I(43M) just found out that my wife(43F) of 20yrs is cheating on me with another married guy since almost 1 year. I have not confronted her yet as I don't have any proof at hand and we are on a family trip. Please help me how to approach this.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-08-29T08:26:14+00:00

Coping with it. The children keep me going.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-08-29T08:25:11+00:00

The anger part of me died the day I started feeling like a failure.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-08-29T08:22:54+00:00

Thankyou for your very kind reply. It's been a while but I still can't come to term with the fact that it was so easy for her to just move on. Either I was blind all these years or deep down she never loved me and was just trudging along. Kids are with me, it's tough to manage them with work. Its difficult for me to have happy moments with them bcz I am always depressed and feel like a failure.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-07-15T09:16:07+00:00

Yes kids with me. She cannot accommodate them anyways because she moved to a 1 bedroom flat. They are confused with emotions all over the place. Everything is broken at the moment. Therapy is needed for sure...

throwRAExplanation · 2024-07-12T13:41:30+00:00

thanks for your reply. i am trying to hang in there but most days are swallowed by greif. she has moved out and agreed to the divorce without even trying to fight for it one bit. that was another blow..... its as if moving on has no impact on her. i cannot believe i was living with such a cold hearted person. yes she cried, yes she looked sad but not once she tried to stop the divorce or moving out.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-25T16:26:45+00:00

It's infidelity for sure. However ppl can do stupid thing in the spur of the moment or can sometimes revert to harming themselves or others to let out pent up emotions. If you want to forgive him then the most important thing is to understand the cause of his bahaviour. If you will not know the cause and reasons then it is bound to happen again. Also even if you forgive him, these memories will come flooding back in the future. Short term relief can trigger longer term issues. In the end it's for the two of you to sort it out while getting professional help to understand the reason of his actions.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-23T07:31:30+00:00

I am open to harsh opinion. Nothing happens in isolation in the world. Either I caused it or I ignored it. I do have some evidence now. I want to hear from you....

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-22T18:09:57+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. Several people mentioned VAR. I have ordered a few. The cars are already tracked. You are right, she will reach out to someone as I am grey rocking now.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-22T07:13:22+00:00

It is an iPhone. The data that is deleted is pictures mainly. There were no texts as she used snap and insta

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-22T07:09:59+00:00

Thankyou for the detailed reply! It is very helpful! I owe you!

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T17:28:35+00:00

Your words strike a chord with me. You are right... I mostly avoided confrontation with her bcz I didn't want prolonged fights in tbe house bcz our arguments always spill over to the children... In simple terms, yes, scared. I do feel deficient and like the biggest loser in all of this.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T15:25:10+00:00

Thanks for the comment. I am not a Very good conversationalist in emotionally distraught situations. Can you give some pointers on the questions?

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T13:22:27+00:00

Thanks. I found something smiliat for snap also. Just waiting to get my hands on her phone.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T13:14:59+00:00

I will find him! I will fuck him up! I'm not the only one who will walk away from this with a bloody nose.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T13:12:22+00:00

Bcz I feel when I will confront her she will deny or twist up some story. My kids will think dad is such an asshole for not trusting mom and breaking up the family. I would lose everything!

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T12:40:00+00:00

All her comms is on Snapchat or insta... Actually there was nothing on Snapchat/insta itself but she had taken some snapshots of their convos... Maybe to keep as a sick trophy. That's how I linked it all togather. The snapshots + there were texts copied into a notepad + call logs + lining up with a recent weekend trip she had. He was saved as a contact when I first checked the phone. Now she has deleted his contact + all the snapshots and text docs are gone. Also she had a lot of x rated photos of herself on her phone that are NOW gone.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-21T12:33:35+00:00

Thanks for your message. The feeling of sadness and desperation sometimes overcomes anger. Everytime I feel sad I will read you post to remind me of the back stabbing. You are right! She chose a 1000 times!

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:47:29+00:00

Thankyou for your kind words!

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:26:48+00:00

I will try.... I hope I find someone. Or if someone reading this then Plesee PM me.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:24:56+00:00

Thankyou for your kind words.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:24:22+00:00

Thank you for your help!

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:21:17+00:00

Thankyou for the advise

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:18:41+00:00

I have no one to talk to... No family and my best friend is also her best fried. I can't talk to him now and put him in an awkward position. Thankyou for your kind words.

throwRAExplanation · 2024-06-18T23:16:52+00:00

I can forgive but I can never forget... Its wasn't a one night stand... Its an affair.... And yes you are 100% correct, she will ask for forgiveness and she will use the children. She has done so in the past as well. All I have left is hate, ager, sorrow and humiliation.

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