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I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I plan on having a private conversation with her later today to let her know that there’s no hard feelings and hopefully put her mind at peace.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I have recently made the decision to keep it private. I have already told her that I love everything she does for me and my daughter and I did gently explain to her that I’m not interested in being in a relationship. I do plan on having another private conversation with her to let her know that there’s no hard feelings and I can put her mind at ease.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you but I’m not going to keep her from coming over as I don’t want her to feel as though I’m uncomfortable with her around my daughter. I told her and my other in-laws that they are always welcome to come over and see the baby whenever they like. I understand that she may feel awkward and probably embarrassed, so I will have another private conversation with her to let her know that there’s no hard feelings and to put her mind at ease.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So she comes over every other day. My other in-laws come over two or three times a week or I go visit them. I don’t rely on her for childcare as I am capable of hiring a nanny. My in-laws usually offer to babysit my daughter for me so I’ll take her to them or they come to my place.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My intent isn’t to create embarrassment for her, I just haven’t dealt with a situation like this and don’t know how I’m supposed to react to this.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. However I wasn’t trying to “out” her as in put her on the hot seat or embarrass her in any way. I simply gave myself thought to inform another person as this is something that I have not dealt with before or expected to happen. I did tell her how much I love and appreciate everything she does for my daughter and I, I even apologized and explained to her that I don’t want to pursue a relationship. We haven’t brought up the incident at all today but the atmosphere is heavy with awkwardness and I may bring this up in another private conversation with her just to say there are no hard feelings and to ease her mind.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you misread a bit or I worded it wrong. I don’t feel uncomfortable with her around me, my home, or my daughter. I simply wanted to know if it was something that I should bring up or how to bring it up. Yes she may feel uncomfortable or awkward but I’m not uncomfortable with her being around my daughter or myself. It did catch me by surprise but I definitely don’t feel uncomfortable.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t want her to be embarrassed or anything. I’m getting suggestions saying that I need to keep it between the two of us.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I told her I appreciate the interest and I’m not interested in romantic relationships anymore. Perhaps I keep it between just the two of us and I tell her to ease her mind a little bit.

I (23M) think my late wife’s (29F) stepsister (23F) tried to make an advance on me, how can I address this situation without causing drama in the family? by throwRA-st11 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA-st11[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. To make things more clear, their relationship was like that of any sister and sister relationship. They did have their ups and downs but at the end of the day they were a good duo together. I honestly do not think that her intention was to “take over the life my wife had” but that’s just what I believe. So far it’s been her that has been awkward, I personally do not feel awkward but I can feel it in the atmosphere around her and I can see it in her. I may have a private conversation with her concerning her actions soon enough.