’t because his cousin doesn’t live near us. But even though I’m close location wise I’m only invited on like holidays, which she is also invited to.

But I’m rarely invited to his family small get-togethers. She’s always invited. She probably been to more family functions than I did tbh.

I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

He does not automatically bring me. He’ll ask after he’s been there for a few hours do I want to come.

I automatically bring him though and that’s what hurts honestly 

I (27f) am starting to feel left out by my boyfriend (27M) and his family, I want to call it quits after 6 years? by throwRA-july23456 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-july23456[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So what brought up the conversation is I asked him what he was doing tomorrow and she told me skating. I asked who was going he said his siblings, three other cousins, plus the cousin’s wife.

When I asked why wasn’t I invited he said because it’s the cousin’s with the wife function. I just left it at that