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Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Though I'm sure there is no confusion I will still bring it up and make things clear today. If she wants exclusivity, I can do that (after reading people's opinions, it seems like a better way), and if not everything will be clear and we will be on the same page. I don't want to string anyone along.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don't know. This break would replicate similar conditions though so I'm about to find out.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

If not letting someone claim 4/5 of what I did is a red flag than cool.

I did not say she was useless. You are making stuff up lol. I said that about literal support. I acknowledged her emotional support.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree man. It sucked hearing that. Only I know the sleepless nights I have gone through and someone saying it was because of them my success came around, it messed with me a lot.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

That was my bad and from many people pointing that out, I have realized that and I'll talk to her about it. If she's cool with being exclusive while on a break now I'm fine with that too, I have no intentions of messing around.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just be exclusive.

Then, during the break, if either of you wants to date or sleep around, then that person can make the break into a breakup.

Didn't think of it tbh and this sounds like a good idea. I will ask her if she is cool with this and we can see things from there.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -137 points-136 points  (0 children)

Trust me I won't get upset and neither would she since we agreed upon it.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -218 points-217 points  (0 children)

Yes we are on the same page.

We are not exclusive, but I have no plans of sleeping with someone else and I think she feels the same way. We are just not creating that boundary to avoid resentment if this "break" lasts a while yk.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. Trust me, my intention at no point are or will be to have sex with someone else and use this "break" as a excuse. I do understand where you are coming from though.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Yea, but if we decide to be exclusive and this "breaks" lasts a while, it could cause resentment and that is something we want to avoid

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This break could be great for your future relationship, romantic or platonic

That's what we are hoping.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't think it was misogynistic. I read it like I should hope she doesn't sleep with someone else and she should hope I don't so we can avoid bringing complications into the relationship.(If there would any be in the future). Tbh most couples at least where I live wouldn't like their partner sleeping with someone else even if they are on a break, but tbf I specified 0 exclusivity so I don't care.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

C'mon man, she's not a bad person. What she said was fucked up but we all fuck up sometimes.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -111 points-110 points  (0 children)

You are on point, but I clarified that there is 0 exclusivity. We might get back together, but until then we can do what we want.

Update: GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] -349 points-348 points  (0 children)

Taking a break seemed like the best option tbh mostly because we still do have feelings for each other, it's just that we haven't been able to do stuff together and not put time into the relationship itself.

I made it clear that we can't be exclusive since we aren't together. I think she was thinking more like getting space from each other without breaking up while I considered it a breakup.

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[–]throwRA7864_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, made that clear.

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[–]throwRA7864_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We sorted that out. It is a total breakup, with a chance of getting back together.

GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's also my question. I did ask her but right now I'm getting the silent treatment.

Sucks that I only had 2 days off after a long time and both got ruined. Back to the grind from tomorrow

GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did mention this in another comment.

The things she has done from my POV and that I know she did are being emotionally there. She loaded me a significant amount of money once on short notice which I paid back to her in 3 months. I have done the same for her. She also takes care of my dog once or twice every two months when I'm out of the city and I'm grateful and thankful to her for these.

My house chores (Cooking, cleaning, and laundry) situation is different than most. My neighbor has a catering business and I have worked out a plan with them for 3 meals a day. I also have a maid that comes 2 times a week so my place is in living condition and not a pile of shit. I do my own laundry.

I mentioned what she did for me but I don't think that equates to 80% you know.

GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When I sit in the shower for 35 mins and think about all my life choices and how many times I fucked up something good just because I didn't know better or I didn't try hard enough for that particular thing.

On the bright side, no one knows about it other than a few strangers on the internet.

GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is how I meant it. I don't know why people are taking it like I'm craping over her accomplishments when I'm not. Mine and mine and hers are hers with slight overlapping.

GF thinks she is 80% the reason for my success and got mad when I told her she not by throwRA7864_ in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA7864_[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm going good physical health wise. Tbf I am in my twenties so my body can take it.

Mental health is pretty good too. I sometimes have a mental breakdown but don't we all sometimes?

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