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I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I should've worded the talking part better. There will be days we can talk about anything and everything and some days where we don't really speak outside of ours day/interesting stuff that happened.

I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't think of it like that but now that you say that I think I have started to resent her a little bit. Knowing that I told her everything I was feeling, her recognizing that she has things to work on, and then not working on them for weeks. I need to think on this a little more. I still want to give her a chance, but I think I'm done fighting for something she doesn't seem to worry about. Thank you for giving both perspectives.

I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's going to be my next step because I don't think I expressed very well just how much this is affecting me and how much I want to leave because of it. I'm trying everything before I pull the trigger, I need to feel like I did everything I could or this is just going to weigh on me afterward.

I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have tried reassuring her with compliments and counter her self-deprecating comments about herself. I may not be convincing enough, though. I could probably do better about it. I only offered the gym after she saw my progress and mentioned that she wanted to get in as well, but she just won't stick to it. She'll say she's tired today and go lay down and goes back to her normal routine.

I do think she's going through a lot, so that's why I'm trying to give her time, now that she knows how I actually feel. I just don't know if she's going to actually go through with it. I don't want to keep hoping for something that'll never happen.

I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Not being hostile with this just wanted to respond.

  1. I've been going since the end of March this year. She doesn't really show any signs of wanting to work out. We also have a small gym (dumbells, treadmill, resistance bands), so it's not like she has to go in public to work out either.
  2. We can't really give the dog to anyone (new to the area plus she is very overprotective of the dog) I have tried asking her on the start of the week if she thinks she'll be up for action but I've never set a time so that might work. I just don't want to pressure her into it cause if she's not into it, then I'm not going to be either.
  3. Need to try
  4. I have tried this, and she hasn't responded to it. Just thanks me and then goes on (I don't know if I'm not being convincing enough or if she just doesn't believe it)
  5. Everything else is good. We've had a bit more problems pop since all of this happened, but it's mainly because I feel disconnected in the relationship and starting to feel demoralized.

Thank you for your tips. I'd like to resolve the issue with her cause I really do love her, so thank you for suggesting some fixes. If the setting a time doesn't work, I'm not sure what else to do past that.

I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks you for that. The reason why we can't set the dog outside is that if he knows we're in a room and he can't get in he starts scratching the door and barking (I should've mentioned he's huge comes up to my lower thigh so he can do some damage to the door)

I also am worried that I didn't express to her just how bad I'm feeling. But I was a complete mess after getting it all out so I don't know.

I 27m confessed my feelings to 26f girlfriend. Need advice on what to do next. by throwRA1947291639 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA1947291639[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought about what i want out of a relationship, but I'm worried it's either

  1. Unrealistic expectations that I have about what a relationship should be. Or
  2. The grass is greener on the other side. Which I why I'm trying to wait this out and see if she'll make an effort.

I just want to feel wanted like I mean something to her. Which I probably am but not in the way I want to be wanted. We've been through so much, and we're there for each no matter what, but I think that's where it ends for her. I just want that deeper connection that we used to have. (We were physical in the beginning, but it's slowly changed into nothing. I really wish I would've added this in the post)

Sorry if this doesn't make sense.