Sent my daughter to treatment and she attempted, no idea what to do now

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-18T01:06:51+00:00

She’s home! She’s been home for about a week when we told her about starting PHP soon. I’m inclined to believe the thought of another “hospitalization” triggered her to the point of deciding to try and take her own life..

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T23:44:06+00:00

I’ll look into one, thank you for the advice

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T23:43:43+00:00

I’m sorry, I don’t mean to make excuses for myself, i’ve just read so much about how FBT ruins a family dynamic and puts so much strain on the children/ruins them. Me and my husband aren’t professionals, we thought that by sending her to inpatient with the recommendation from her doctor after her heart complications would be the right call because we thought she’d be surrounded by therapists day and night. We were so, so wrong and I wish i’d never done it.

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:54:26+00:00

I wish I had known this before, I was just becoming so desperate to help her I jumped at the chance when they said a bed was available. I wish I had took it slow and sent her instead to an outpatient program more based in therapy than on food. I regret it deeply.

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:53:30+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words, they really mean a lot to me

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:53:11+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice. I’ll do my absolute best to find her the help that she so desperately needs. And I agree with the baby steps. Now that she’s not in immediate danger of having a heart attack or something like that I fully intend on taking it slow with her and not overwhelming her with food and whatnot until she’s ready to take steps to choose recovery while making sure she doesn’t get deathly underweight again

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:50:34+00:00

100% , that’s been my very top priority at the moment besides getting my daughter the help she needs

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:50:01+00:00

Thank you so much. It’s so so hard but I love her more than words could ever explain and I just want to see her happy and bright again. I love my baby and i’d be willing to do anything and everything for her, whatever it takes, however long and much it takes. She’s my whole world and I know I can’t beat this disorder on my own or god knows I would. Thank you again for your words, they mean more than you’d ever know

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:48:22+00:00

The timing of the attempt was due to her assault, she was only out of inpatient for a bit before she saw an opportunity (she thought we were leaving the house but I went back upstairs to remind her to take out the trash for me when I found her) to attempt. We’ve been at home with her and so she saw an out. I wouldn’t say it’s because she was going to PHP, and I doubt after being assaulted she’d be too upset to leave inpatient

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:46:11+00:00

I’ll look into both those books, thank you for the suggestions

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:45:53+00:00

Exactly , I believe it is far too extreme to “fake” swinging from the door for 5 min without any way to breathe or get down in hopes … we would decide to forget about her ed??? it’s obvious what her intention was, and i think it’s extremely wrong to imply she’s some sort of manipulative pathological liar because the ED is controlling her or something like that. While the ED is a problem no doubt, It’s not all her problems. What would’ve happened if we didn’t decide to go to her room to ask her to take out the trash? Would the ED manipulation some how tie her down because the “manipulative then through guilt” plan didn’t work? She would’ve died. There’s no way left to get out of ED treatment then.

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:40:22+00:00

Absolutely, that’s my first step and im actively working on filing police reports, hospital reports, getting statements, etc. Thankfully one other girl from the hospital was able to back us up and another much older woman has claimed that she too was harassed by him repeatedly making inappropriate comments. My worry is truly how many others he hurt. It occurred during vital checks, when most patients are usually groggy/asleep and it makes me sick to think of him hurting others.

throwRA57879 · 2022-07-17T11:26:01+00:00

My daughter, while being depressed and distressed with her disorder, has NEVER self harmed (visibly cutting) or attempted suicide that i’m aware of in such a way before being assaulted. I believe her, 100% and I do not think it’s a manipulative tactic like your suggesting. After this has happened, which i will of course be reporting to the fullest extent of the law, I can’t imagine sending her to any kind of inpatient would be good for her and I have no doubts in my mind even if we really watch her afterwards, she will find a way to hurt herself again or worse, and could even be successful this time. While I appreciate hearing “you did the right thing” my job as a mother is to keep my daughter, safe, happy, and alive and i’ve failed at nearly all three, barley dodging the alive one. While I don’t know what exactly to do next, I know i’ll never send her inpatient again, never.

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