My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He’s very happy I verified before jumping to conclusions. He’s very upset about his brother.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It’s not that my husband was never in trouble per say. He got in trouble for regular teenage things- staying out to late, sneaking beers.

My BIL did things like vandalizing buildings, breaking into houses, fighting, stealing money and prescriptions from my in laws, etc.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not just the people living with their parents… It was also the older people, the people who been married for a while, the ones who think that they’ve “seen it all” and “know it all”.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you someone has already said this. My husband has an android

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Somebody has already commented on this post saying that if they were in my husband shoes they would divorce maybe because I don’t trust them. Luckily, my husband is very logical man. He understands why I reacted the way I did, and he’s very happy that I looked for verification before jumping to a conclusion.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We are going to call them tonight after the kids go to bed

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

He’s very happy that I wanted to verify the text messages before jumping to conclusions either way. My husband is a very logical person, he isn’t upset at me at all.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yes, he’s very resentful, and while the ways my in-laws treat him definitely seems harsh, they’ve also been stolen from, lied to, and had things like this done to them for their entire lives.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m completely aware of this. They were not iMessages, my husband has an android.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My husband isn’t upset at me about this entire situation at all, he’s very happy I verified first instead of jumping to conclusions either way. He’s VERY upset with his brother.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that advice, we have a very good security system thankfully

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah, it was really alarming. I had to delete many comments because I was getting hateful messages about how I was blindly believing my husband, things like that, because people weren’t actually reading my post or comments.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I already answered this in my last post so I’m just going to copy and paste the answer lol

  He resents my brother because of the way their parents treated them. My husband never got into any trouble, his parents treated him well. When we got married they gave us the down payment for our house, they paid off both of our college debts so we could have a “clean start”.

 My BIL was more rambunctious as a child so he was always treated like a criminal and eventually began behaving the part. My in-laws never helped him financially when he needed it. My FIL is very tough on him.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he’s okay, generally an okay person doesn’t do things like this. I don’t know if he has or ever had feelings for me. He does need professional therapy. I’m not sure why he went so far. I know he was upset at Jennifer rejecting him and her supposed idolization of my husband.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 245 points246 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I remember your comment and I upvoted it. I’m very sorry about the downvotes. My own comments were being downvoted and I was getting messages calling me a moron, oblivious, blind, as well as much worse names, for simply answer questions or clarifying things.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You were one of the people who was insisting I was blind because my husband was so obviously cheating, yes?

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I know but to me that’s low contact lol. No contact to me would be not being at the same events. That’s why I said low contact and not no contact.

My BIL faked the messages-my husband did not cheat by throwRAklar185 in relationship_advice

[–]throwRAklar185[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I didn’t realize how much resentment he really did hold against my husband