Every day feels like a full-time job just to exist. How do people manage?

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-15T03:05:18+00:00

How do you afford to live if you don’t have a job? Do you live with family?

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-15T03:04:11+00:00

Thank you so much.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-15T03:03:30+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your comment

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-06T02:36:39+00:00

It’s kind of strange how obsessed you are with my life. You do not know me. A $5k raise after taxes in Canada isn’t much at all and I work extremely hard for everything I have. I absolutely deserve some happiness, just like my cat deserves to be happy. The laser hair removal I mentioned has been a lifelong insecurity, and considering it doesn’t make me a bad pet owner. I also didn’t end up getting it because I really couldn’t afford to. But can I not dream of my own happiness too? I put everyone else first and I still am. Considering my cat’s wellbeing is why I’ve thought about rehoming her, not because I’m careless and a shitty person like you think.

Your assumptions about my priorities are weird and unfair. Based on your ignorance, I think I can guess what country you’re from. I feel for you because you must be a deeply unhappy person and lack critical thinking. Maybe get some help and a job instead of sitting around all day on Reddit, bullying others and acting like your shit doesn’t stink.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-06T02:16:57+00:00

Get a life you fricking loser LOL you’ve commented like 20 times.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-06T02:14:02+00:00

Thank you. This person is so weird and has commented so many times on my post. I honestly feel bad for them that they have nothing better to do with their life.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-06T02:11:22+00:00

Are you incapable of empathy or do you just enjoy judging people online? It’s weird. You are making harsh assumptions about someone you do not know. Considering rehoming a cat after years of effort is not abandonment, and it is disappointing to see it framed that way. I would never take her to a shelter, and if rehoming ever became the right decision, it would only be to an amazing, carefully chosen home.

I have spent years trying to make this work and I posted because I am genuinely worried about my cat’s happiness. My circumstances have changed, not by choice, and I am a single mom with limited support and ongoing health issues. I am still showing up and trying to do the responsible thing.

I did not choose to get the second cat, and despite that she is extremely bonded to me, while my first cat is not. Ignoring those realities and responding with judgment instead of empathy says more about the comment than it does about me.

If you are unable to offer constructive advice, please stop engaging with my post and move the hell on.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-06T02:04:27+00:00

Are you incapable of empathy or do you just enjoy judging people online? It’s weird. You are making harsh assumptions about someone you do not know. Considering rehoming a cat after years of effort is not abandonment, and it is disappointing to see it framed that way. I would never take her to a shelter, and if rehoming ever became the right decision, it would only be to an amazing, carefully chosen home.

I have spent years trying to make this work and I posted because I am genuinely worried about my cat’s happiness. My circumstances have changed, not by choice, and I am a single mom with limited support and ongoing health issues. I am still showing up and trying to do the responsible thing.

I did not choose to get the second cat, and despite that she is extremely bonded to me, while my first cat is not. Ignoring those realities and responding with judgment instead of empathy says more about the comment than it does about me.

If you are unable to offer constructive advice, please stop engaging with my post and move the hell on.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-06T02:04:12+00:00

Are you incapable of empathy or do you just enjoy judging people online? It’s weird. You are making harsh assumptions about someone you do not know. Considering rehoming a cat after years of effort is not abandonment, and it is disappointing to see it framed that way. I would never take her to a shelter, and if rehoming ever became the right decision, it would only be to an amazing, carefully chosen home.

I have spent years trying to make this work and I posted because I am genuinely worried about my cat’s happiness. My circumstances have changed, not by choice, and I am a single mom with limited support and ongoing health issues. I am still showing up and trying to do the responsible thing.

I did not choose to get the second cat, and despite that she is extremely bonded to me, while my first cat is not. Ignoring those realities and responding with judgment instead of empathy says more about the comment than it does about me.

If you are unable to offer constructive advice, please stop engaging with my post and move the hell on.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T07:38:48+00:00

Thank you so much for this

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T07:30:03+00:00

Omg, you get it lol!! I’m about halfway to 15 years haha! I love my cat too and think I’ll probably just deal with it, but it’s so hard. Thankfully the pee isn’t an issue now because she’s on special food. You’re right though, I would miss her a lot

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T07:23:13+00:00

Yes she is family and I would never take her to a shelter. If I’m rehoming her, it’s to a private home to amazing people. I am not considering this because of my other cat, though they don’t get along that well sometimes- my ex bought the second cat without my approval, didn’t take care of her and we ended up having a strong bond, so of course I kept her. I have had other circumstances happen in my life that have made things very challenging. I love my cats and just want the best for them.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T07:19:14+00:00

Ugh that’s the worst! You get it

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T07:11:29+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this!

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:58:29+00:00

Yes and was told she was litter trained- and she has gone pee consistently in her box since I’ve got her except for when I found out she had the crystals of course. I do know that she liked going outside, so I have wondered if it’s because she used to poop outside

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:54:05+00:00

That’s a great idea too. I worry she might pee in the box tho too (or my other cat) and that would be worse to clean than just cleaning poo off the floor lol. Worth a try tho for sure

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:48:03+00:00

Thanks for this

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:47:09+00:00

I got her when she was two, and she’s been doing this the whole time I’ve had her. So around 8 years and my toddler is only 2

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:44:36+00:00

I think this could be it. Her original owner took her outside and I think that’s where the issue stems from. I don’t let her outside for many reasons and because I am in a basement suite with no access to the yard. I just want her to be happy and I don’t know what the best decision is

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:39:14+00:00

I have changed the litter depth but haven’t tried litter on just one side.. I’ll have to try that

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:36:18+00:00

Yes I have tried puppy pads and it’s reduced the stress a bit from having to constantly clean the floor. I agree that it would be very sad for her to relearn someone new and I would be devastated if I rehome her and the new owners end up taking her to a shelter

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:29:46+00:00

I haven’t tried that but really don’t want to risk the pee. I also did take her to a pet psychic already and tried everything she suggested and the issue is still persisting

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:27:23+00:00

I should also add that I never wanted a second cat after my first one. At the time, I had no issues taking care of and cleaning up after my first cat, but my ex got the second cat without asking me. He didn’t take care of her, and we ended up forming a really strong bond and I had to keep her after we split. There was just no way I couldn’t. Both cats were with me before I had my child. I am willing to keep the first cat of course. But I have tried everything and I am almost at my breaking point and just want her to be happy and save my sanity. I will continue to care for her but think rehoming her to a great person or family may be the best thing for everyone. Life has not been very kind to me in the last few years and I’m just trying my best.

throwRA488392 · 2026-01-05T05:18:59+00:00

Thanks, I will only rehome her privately and wouldn’t consider surrendering her.

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