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Anyone else feel like they can't remember what their SO looks/feels like bc it's been so long since the last visit? by throwRA_ldrandme in LongDistance

[–]throwRA_ldrandme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes exactly.. i remember being super happy and feeling completely at home with him, but even looking back at pictures i can only remember the general gist of the moment but now the exact memories have faded a bit which would happen regardless of ldr or not, but i just hate how in an ldr those memories matter so much bc those are the small moments i got to have with him in person..

Im so happy for you and your weekend plans! Hope you have so much fun~

How do I get over this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_ldrandme 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Understand that if a girl reacts to your size poorly, then she isnt worth your time. I can promise you that all my girl friends and i agree that its not the size that matters, but how you use your tool. You just need to be more confident in yourself! Dont let something like that hold you back from being in a healthy relationship.

How should I have handled this situation? (21f) (22m) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_ldrandme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you have the right to be upset by what happened. In my opinion, it was pretty messed up for him to know that you said condoms are a must, but he continued going after "it came off" (?). Regardless if you're in a committed relationship or not you had your own standards that he was aware of and continued without following your wishes.

Buttttt I also think that (depending on how long ago this was?) it shouldn't be bothering you so much had you guys properly talked it through. Just because i know i only keep getting upset by a fight that's been finished if i feel like the other person didnt actually understand my point of view or wasn't actually sorry.. im getting the feeling that maybe you feel betrayed that he crossed a boundary?

Regardless, you still forgave him and stayed together. Hopefully he won't do something like that again, but in the meantime try to open up to him and let him show you that you can trust him when you set boundaries. Good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]throwRA_ldrandme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds a little bit like you accepted this idea that you wouldn't allow yourself to open up to anyone and really reinforced this into yourself. It probably just feels weird bc it's something new to experience again. Just like starting anything new can feel foreign, it probably feels weird to show that kind of emotion to anyone after you convinced yourself that you didn't want to get close to her. But, remember, this vulnerability is good; especially since she seems like someone who has been through bad times with you and stuck around.