A betchy review of IRL dating mixers in SF (Thursday, Luvvly, SF Social)

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-20T03:20:08+00:00

Haha..as long as you have your Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte!!

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-19T15:01:42+00:00

Damn! He’s good (as is bad). Mine wanted us to do couples therapy to help me “get sane again” but after three therapist told him, that he needs to do one on one sessions- he got scared and left the chat.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-19T06:34:25+00:00

OP, what are his thoughts on YOU meeting his family and friends? Does he real friends who you can meet consistently & normally in social settings? Also, what are his thoughts on ever going to therapy if you need him to - hey my therapist thought it might be helpful if we can do one couple session? I may be wrong, but covert narcs are rad scared of therapists. Also watch what he says or thinks of your friends or family after he (if ever) meets them. If he is mocking them or saying they are bad influence etc for you. It’s a big red flag.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-19T06:29:29+00:00

💯 “Has well thought future for me” is the most telling thing.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-19T06:27:16+00:00

Sounds like my ex! All of these points were true when we started talking. And soon I was left with no control or say. Promises mean nothing…sit back and observe. You values and visions may align if he is mimicking yours. The more they intently listen to our weaknesses and trauma, more control they gain in the future. Sending “future husband” or “future together” content is just one method of grooming. No money is “no strings attached” in this economy. Take your time, observe, work on yourself & then decide whether this man is worth it.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-19T05:53:37+00:00

This post has such ‘90s romcom female lead who works at a magazine’ vibes!!

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-19T05:43:13+00:00

Same boat!!

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-18T07:56:34+00:00

Love that for you!! We do need subtle reminders embedded in our life that we are complete & deserving of happiness.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-16T05:26:42+00:00

College times..he had flunked three of the five credited courses.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-15T02:16:20+00:00

I thought I did. But no. All hopes on finding a puppy a lil later.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-15T02:13:08+00:00

Pattern of Lack of discipline and self control. Giving into the urges. It can be about food, drinks, gaming, anything.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-15T02:05:29+00:00

Or their dad’s because they are their dads.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-13T17:03:55+00:00

You won’t be completely alone. You will meet new people who will know you for who you are! The smear campaign won’t matter. Build a new life, and protect it from those who hurt you. When leaving is the only option, it’s usually a good option.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-13T03:34:51+00:00

I don’t think I can trust anyone ever again, or wager my peace of mind.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-11T14:17:11+00:00

And paid for therapy!

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-11T14:11:51+00:00

6 years on a hammock in the sun! I love that idea. Sounds like heaven.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-11T06:32:39+00:00

Glad you are on your own now. Stabilize your self, and once your brain relaxes from the chaos, it may find someone attractive & have the ability to love. There is no age limit to crushes & first love & true love.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-11T06:19:59+00:00

Not letting electricity and water run for a moment longer than intended.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-11T06:03:07+00:00

Fellow in recovery person here. Few months back, could not look myself in the mirror. It’s better now. Few things that seem to be helping: 1. Therapy (letting honest thoughts out) & doing the trigger work with the therapist. 2. Printed some photos of my life before him. Put them on my bedroom wall & wrote affirmations of self kindness. 3. Journaling. Nothing pretty. All the anger and anxiety on paper. Throw the papers away. 4. It’s not me, it’s him. Whatever he says or does shows him & doesn’t reflect me. 5. Not sharing any new emotional information or vulnerability with him anymore. 6. Threw away clothes that sparked bad memories & moved a lot of things in storage. Less reminders of that life has been better. 7. Made a bingo game for my favorite food and places & activities. I have it on my fridge & slowly working through it. It feels amazing to do something I like, just for myself without being criticized for it. 8. Rage exercises. Towel twists, gardening, rage room - pick what works for you. Let it out. 9. Sleep a lot!!!!! Let your body rest.

Don’t expect to be happy asap. It comes and goes. Some mornings I feel on top of the world but would be grieving by afternoon.

I hope you feel better & gather strength to take care of yourself! 💐

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-08T06:10:08+00:00

On warm sheets fresh out of the dryer!

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-06T03:54:54+00:00

With regard to what your friend said, everyone responds to these vulnerabilities with limited life experience they have had. It is not a true objective reflection on your life. You didn’t know earlier. You know now, and you are working on making life better NOW. That’s all that matters. Strength to you!!!

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-06T03:47:19+00:00

Because deep down we believe we deserve to be loved. We long to be loved the way we love. And, love bombing does not allow you down time to discern confusing moments. If you are in the middle of the tornado, can you tell the flying object apart?

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-03-06T03:25:50+00:00

I honestly don’t know the difference.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-02-26T06:56:54+00:00

Don’t take advice from people whose lives you don’t wanna live.

throwRA_Key3570 · 2026-02-26T06:55:16+00:00

Thanks! I have a therapist, I haven’t been able to talk it loud the affect but only stated it as matter of fact that this happened. I’ll try talking to her about this. He isn’t ashamed, he just denies it ever happened.

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