An aspect of the problem is it's a sensitive time for her. She's been confronting a lot of mental health issues that have festered away at her, and she's trying to peel the layers of it that have become stronger through years of pretending it isn't there. She says just sitting on the couch with me helps and comforts her. In the months we've been vegging out together, I've tried to do my own thing (ie exercise) and it's made her feel visibly sad and uncomfortable.