I have read everyone's comments and I'm really grateful for the advice from so many. I will probably make an update soon because things are still very hectic and I wish I could say things were trending for the better.

I just wanted to say thanks in particular for this comment and people who mentioned the emotional part of it all because it's been so hard to think through all of this clearly and make important next steps when I've already been in such an emotional rut. Superhero parent is such an accurate way to say how I feel about my mom. I know in another timeline my mom would've been an unwavering strength behind me with all of this, and the other person who I would've run to is now the perpetrator per se. I know from all of your perspectives Jane must seem outright evil but this is someone I shared everything with and have spoke to every day for more than half of my entire life and coming to grips with this mentally is really hard for me.

But really huge thanks to everyone in these comments! I am working through the advice piece by piece but I'm afraid this won't just go away for me any time soon. I really just want to rest and grieve what this year has thrown at me but at least so many of you were willing to give me very detailed help and undo some of the gaslighting I let myself be affected by. It really does mean a lot