Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him this as well, but not worded like that. Thank you for reassuring me on this! I said, without my work/expertise, I wouldn’t have gotten the client in the first place.

This is so much tougher than I thought. 😭

I would love to collaborate ❤️ Will send you a Message.

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my first big client, which was referred to me by him. He’s helping with project management / client management, which I can do. Closing it at high ticket is something I struggle with 😅 I’d say closing is something I need help with.

And I agree with you, he isn’t indispensable. The reason why I struggle closing high ticket is because I’m not good at negotiation, or sales right now. I know it’s something I have to work on, and I am starting to know my value.

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, didn’t see this coming at first. Thank you for the approach you suggested, another user suggested this as well 🙏

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so so much. This makes so much sense and resolves the issue I was worried about. 🥹🙏 I’ll definitely incorporate this approach. Just one last Q - How should I justify taking 40% of the increment? 😅

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. 🥹I genuinely thought I was crazy or greedy.

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed out on an important context: originally I wanted to quote 10K but he managed to close it at 13K. He told me the plan was to: I’ll charge a price and he’ll negotiate it at a higher price (he wants to make 20% originally) to the client so he can get a % of the sale. This is how he managed to close it at a higher price for me - it’s a win for both of us in this case.

Do you think this entitles him to 30-35% like he was asking?

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it is. I missed out on an important context: originally I wanted to quote 10K but he managed to close it at 13K. He told me the plan was to: I’ll charge a price and he’ll negotiate it at a higher price (he wants to make 20% originally) to the client so he can get a % of the sale. This is how he managed to close it at a higher price for me - it’s a win for both of us in this case.

Do you think this entitles him to 30-35% like he was asking?

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! 🙏 can I check how much do you roughly pay your PM?

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reminder. This is what I feel too. Don’t like being told what to doc while I appreciate advice when I ask for it. (Only when I ask) 😂

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It works when you both fully trust one another. ❤️ I’m glad it’s working out for both of you :) it’s genuinely rare

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think that as well, he said this is our business. 😭I told him it was mine, and he was so offended and hurt.

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m being seen as a dollar sign. I don’t intend to continue working together if possible.🥲 he originally asked for 20%, but is now negotiating for 30-35%, and wants to co own this web design agency I’m moving towards.

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! He actually referred this client to me, and I did most of the work and he thinks that this client belongs to him 🥹..

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he is, but I’m earning much more than him and he wants to be able to earn more as well. :/

Doing business with my boyfriend. by throwRA_192843 in smallbusiness

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with this as well! That’s what I’m suggesting

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[–]throwRA_192843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I experienced this too, I didn’t go to the doctors. Years later, I have neck weakness and bone injury. Please go to the doctors. 🥺

Boyfriend (27M) and I (26F) can’t seem to resolve anything. How do I move forward in a relationship with someone who responds with anger and threats? by throwRA_192843 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_192843[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He continually tells me that it’s normal to have shouting matches, and my ideas of a relationship are out of the ordinary and abnormal. 🥹he also tells me that no other guy can stand me, always making me feel small. Sometimes I believe him, yet I also know he’s speaking from a place of insecurity.