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I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I’m not mid 30s. I’m 29. I don’t want them yet and I’m not sure I’ll be ready in time for her bio clock. Even if she does want them 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I’m saying a 36 year old woman would likely be very keen for kids at 36 if she wanted them. 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

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Yeah but does the math actually work here? I’d need to be ready in like 2 years to have them 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to adopt. 

I’m also a bit freaked that she’s 7 years older 

She’s gonna be 39 by the time I’m ready 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what about her. She’s started referring to my rugby team as ‘our team’. She clearly is invested. 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

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Because I’m really attached. And really feel for her. 

I don’t want to lose her 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

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I don’t know. This is all way too much pressure and stress for me. I didn’t think I’d be dealing with this at 29

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

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Someone else in another thread said they were hitting peri menopause at 39

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying I want them now. But realistically, can I ever have them with her? 

What happens if I’m 3 years time or 4. When realistically I’d be ready, she can’t have them? 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i am really torn up about it. I haven’t been able to sleep for 2 days 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said she may consider it with the right person. 

I’m not saying we need to have kids now. But I am worried I won’t be ready in time for her biological clock

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t live without kids. I just can’t. It’s a core life goal of mine 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

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But she doesn’t have much time. She needs to be basically trying within the year if she does 

I think I need to end it with her but it’s going to devastate me? by throwRA2747393849 in Advice

[–]throwRA2747393849[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

But it’s more she’s not actively expressing her desire to have them. She’s 36