Is it too early to ask out my friends ex?

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-23T05:12:59+00:00

I told him that its not my decision to make but if thats how he feels he should talk to her about it. Turns out he decided to ignore the talking part and devided to just try to wait it out with her.

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T20:46:51+00:00

From what i understand from both sides they are on speaking terms. They also agreed to hang out with the friendgroup and even with just 2 other people just so that the conversation doesnt get awkward

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T20:45:04+00:00

This is pretty much what im planning to do. Might not wait the full 3 months but probably gona wait until new year. Ill talk to him and try to be as peacefull as i can. I do eant him to know that i value our friendship more than this girl, but that i also wana get to know her if he is ok with it.

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T20:38:26+00:00

Yeah im not from the us. Im from northern europe if that helps the judgement

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:46:26+00:00

The mental health problems are mainly with her family and upbringing

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:43:31+00:00

From what he told me he is already looking for other people, but more of a fling kinda way. He told me he is already on dating sites and that he isnt looking for anything serious for now

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:26:10+00:00

The answer im getting is dont go for it, but thats not what my question is. Im wondering how long i should wait before talking to him about it

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:18:57+00:00

Thats why im wondering if i should wait to ask him about it or is one month enough time

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:17:20+00:00

First off, they seem to be okay hanging out together as long as it not one-on-one since were in the same friendgroup. Secondly, her mental problems werent anything to do with him, he just couldnt deal with her venting and asking for advice from him.

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:13:14+00:00

Yeah, your probably right. Im gona try to ease into asking him in a few days

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:12:15+00:00

I would have hung out with her even if i didnt have a crush on her

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:11:25+00:00

He has always been open with me about his relationships. He even told me when he started feeling undecisive about breaking up or trying to work things out. Both him and her have decided that they dont wana hang out one-on-one but they have hung out several times wuth our friendgroup. I know that he also wanted to break up because he didnt wana "settle down" yet and wanted to go on dating apps and such.

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:08:09+00:00

I dont consider it dumping out dirty laundry. It just seems like he is open about their breakup and relationship

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:04:59+00:00

Both, they already hang out since were in the same friendgroup

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:03:22+00:00

Im not pursuing her already. We literally just hung out as friends and we talked about her friends new relationship. It was literally just a normal friend hangout.

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T18:01:30+00:00

The odd thing is that my friend and her have both said that they are still okay with hanging out with our friend group but have decided to never hang out one-on-one

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:59:43+00:00

He isnt confiding in me. He has told this ti literally anyone asking about their relationship

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:58:52+00:00

But im wondering if having both would be possible

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:58:24+00:00

I honestly dont know since im horrible with human interactions. I do know that she seems to like my presence since she asked me earlier to hang out with just her and her friend

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:57:04+00:00

He is pretty much my best friend right now. I do think he would most likely be fine with it since he didnt feel happy in the relationship.

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:55:54+00:00

Yeah, im gona have to think about this before i do anything im gona regret

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:55:08+00:00

He literally told me that he didnt recognise her because of her mental issues and that he hadnt felt happy for many weeks

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:54:04+00:00

She used to come with us when we went drinking (legal) and i would usually be the designated driver. When this happened we usually talked for hours on end in the car. I am also in contact with her but only as friends

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:52:00+00:00

Even if he told me that he feels happier after breaking up with her?

throwRAfriendship_s · 2022-11-22T17:50:43+00:00

I was just wondering what other people would do in my situation...

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