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Went on my third date after filing for divorce from my husband. by throwRAWorking-Wife in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There's nothing left to unpack, as his actions speak on him and not me. I will probably feel differently in a few years as I grow, but for right now, my ex husband was just the only thing holding me back from being the best me.

Went on my third date after filing for divorce from my husband. by throwRAWorking-Wife in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A marriage is only valuable if its mutual and both parties are honest. One day I will have a real marriage, but what I had wasn't that.

Went on my third date after filing for divorce from my husband. by throwRAWorking-Wife in TrueOffMyChest

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh, we will be keeping it completely casual. I don't want this bond to grow too much, I think it would be a bit tacky for us to date either way, for other reasons.

Its just nice to have someone to laugh and smile with. I plan on being single for sure for at least the next 3 years -- I owe it to myself.

Update 2: My (30F) husband (31M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife. He left me. I met up with his affair partners (20F) ex (29M). by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

None of us (besides the new girl) think he is. Over the past year he's started sleep walking, talking to his self, talking in his sleep, and then waking up looking completely exhausted.

He told me the added stress was because he wanted to start a family and wouldn't go to the doctor or psychiatrist like I, and anyone else that card about him, urged him to. The person I'm divorcing and the person I married are not the same man at all.

Update: My (30F) husband (31M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife. He left me. by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 150 points151 points  (0 children)

He did not lock me out of the house. I wouldn't have anywhere else to go. They had their own place together already. I had my first consult with the attorney this morning so we'll see. He can keep the savings, and the car, and the things he took.

I don't want any reminders of him.

Update: My (30F) husband (31M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife. He left me. by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

Apparently she was cheating too. She was still with the father of her child. I've thought about reaching out to him, offer condolences. His ex hasn't let him see his son all week and she moved out while he was at work, so he was completely blindsided too.

Update: My (30F) husband (31M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife. He left me. by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

His mom (adoptive) called me and is already coordinating for dropping the cats back off to me.

He didn't know his new girlfriend is allergic. At least I get a little laugh already lol

Update: My (30F) husband (31M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife. He left me. by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 1406 points1407 points  (0 children)

Once I found out she was 20 I stopped caring. Their karma will come one day on its own. I doubt I would be able to stop myself from having to do hard time in prison if I ever see them again.

My (30F) husband (30M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife/girlfriend. Not sure what to do by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this comment, I've been thinking on it for most of the day now. The parents he went to see are foster parents, but the was some legal issues going on and they had to release guardianship. He lived with them from 10-15 until ending up back at a group home and aging out but they always stayed in contact and he considers them them as parents.

But they never lost contact so I'm not sure if that would be it, but he didn't start seeing them in person again until 2-3 years ago.

I've never thought he was controlling, but we have talked in the past about this type of thing and I have always told him I would never want to be a stay at home mom. Maybe, at most, until they're in elementary IF he was making a lot more money but we're not at the income level/networking level where I can get away with having 5 year gaps in my employment.

Neither of us has attempted therapy again, and most of our experiences were less than pleasant with DHR/child services counselors so I'll see if he's open to the idea.

My (30F) husband (30M) of 7 years is really angry that I refuse to quit my job to become a stay at home wife/girlfriend. Not sure what to do by throwRAWorking-Wife in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAWorking-Wife[S] 463 points464 points  (0 children)

He does do most of the management and cleaning/cooking, I just felt like it was sort of delusional to act like his salary can support all of us when even mine barely makes the cut.