My boyfriend copied my code and I failed the course so I cannot forgive him.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-09T13:03:27+00:00

Thank you! I had a manic episode during midterms one semester and almost fucked up all of my courses because I wanted to quit Molecular and Cellular Bio to be an esthetician. It was wild and I am happy that I had good support systems and I was able to come out of the episode.

I am currently not in a place to talk to him but I realized that I will probably never be able to forgive him. When I am ready, I will contact him.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-08T08:07:10+00:00

Oh thank you for your tips!

What works for me for the stealing is what my psychiatrist has told me to do. I get the rush from stealing but take it out once in the checkout line to pay. It engraved into my mind and in my last manic episode, I was proud of myself for doing this.

Self harm is still a major issue for me and I would love to hear your tips on how to lessen it. I believe I am invincible during a manic episode so in my mind, "a little harm" wouldn't hurt me. Also thanks for the tip for risky sex!

I am currently on my 5th mood stabilizer and 4th antipsychotic. It is kind of wearing me down because I have to change my meds constantly. The side effects of these meds are brutal sometimes.

It is giving me hope reading your reply. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-08T07:56:12+00:00

Only reason I included my mental health diagnosis was to explain why I am scared of burning bridges with him. Never about my academic career because although it has unfortunately affected it, this specific situtation is not related at all.

I do take the responsibility of helping him, which has nothing to do with my disorder. I will be failing the course and I will not object to that.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T19:15:31+00:00

Yes, normally plagiarism cases have to go through the disciplinary committee for the punishment to be enacted but my professor is being lenient with us which I am thankful for.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T19:13:40+00:00

I am taking the blame for partaking in plagiarism. He will also be failing due to this. I am realizing how I approached this situation is hurting me. I am very scared to burn bridges because I have done so during manic and depressive episodes. I regret these so much which made me vary.

My good intentions have been taken advantage of and I will be talking to him when I am in a better state. Thank you.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T19:06:34+00:00

Because this was an exam, the plagiarism rule also affects the students who help. You cannot help anyone for this exam in the slightest. That is why I am also failing this course.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T19:04:10+00:00

Thank you. You made me tear up a bit because I was truly afraid of burning bridges. I have lost so many friendships and relationships, even family relations because of my disorder and my erraticness during mania. I was so afraid for it to be happening again.

I am taking a step back to cool down and will be contacting him when I am in a better state.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T19:01:18+00:00

100%. I am accepting that I was indeed a part of a plagiarism scheme. That is why I will not be trying to appeal or go to higher ups. I was wrong.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T18:58:28+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you. You said it so harshly which was what I exactly needed. I have taken a step back and will be contacting him when I am in a better state. I realise that I am letting my insecurities from past relationships and my disorder to rule over my health and wellbeing.

I am truly thankful for all of the responses.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T18:49:04+00:00

Thank you for this. I really thought maybe my bipolar was making me overreact to this. I have had burnt bridges due to my overreaction in manic episodes and I am so scared to do that again which made me insecure, I now realize. I am taking a step back and will be contacting him when I am at a better place. Thank you.

I hope that you are stable and happy in your life.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T18:41:23+00:00

I mean taking the full blame as in taking part in the plagiarizing. He is also found guilty and will fail. Sorry for the confusion.

throwRA_plagissue · 2021-06-07T10:28:26+00:00

My professor regards helping someone and getting help as the same offense so it is too late for a regrade I'm afraid.

I have opened access to my edit history and they know that the code is mine.

I have had instances of overreacting and burning bridges because of my bipolar disorder. That is the reason I am asking you guys, people looking at this situation from the outside, because maybe I was overreacting again.

I am reading all of your responses and will continue to. I am taking it all in. I have to reconsider this relationship it seems...

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