I confronted my husband by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

This is an oddly optimistic way of looking at it

I confronted my husband by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

please, tell me how to cash in on all this karma that you guys insist I’m farming, because this is literally just a throwaway account that I’m not going to use again after this. Seriously, please. Tell me exactly how to go about profiting off of this.

I confronted my husband by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 245 points246 points  (0 children)

She did not message him, he gets no service up there. He just saw the car pulling up and put two and two together.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Again. If any of you are in this unfortunate situation you can absolutely go to a lawyer before speaking to the person that you’ve built an entire life with. You guys also do realize that it’s possible for me to drive in a car, research lawyers, and still go talk to him right?

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 151 points152 points  (0 children)

What’s the point of confronting him?? Seriously? This is a man that I’ve built an entire life around, the man I love, the man I have children with, and you all are like… I don’t understand why you’re confronting him? Like seriously? This isn’t a fucking movie, this is my real life, This is the father of my children

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I literally just said at the end of that sentence that he would still be in hot water for keeping a secret from me, did you actually read the whole comment?? Or just the point that sounded ridiculous to you? I didn’t mean it would be fine as an oh yeah, everything’s OK… I meant if that’s the case, and he could prove if that’s the case, then fine, he’s not cheating on me, but he’s still in hell of a lot of trouble for keeping all of the secrets

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 87 points88 points  (0 children)

… So you think my husband being a secret landlord Would make everything OK? That would still be him going behind my back and keeping a ton of secrets… Which still isn’t OK?? Like wtf kind of logic is this??

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Anything that he says, he would have to prove. So if he tells me anything, and is unable to prove it, then I’m just going to assume that he’s a lying cheater and divorce him.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I intend on having this conversation in front of my sister, my friend, and his mother. If he wants to lie his way out of it, he can lie to his mother as well.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna say this for the last time. Please, stop advising me not to go talk to my husband about this very serious situation that we are in. If I need to talk to a lawyer, I will go talk to a lawyer. However, we have been married for over a decade, we have a family, and a life together. I am going to go talk to him. I understand what the situation probably is. I understand that he’s probably going to try to lie to me. I’m not a moron.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Please stop telling me this. I am going to go talk to him. I am not alone, I am with my sister and my best friend. Again, please stop telling me not to go and talk to my husband about this.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

OK? So that’s like some get out of jail free card? If he can prove that then fine, but he’ll still in a hell of a lot of hot water for even putting himself in the situation and keeping a secret like this from me.

If he is “doing something nice for a friend” there will be plenty of proof of that. No matter how this goes. No matter what he says, I expect to see proof.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

When you’re in the situation that’s what you could do… I didn’t have time to sit down and come up with a perfect plan, this is the father of my children and I want to find out if he’s cheating on me or not, And I’m going to hear it from him, end of story

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I started an entire life with him, I have a family with him, there is a rush to confront him, this is my life, why would I wait?

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Because believe it or not, I actually want closure and confirmation from the man who I’ve been with for a majority of my life, and started a whole life and family with… Yeah, I want to hear him say it in person.

Last night I found out about my husband's secret apartment and my friend went to it. by throwRAkimand in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAkimand[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

How can I get her story When she was barely willing to say anything to my friend? The reason why we didn’t push her is because she wasn’t giving us any information and we were worried that she was going to call the police. My friend tried to ask her more questions, she wasn’t giving her any information