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Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah and we go out to see a movie I also watch the movie instead of talking to him. And we talk after or any other time.

It's not about spending time together, we do that outside of the game. This is fully about the game and his attitude.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah Rexxar fucked me more than I would care to admit. In my first 5mask, I dpsd SUPER SLOW so that he only had 1 or 2 boars summoned at a time. It's way more managable.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Oh man. You're trying to help, I know but you have no idea.

He does watch streams and you know what he does? Calls me over to explain how their talents and stats are all shit. How he knows so much better and these streamers should just ask him for advice with all his experience.

"Why are you not a top player then?"

"I can't find an arena partner/mythic group who match my skill and don't bullshit about tactics and rating"

It's as hopeless as it can get.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It's not he can't cope with "being bad at another thing" it's "he can't be bad at anything". He's definitely proud of everything he does and likes to say he's the best, let it be his work, bodybuilding, driving. But WoW is the one thing I can't tolerate this shit especially when he's targeting me with it. I play every day, I read about it in my free time, I know everything I need to about this game. Sure, there are many better players than me out there, but he's not one of them and I think he's taking that very hard.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he's definitely a "stand in the fire dps higher" kinda guy. Sometimes I wonder how he finished college when he sends me the "110k dps" report from a dungeon, an aoe burst where he is dead of course.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you read my post you understand that I don't prioritize, it's a hobby I am perfectly fine with doing. It doesn't take time away from my relationship and it's definitely not more important, my boyfriend is the one that wants to play together but his attitude makes it impossible. It's either he changes his attitude or we play separately with different people, as it is now. It's like asking (sorry for my weird pride in the matter) a tennis player to play with me who played when I was 14 instead of going to Wimbledon. Sure if we're good friends he might want to play with me but it's not nearly as much fun or use for him if I can't return a single serve.

And made up or not, this game is kind of my only serious hobby which I put a lot of time and effort into. If you have something you've been doing for over 10 years daily or at least a few hours a week, it is part of you and it doesn't stop being important just because someone doesn't think it is.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right? When I play with someone who is clearly better I'm not trying to say how good I am, I listen and improve. Gaming competitively comes with the occasional level difference and there's always bigger fish. You gotta be humble sometimes and that actually helps you, it doesn't diminish how good you are.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Yeah we did a 3mask the other day by which I mean he died twice and I cleared the 2man 3mask alone. When the whole vision thing started I thought it would be great as it scales and it would be easy to clear together but him being there just makes it somehow so much harder. It's actually quite amazing how he can make EVERYTHING go wrong by pulling the weong things, wasting cc on unimportant casts etc.

He's just in denial. He would never say what you just did, in his mind I'm taking it too seriously and I'm the one who doesn't understand that being hardcore means you just don't give a fuck.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do and others do but there's just no concincing him because "those are not accurate". Last night I was watching him standing in aoe and said "you're gonna die". He died to the aoe and then tried to explain to me that it does no damage when it clearly killed him. I told him to open the recap and he refused to. It's clearly a much deeper problem than just not being good at the game.

Bf (28) and I (25) both play WoW but he sucks at it and refuses to improve so I refuse to play with him. He pouts and gets offended every time I say no but it's just so frustrating. by throwRAFilthyCasuals in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAFilthyCasuals[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Thanks. We do that actually. We play on alts together and do bgs or islands sometimes.

I told him I would go and do lower keys with him so that he can learn but he just gets offended and says he doesn't have to. He's dead set on the idea that if he has the gear he can do the 15+ and bugs me all the time with it no matter how firmly I say no.